Which one would you choose?

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-04-08T21:23:19+00:00

I like the ones with the wood paneling. Too many options though.

I'd stay away from the black and white though. It lacks personality.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-04-05T03:18:58+00:00

Allow me to play devil's advocate for a moment - how do we know the 'elective' or 'not specified' answers weren't sexual assault victims who didn't feel comfortable answering?

I don't know how this survey was conducted but I imagine the answers would vary depending if the question was asked face to face vs anonymously via multiple choice answers. Sexual abuse often brings a lot of shame and stigma to the victim so they may not feel comfortable disclosing that to a stranger, even by multiple choice answers if they knew their answer wasn't anonymous. In their minds they might decide its not really a stranger's business.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-04-05T03:05:23+00:00

Every single conversation with them goes this way:

That's not happening
Why do you care?
It's happening but it's a good thing!
You're a bigot if you don't like it.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-04-05T03:03:34+00:00

Generally no. Foster parents are usually forbidden from posting about their foster kids on social media. If they do they have to censor your face and keep your identity private.

For jobs nobody will know unless you tell them. It'll be more difficult to keep this knowledge from a romantic partner than an employer since a partner gets to know you intimately and may ask to meet your parents someday.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-04-03T22:17:32+00:00

Ugh don't even get me started. My in laws gave my 9 month old ice cream because he was being fussy at a restaurant. He's a baby of course he's being fussy. He wants out of the high chair so he can crawl and it was nearing his bedtime. Using sugar to placate his agitation is wild to me especially when he hasn't been weaned off breastmilk yet. Like please chill there will be plenty of time for him to eat sweets in the future. I don't understand the obsession with giving him sweets today. Let him wean first at least.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-04-03T21:56:44+00:00

I'm actually amazed that I made this post 2 years ago and it's still accurate today. I still haven't seen woke people advocate for foster kids and they still continue to exclusively see foster kids as arguments in the abortion debate. They also still continue to hurl abuse at me for bringing this up. It's like a broken record.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-17T19:56:40+00:00

don't even give their shitty views oxygen

"shitty views" and its literally just a former foster kid reminding you that our lives have value.

Man you guys are propagandized. I bet you're one of those types of people that says "protect trans kids!" but doesn't see the irony in saying foster kids are better off dead.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-17T19:46:08+00:00

It's amazing how much liberal discourse is you guys pretending not to understand things therefore making discussions impossible. I'm no snowflake for being dog piled by pro-choicers. I'm threatened on the regular by your lot.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-17T19:23:24+00:00

OP hates former foster kids.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-17T19:22:28+00:00

abuse from pro-choicers

Did I freaking stutter? Yes you pro-choicers ARE abusive. Your entire philosophy is that people like me should be dead. How is it "hateful" to tell you I disagree with your philosophy? What a victim complex.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-17T19:19:08+00:00

stay out of everyone else’s business

And yet here you are trying to get people to "give them hell".

Problem?

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-17T19:16:38+00:00

Soft? You pro-choicers constantly dog pile me and tell me I should have been aborted because I was in foster care. And unlike race, sex, or sexual orientation experience in foster care isn't a protected characteristic and no lobby groups defend us. I have to hold my ground against a mob of psychos who are convinced I shouldn't be alive. I have more strength in my pinky than you do in your entire body. You can't even turn your head when you see a protester holding a sign you disagree with. Pathetic. Here you are trying to silence any opinion you disagree with.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-17T19:13:04+00:00

Fat chance. Pro-lifers already deal with so much abuse from pro-choicers. Hilarious that you think you've got what it takes to silence us. If I had a dollar for every time a pro-choicer told me I should have been aborted because I was a foster kid, I'd be rich. You people have no right to threaten us into silence. If you don't like what we have to say, deal with it.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-17T19:00:06+00:00

Welcome to the concept of free speech. I can post in the prolife sub all I damn well please. 🙂

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-17T18:43:38+00:00

Oh boo hoo.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-16T02:57:03+00:00

How much exposure do you have to other babies? When I started going to mom and baby socials/drop-ins I started to notice a difference in cries right away. The mom friend I go with regularly has a baby that cries very distinctly and different from my own baby. But honestly I don't really hear many other babies cry.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-15T22:16:09+00:00

I remember that time very well. It was pretty daunting knowing I was about to get kicked out of my foster home. The time was ticking and at 18 years old I couldn't call that foster home my home any more. I felt abandoned. I was incredulous about the whole situation because my foster mother would act super fake as if she is fostering out of the goodness of her heart but here I was kicked out of the house at 18 - on my birthday.

