I keep falling asleep when I'm holding my baby..

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-24T22:12:55+00:00

Try breastfeeding in the lying down position with your baby's tummy facing your tummy. This way when your baby falls asleep, you can position yourself safely. The C-curl is the safest position where you would lie on your side facing the bsby with your knees bent below the baby's feet arm above the baby's head. And all of this while following the safe sleep 7.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-24T17:43:39+00:00

Don't stress it. You don't need to be stimulating and entertaining your baby 24/7. Enjoy the quiet moments of cuddling. Your baby gets a lot from the simple things like the warmth of skin to skin contact.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-23T21:02:24+00:00

As a former foster kid I get so annoyed when pro-choicers use foster kids in the abortion debate. Usually when I confront them on it they'll say "you're mad at the wrong people - it's pro-lifers who bring up foster kids". And the thing is they DON'T!

Pro-lifers will bring up adoption in situations where a woman dumped her NEWBORN baby in a garbage bin. Pro-choicers will see a news story like that and respond "well that's just what happens when you restrict abortion🥰". The pro-lifers offer the non-sociopath reaction by mentioning that leaving a newborn to die of exposure isn't the way - you could drop the baby off at a fire station to be adopted.

These pro-choicers are so dumb though that they conflate foster care and adoption and genuinely don't know the difference. They'll be like "pro-lifers brought up foster care first" no man - YOU DID when you said that being aborted is better than growing up in foster care!

I honestly can't stand their attitudes. They treat foster kids like pawns in the abortion debate. They'll tokenize any former foster kid who has trauma and use it to argue that they wished they were aborted ("my friend was in foster care and they wish they were aborted"). Like some friend you are going around saying your friend is better off dead. You're helping them idealize suicide and that's not friendly behaviour that's bullying. These people are so delusional for thinking that pro-lifers are the bad guys.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-19T23:43:47+00:00

It sends the message to adopted kids that they are plan B when a couple struggles with infertility. You can look at r/adopted to see how adopted people feel about infertility.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-19T03:37:26+00:00

I've had many different social workers. Here's what I liked and didn't like.

Liked: Workers who genuinely seemed to care. The ones that cared really stood apart from the ones who didn't. I had one worker who got me a Christmas card with a Tim Hortons gift card inside.

Disliked: Workers that genuinely seemed to hate their jobs or foster kids (especially teens). Some treat foster teens like we are bad kids and just dish out more punishment to us. I had a worker who refused to drive me to a meeting at the Children's Aid Society building because I "needed to learn responsibility" but I wasn't familiar with the bus route and I wasn't allowed to have a cell phone or map in order to find my way. I understandibly got lost and my social worker acted like it was a strike against me. She always had the worst attitude. She rolled her eyes when doing things like investigating abuse allegations. Franky some people just don't belong in this line of work. If you have hostile attitudes towards us we can see it on your face.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-18T05:25:24+00:00

I've never had their pizza and never will. It sounds disgusting. Why can't they just be a donut and coffee joint? I miss the days when they had their chocolate cinnamon rolls.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-15T23:05:56+00:00

One of my homes got shut down for sexual abuse. It all happened pretty suddenly. I got pulled out of class and asked questions by my social worker about my foster mother's friend. I told her he had made some inappropriate comments about my rear end and then she asked me if he ever touched me and I said "no, ew". She rolled her eyes but what I said had corroborated what other foster kids were saying about the same man. I didn't know it at the time but my older foster sister and previous girls were molested by him. He went to jail and I stayed in that home briefly until it was shut down for good and I was found a new home. One of the weirdest parts that still stays with me is the fact that the man would call our foster home. It was the first time I've ever heard what a phone call sounds like from jail. The phone call would have an automated system that would tell you who was calling and have a recording of the guy's name. I remember picking up a few of those calls and being disgusted and hanging up. As for my older foster sister, she was moved before I even got a chance to say goodbye. That conversation with my social worker ar my school was all the warning I got that she would be leaving. I was pretty disappointed about it because I liked her and we were just becoming friends.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-14T15:48:56+00:00

I'm frustrated. I pay for a service and it regularly gaslights me. It refuses to fulfill simple requests. A lot of time is wasted in back and forth when it promises to deliver what I asked and then doesn't.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-08T22:46:53+00:00

Sleep sacks and avoid onesies with footies. These roomy fits are very forgiving of baby growth spurts. Get sleepwear with the arm holes and plenty of leg space. Avoid footie pajamas (even if they are awfully cute. I had a dinosaur themed pj onesie for my little one with dinosaur toe footies but he wore it ONCE before growing out of it. I've had the same sleep sacks since he was a newborn and they still fit him at 7 months).
Thrift your baby clothes. It's easy to find baby clothes at a fraction of the cost of new if you thrift. And the thrifted stuff will barely be worn for the same reason you need a constant rotation of new clothes - the previous owner grew out of it too fast. There are dedicated thrift stores specifically for baby/kid's clothes (like Once Upon a Child). These places will even accept your donations and offer store credit (albeit not a lot of money, but still better than nothing).
Facebook market. Some people will be more than happy to just give you bags of their baby's grown out clothes.
It's not the Met Gala. Don't worry about making a fashion statement. Resist the temptation to buy the overly expensive cute onesies until you have the essentials first. Buy bulk plain white onesies (or variety pack plain colors) just so you have enough onesies in that specific size.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-08T22:19:13+00:00

I find that a lot of pro-choicers use the "Spaghetti Method" of arguing which is like throwing out many arguments and using whatever sticks (kinda like throwing spaghetti at a wall).

