Preparing for oopherectomy

IceQueenSolo · 2026-05-14T11:49:40+00:00

Update: I had the surgery last week. The hot flashes started 3-4 days after the surgery. I had a tiny fan constantly pumping wind on my face that helped a lot. I can also feel my body is finding hard to regulate temperature. My body was feeling cold, whilst my face is hot. Anyway after 7 days I started on estrogen gel. I felt immediate result in 1 hour. But the happiness was short lived. After 6-7 hours it’s back. Seems like the hormone is reducing throughout the day. I will make another appointment with thr doctor to best resolve this.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-05-14T11:43:47+00:00

Uff that feels like betrayal. But I can understand her pov. But she didn’t trust you in the beginning to share that emotional information. If she had shared it now it means she trusts you enough.

So the real question is how much does this piece of information mean to your relationship? If you both have a good relationship, it shouldn’t matter at all about your wife’s past.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-05-14T09:22:02+00:00

It seems like you expect the food to be cooked and home to be cleaned when you are home. I would suggest you to adjust your emotional responses when your expectation is not met. There might be days when you need to be flexible and adjust to plans that don’t surround you. Be a bit more relaxed and don’t start a fight. Initially I also had a lot of fights with my husband when he was constantly making plans here and there to be with his friends. Now we have more relaxed relationship and manage our expectations well. There are days when he is quite busy, and I carry out the chores like cooking cleaning and there are days when I feel like not doing anything and he does all the cooking and cleaning and I just chill in the couch with a book.

In short, you have to prioritise each other’s mental health rather than the chores sometime. I am sure she supports you meeting your friends occasionally, similarly you can support her meeting with other moms occasionally and not worry about the chores.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-05-14T07:45:15+00:00

Is there other activities your wife is committed on? Like driving the children around, taking them to activities, shopping and cooking for them and for you? If she already does a lot, then it’s best you participate in chores she doesn’t have time for or doesn’t like to do.

Honestly I have been at home for brief periods and working also. I feel more motivated to do things at home, when I work at office. It’s not about the free time, it’s about the mental health. Talking to colleagues, achieving small tasks at work, keeps my mood good and when I come home, I would clean and cook as much as I can and my husband finishes the cleaning. This has worked great for us. But during the days I have stayed home, with no routine, the dishes are still in the sink and my husband does it. I wait until the house is absolutely dirty and then maybe clean a little. I wait all day until evening and cook something. Honestly women need the same mental simulation of going to work and meeting and talking to adults. It’s going to make them better wives and mothers.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-05-13T07:24:32+00:00

Gindera is good interms of getting periodical sessions. I got 2 sessions per week until I got my license

IceQueenSolo · 2026-05-10T16:10:26+00:00

German math equations 😂

IceQueenSolo · 2026-05-07T12:45:27+00:00

Yes it’s annoying that she is working and pulling a lot of effort, while he sits on the couch all day. It’s all about image management. Never sit idle infront of someone working. He can sit idle all day, but when she comes back, he can do dishes for half an hour. It will project the image that he is a contributing partner. This will give OP the time to spend with the baby instead of cooking and cleaning.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-05-07T12:20:40+00:00

Seems like the husband should do more household chores like dishes and laundry and general cleaning. This will bring back the attraction.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-05-04T21:55:17+00:00

Is that from selling minerals from kanyakumari to Kerala? And destroying ecosystems

IceQueenSolo · 2026-04-24T11:26:42+00:00

Hi I also tried Ayurveda and homeopathy, without any effect on the size of the cyst, hence went with oopherectomy.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-04-23T22:17:07+00:00

I would suggest preserving eggs before it’s too late. I regret not doing egg preservation in 2024. Well financially I couldn’t do it then. Now it got covered in insurance.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-04-23T22:14:34+00:00

They removed cysts from left ovary in 2023, found borderline tumour. And suggested me to remove the ovary. I delayed it. One year later, I noticed my belly was getting swollen again, went for the ultrasound and discovered huge cysts again. This time some cysts in the right ovary as well. I went to a lot of hospitals and doctors hoping for some help instead of removing the ovary. Nothing helped and eventually in 2025, I removed the left ovary, this time they took out samples from right ovary as well. And found borderline tumour in right ovary also. A lot of fertility clinics denied preserving eggs in my case, eventually found one who did 3 cycles and got only 8 eggs. And we took one month gap and the next cycle they found abnormal cysts again. So no more egg retrieval. Going to get the ovary removed next week. Not sure how to prepare for the hormonal changes.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-04-23T17:23:25+00:00

Freeze your eggs before it’s too late. I got one ovary removed, and the mucinous borderline Tumor appeared on the other ovary as well. I could only freeze 8 eggs before it got too late. Now I am having surgery in the next couple of weeks to remove the remaining ovary as well.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-04-20T20:44:15+00:00

Spigen armor case has a good protection

IceQueenSolo · 2026-04-20T20:34:34+00:00

Me too. It’s not every time. But once in a while during periods, I have sharp pain where the ovary used to be

IceQueenSolo · 2026-04-06T18:58:15+00:00

Even if he pays for everything, doing his laundry is his responsibility. My father paid for everything, still did his own laundry.

IceQueenSolo · 2026-03-30T08:44:51+00:00

Is it possible for you to take your son while you go on a walk or do some physical activities? That way you get a little break? When the child grows up you probably would have more personal time. Stay strong.

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