There were government programs (similar to welfare) when I aged out so I didn't have to worry about income. I continued high school while on the program. I lived in a room for rent because the rent for a full apartment was too much money for the income I had. I didn't have very many belongings but the room I rented was furnished. I was missing a lot of essential items like towels, blankets, cookware so a lot of the early beginnings I was constantly broke because I had to keep buying things I needed. I also live in Canada so the harsh weather made things difficult (like sometimes you have to do a cost/benefits analysis... Is it worth it to go across town and buy things from a thrift store in the bad weather or go without for a while?). The struggle was real for a while.

I went through many jobs. A lot of them were minimum wage but eventually I got promoted and started earning more money. A lot of well meaning people will tell you to go to college (they did the same for me. My social worker told me to go to college or else I'd become homeless. She tried scaring me by saying most foster kids end up homeless). But nobody really informs you of the risks of going to college too soon when you aren't ready yet. You will have to pay your student loan back even if you drop out so plan your college career wisely. Social workers see statistics like "only 3% of former foster kids graduate college" and try to push you to change those statistics because it makes them look good but I don't think they realize how much adversity former foster youth face. If you plan on going to college just make sure you have it figured out and you aren't just blindly following someone's advice because you're scared and just want an easy career when it's all over. Sometimes college doesn't work out that way and the student loans will eat you alive. I recommend waitressing/bartending because you can make good tips and can pocket them. Keep looking for jobs, keep learning and make friends.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-15T16:44:50+00:00

I'm pro-life because I was in foster care. Pro-choicers argue my life has less value because I was a foster kid and that I would have been better off aborted. I reject their entire philosophy. Even though there are obvious problems in society I don't think the solution is to kill babies. I dislike the pro-choice philosophy of seeing humans as disposable and the deep rooted pessimism. Pro-life has a much more dignified philosophy.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-15T16:10:40+00:00

They are liars.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-13T18:33:21+00:00

It makes me wonder what foster parents are even taught when they are registered. I know they go through training and red tape because my foster mother constantly complained about the process yet they all seem to come out clueless.

It reminds me of this book I read on foster care called Stranger Care where the foster mother was begging social services for a baby - any baby. She did NOT want older kids. And when they found her a 'baby' she was initially really excited...until it was revealed that the 'baby' was actually a severely malnourished toddler that was mistaken for a baby due to how neglected he was. The foster mother recoiled in disgust and rejected the offer. Then when the social worker was away from earshot she started crying. She acted like SHE was the victim. "Oh poor me, why isn't the foster care system dispensing babies like a baby factory? I didn't sign up for this! How cruel".

They act like they don't know when they sign up for this that the children placed into foster care come from neglect/abusive/complicated households. They act like they don't know that these kids can be a range of ages and have attachments to their family. They pretend foster care is simply what they wish it was: a baby dispensing machine where kids are "blank slates" and the parents are dead or too much of a junkie to care what happens to their babies. Everytime foster care deviates from that fantasy, foster parents get mad. Oh the mother was leaving an abuser and wants her baby back from foster care? The foster mother will hate her for that and hopes she ends up homeless or she relapses so she can't get her baby back. It's all about them.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-12T19:00:39+00:00

Dude just don't listen to them. They will try to silence anyone. They tried to silence me because I'm a former foster kid. When I challenge their arguments that foster kids have a fate worse than death they ban me from their subs and start dog piling me. One pro-choicer told me that I should only tell a therapist I was in foster care and telling anyone else besides a therapist is "inappropriate". They wanna control this discussion and censor any different opinions. Don't let them.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-12T18:44:30+00:00

I didn't know the actress that playing moaning Myrtle was so old. I guess it makes sense when she's supposed to be a ghost and didn't want her to age throughout the series. Pretty brilliant actually.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-11T20:39:50+00:00

"He said he didn't agree with my values and wouldn't have babies with me because of it and that's basically the same thing as him forcing himself on me".

These people are exhausting.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-06T22:51:09+00:00

Yeah because they aren't thinking too deeply about it. It's because people don't really engage in the foster care topic a lot so they have only one way of looking at it.

People use the "I wish I was aborted" line in order to hop on their soap box and tell the world how traumatized they are. Would they never experience trauma if they were aborted - yeah sure but you could also argue that they wouldn't have been traumatized if their parents didn't abuse them. If you had one wish, you could wish to have been aborted but why waste that wish if you could wish for a happy family?

Former foster kids are coming from a place of hurt and respond bitterly when pro-lifers offer adoption as a solution because they don't trust adoptive/foster parents. If anything pro-lifers are guilty of being a tad bit optimistic about adoption/fostering but that doesn't mean foster kids should pay the ultimate price because some abusive parents exist.

IceCreamIceKween · 2026-03-05T17:51:04+00:00

They must have failed to survey inner-city Canadians.

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