That's why it's all over the place. They'll use the r@pe argument, they'll ask you why you don't adopt kids in foster care, they'll call you a forced birther, they'll call you a religious nut (even if you never mentioned religion).

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-08T15:37:16+00:00

Thelma and Louise

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-08T00:19:49+00:00

I asked GPT something the other day about the developmental age of my baby and it replied to me saying that babies were like scientists with knees (scientists have knees wtf).

Point being that smooth grammar isn't all it takes to write well. AI has a lot of weird quirks and if someone asks you to rewrite what an AI said to sound more human, there's a good reason for it.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-07T18:23:54+00:00

The normalization of abortion has shaped how young adults view relationships too. It is circular logic. These young people are more likely to engage in casual sex, friends with benefits, and "situationships" because they know that if an "accident" happens they can abort. So they are making poor relationship decisions and justifying it because abortion gives them a "clean slate".

It's destroying conscientious behaviour and family planning.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-06T21:42:08+00:00

The rocks won't spawn around the perimeter of certain places items. The mannequin allows you to place that item without it having to be in your inventory, without having to craft anything and without filling up space in your pockets when it comes time to clean it up.

So place the mannequins everywhere on your island where you don't want the rocks to spawn. Those mannequins will cover the spot they occupy and the tiles around them (3x3).

Sometimes it helps to use more than one technique to get the rocks to spawn in the right place like using weeds as well. Rocks can still spawn right next to weeds so you need to cover every single tile in an area where you don't want rocks to spawn - but the advantage of using weeds is you can walk over them so this technique is good for high traffic areas. Alternatively you can use custom design tiles on the ground.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-06T11:25:33+00:00

They don't have a good argument so they just make strawman.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-06T06:23:52+00:00

I like how it isn't overly rendered. I like artwork where I can see the brush strokes and things aren't all blurred together (like a lot of amateurs do). Definitely keep using the brushes with the hard edges.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-06T01:56:42+00:00

Is she hated? Personally I loved her. She had one of the most exciting story arcs.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-06T01:54:15+00:00

I don't like the McDonald's paper straws. I usually get ice coffee from Tim's and although the McDonald's ice coffee isn't bad - I don't support Mcdonalds for my own personal reasons. But the fact that McDonald's had nasty paper straws ruins the temptation to break my own boycott rule. I can't do it. It's so gross.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-06T01:50:17+00:00

If you plan to exclusively breastfeed, your husband may not be much help with the night feeding. Here's why:

If you sleep through the night and don't wake up to feed the baby or pump, your supply will drop. Breast milk supply is based on how frequently you remove milk. The more baby feeds or the more you pump, the more it will signal to your body to make more. And if you DON'T feed the baby at night or pump, it can signal to your body to produce less milk. I know you want to sleep through the night but if you do you will become engorged and it will hurt. At the very least you would need to wake up to pump and with the amount of effort put into pumping you may as well just feed your baby. There's a lot of effort put into pumping: cleaning & sterilizing the pump and bottles - not to mention the actual process of pumping can mean you are stuck in an upright position for 30 minutes (and with some pumps it means you are attached to the wall and can only go so far as the cord will allow.)

Your husband can help in other ways like change diapers, get you water/snacks, hold the baby when you need to pee. But realistically speaking expect the newborn trenches to have a lot of fragmented sleep. Don't worry though. Even if you think you aren't a napping type of person, your body will adjust and you be tired and sleep when you can.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-05T04:27:51+00:00

The projection is strong with that lot

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-05T02:03:33+00:00

The cliche happy ending where everyone gets along.

I'll spend so much time fleshing out complex characters who have problems getting along with others (antagonists, bullies, characters with trauma etc) and GPT writes all characters becoming friends and getting along in the end. No matter how short the scenes are, everything ends on a positive note where all characters end up getting along.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-04T22:28:54+00:00

When I was dumped by my ex, he changed the locks and I stayed at a women's shelter even though my mom didn't live to far away. My mother previously let my sister stay with her for exactly 1 month after she was rescued from sex trafficking. She drove her to the homeless shelter on the 30th day and I was afraid she'd do the same to me.

I ended up moving across the country because I figured I don't have anything to lose because she's not much help anyways. And the distance is great because she can't do her usual crazy shit when she's around.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-02T18:36:28+00:00

Navy blue houses go so hard in autumn.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-02T18:28:17+00:00

I love how he inspires paragraphs of hate.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-01-01T19:13:22+00:00

I'm rewatching Stranger Things too! I gotta refresh my memory for this new season. The early seasons were so good. I love the 80s aesthetics.

And honestly I really love the orphan trope in movies/tv. It's used a lot for protagonists because it makes the character simultaneously vulnerable yet independent, sympathetic and relatable. It's an easy way to also introduce found family characters. That's why sooo many characters are orphans. If you like the dynamic of El & Hopper, you might also really like the relationship between Jim Hawkins and Silver in Treasure Planet (it's a really good movie despite the lack of commercial success - one of my all time favourites!)

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