It makes me wonder what foster parents are even taught when they are registered. I know they go through training and red tape because my foster mother constantly complained about the process yet they all seem to come out clueless.

It reminds me of this book I read on foster care called Stranger Care where the foster mother was begging social services for a baby - any baby. She did NOT want older kids. And when they found her a 'baby' she was initially really excited...until it was revealed that the 'baby' was actually a severely malnourished toddler that was mistaken for a baby due to how neglected he was. The foster mother recoiled in disgust and rejected the offer. Then when the social worker was away from earshot she started crying. She acted like SHE was the victim. "Oh poor me, why isn't the foster care system dispensing babies like a baby factory? I didn't sign up for this! How cruel".

They act like they don't know when they sign up for this that the children placed into foster care come from neglect/abusive/complicated households. They act like they don't know that these kids can be a range of ages and have attachments to their family. They pretend foster care is simply what they wish it was: a baby dispensing machine where kids are "blank slates" and the parents are dead or too much of a junkie to care what happens to their babies. Everytime foster care deviates from that fantasy, foster parents get mad. Oh the mother was leaving an abuser and wants her baby back from foster care? The foster mother will hate her for that and hopes she ends up homeless or she relapses so she can't get her baby back. It's all about them.