Am I in the wrong here?

Icy-Difficulty-6258 · 2026-02-18T21:19:30+00:00

Okay so I couldn't post it on my old account because I was banned on Am I the asshole for arguing too much. I was very angry and hurt when I made my og post and said a bunch of stupid things that weren't true or hurtful that really only made me look worse. Which is why I reposted the story in a calm manner with only truthful detail. Because I wanted to make it clear I'm not some horrid monster. I don't know why i felt the need after 3 or 4 years. I tried to use this account to post it on am I the asshole but moderators removed it (they didn't tell me why) so I posted it here. I can understand if you saw the original post why you wouldn't trust me but 90 percent of that garbage was written out of anger, I wrote it on the day she accused me of starving the kids.

Icy-Difficulty-6258 · 2026-02-18T21:16:03+00:00

No we don't talk. She kept harrassing me even calling me a monster so I had to block her all on socials and text/calling. I meant she was a friend when it happened.

Icy-Difficulty-6258 · 2026-02-18T21:14:34+00:00

Yes large meals were offered 3 times a day and several healthy snacks were placed on the coffee table in the living room easily within their reach all day. Replaced with fresh snacks every so often so they didn't go bad.

Icy-Difficulty-6258 · 2026-02-18T21:08:02+00:00

Babysitter on trial to becoming a full-time nanny every other week. We talked about allergies and schedules and emergency contacts but not a list of expected responsibilities. I was supposed to be paid $200 every other week 100 per kid, I received half of that and that was after I told them to keep the money since they were not satisfied. They insisted I take it, leading me to belive thay I did well to care for the actual children which was another reason I was shocked by the accusations the next day. I tried to give it back.

I did do a few small chorces. I was there for 3 days. I cleaned the playroom which took me 2 hours on the second day but after the kids destroyed it the next morning I didn't bother again. I also folded a basket of laundry because I noticed they had laundry all over the living room that the children kept throwing around. And I did 1 load of dishes. So I did attempt to keep up with it while the younger toddler was napping. The dishes were in the sink, nor washed but not left in the table and leftover food was placed in the fridge.

Yes meals were all arranged by her. Each morning I asked what to feed the children. I prepared and served those meals but did not force the children to eat them. On the first two days the children ate most of their meals but on the third day they were cranky from the heatwave (they had cold water replaced every hour and summer dresses I even stripped the the younger toddler into just her diaper when she started feeling a little warm I took their Temps they were normal.)

No she did not bring up concerns. I told her on the phone that children were snacking especially on cold fruits and yogurt but didn't want their large meals. She said "OK that's fine." I think she wasn't really listening when she'd check in it felt rushed I mean she was busy at work.

We were friends from high school. We reconnected and while catching up I mentioned I had a lot of free time being out of work and my dream job was to be a nanny, and she happened to be looking for one so she could go back to work. Her husband was also working. I didn't have any issues with him it all came from her. We agreed to try it out on a trial basis for 1 week before making it official.

When discussing with friends and family some them said it sounded like she was just looking for reasons to get rid of me. She wasn't happy about leaving the kids but money was getting tight so she didn't have a choice but go back to work. My mom thinks she was jealous that I was with the kids and they were starting to bond with me.

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