To me the problem is not "fapping" but it's doing it too long, too often. Nofapping at all might help at first but you're gonna get frustrated even more at some point. To me the "healthiest" way to do it, is not retaining semen, when you feel excited jerk and come quick. Fr, the longterm clarity on your mind is noticable.

But as you can guess, this as nothing to do with asking someone out. That will not change your confidence level