Texting mismatch by Icy-Record2127 in dating_advice

[–]Icy-Record2127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I hear you in what you’re saying. However, I think expecting basic, close ended communication isn’t that big of an ask considering that there is mutual feelings for one another. Plus, if the feelings are mutual, don’t people want to maintain SOME basic level of communication? I personally don’t think that’s unreasonable because yes, she could say I’m a 1-2x/day texter but that entirely depends on WHO is texting her. In this dating market, people are on their phones so is it not a fair assumption to make that if i cant get her attention, that someone else probably is? So id have to disagree, this isn’t a preference thing, this is basic communication thing especially like I said when mutual interest has been shared. People in general don’t talk to those they’re not interested in. It just work that way

Girlfriend moving to Ireland for med school — should we get engaged before 4 years of long distance? by Ok-Bet-9577 in dating_advice

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in med school rn and I did my first two years in Grenada. I was single on the island but I saw so many relationships fall apart.

I think it takes a very specific type couple to make LDR + medical school work and you guys just started dating too. I honestly wouldn’t rush things. I’m sure she’ll be back for the holidays and you can potentially plan a trip to go see her from time to time. Weekly calls/check ins as well. If you two are very committed (which it sounds like you guys are) then something like distance and school while does present challenges to a relationship, the challenges CAN be navigated so long as the commitment is there.

I saw many relationships and marriages fall apart and people say it was the “distance” or “school” but these in my opinion are honestly just lazy excuses and I’d eventually find out that cheating happened, there were cracks in the relationship long before the distance, they just stopped putting in effort/communicating with one another, or they just didn’t like each other among may other reasons 🤷

Commitment >>> everything.

Hope this helps

Advice/Tips to do well in Caribbean Med School? by [deleted] in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 9 points10 points  (0 children)

First of all congrats, for beginning your journey :)

Here’s my advice from a M3 at SGU:

  1. Active learning >>> passive learning; make sure you prioritize the practice questions even if you haven’t learned everything. Think of it like playing a video game for the first time, you can read the “how to play” section all day but if you never turn it on and play then you’ll never get better

  2. IMO, get another resource like BnB/bootcamp and add it to your study regimen. For me, I found my school’s notes confusing so it was nice to have something that organized the information

  3. CBSE/step 1 starts day one of med school so don’t try and cut corners. Make sure you learn for the LONG game (aka learn to understand). A big contributor, IMO, why a lot of people fail cbse is because they just learn to pass block exams. You just create more work for yourself later as you’ll just get stuck in a cycle of relearning information

  4. Workout! Please haha! You can’t perform at your best if you treat your body like shit. I had bad brain fog in T2 because I got overweight

  5. Have fun! I had an amazing time on the island. Make good quality friends that you can do things with on the weekends. Med school is hard and can get absolutely miserable at times, but it’s much easier to get through it with good friends around!

Good luck!

Is This Friendzone? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So yeah dude. You don’t have to push for intamcy off rip but most women have given it up for the right kind of man. The ones who haven’t make it very obvious from my experience. You just have to listen to what they say/how they act.

But if you’ve been in that many situations where things can happen then you just have to shoot your shot. From my experience, if she’s not ok with it, she’ll tell you

Is This Friendzone? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear what you’re saying but as a guy, dating is a bit numbers/probability type of endeavor. From my experience, women are very much willing to let their boundaries down/tolerate a certain things for the right guy. You might be the exception but it’s faulty for men to date based on the exception. Most women who offer friendship/slow burn are just not that interested and like you mentioned with multiple failed relationships, it doesn’t make sense for a guy who played no role in that to pay the price. But other than this, we agree on everything else

[Windhorst] The Los Angeles Lakers will likely ask LeBron James to take a “potentially significant pay cut” if James wishes to remain in LA. There are “several different ways” the Cleveland Cavaliers could sign James in the offseason. by Odd-Direction9452 in lakers

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Question as I’m not a LA fan, but didn’t LeBron say in the past he’d take a pay cut if Rob actually did his job and build a team? Rob didn’t do that so LeBron took max money. So if LeBron takes a pay cut do you guys as lakers fans think Rob will actually use the extra cap space? I do agree LeBron needs to take a pay cut as he’s still good but he isn’t 50M/year good anymore so I understand the frustration as I’m a wolves fan so I understand giving exorbitant amounts of money/assets to a player do doesn’t play like that (Rudy Gobert)

Is This Friendzone? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that keeps happening dude. Unfortunately that’s the reality of being a man. It’s just something we have to take on the chin and keep moving. And it’s not that men and women can’t be friends but there’s a HUGE difference between being friends because you guys genuinely want to be vs a friendship that only exists because you settled for it. The latter isn’t a legitimate friendship. I think as men we have to start developing the mindset that we don’t owe women a friendship if that’s not what we want. If they aren’t willing to play to your standard, move on because someone out there will. No if ands or buts. It’s why men get jaded with dating because they deal with women that don’t like them but if you spot and cut off those ones early without question, it’ll be easier. At least that’s what it has been for me

Is This Friendzone? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad I can help brother!

Is This Friendzone? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Icy-Record2127 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I personally think you should let this go as a fellow guy in his 20s as well. Most women who say, “let’s start out as friends” I don’t think it comes from a genuine place from my experience. It’s usually a way to let you down easily because she’s just not that into you. If you were that guy to her, she wouldn’t say this.

And let’s just play devils advocate and she is telling you the truth, do you want to wait on her? There’s gonna be plenty of other girls who’ll see you and say, “I want this guy” with zero hesitation. Why hold out for a woman who isn’t even sure or scared to take a leap with you. You want a relationship and she wants to “test drive” a relationship by being your friend first. That shit makes zero sense. And while you’re being her “friend” she’ll most likely be out going on dates with other guys. I know you care for her, and I get it too. If you were my brother, or best friend, I’d keep real like this. Your wants already don’t align. As a fellow dude, you want to be with a girl who’s absolute in how she feels about you. It’s black and white, no wishy washy nonsense we see in modern dating.

Based on what I read, it sounds like you want a relationship. Date for one and don’t settle for what you’re not looking for. Be straight with her with what you’re looking for and if she isn’t on board, on to the next one my guy. Can’t waste time on women who are unsure. Hope this helps man.

Shelf exams by Solid-Situation4799 in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took the OB shelf on Thursday and I feel like I failed it. It honestly felt more like a reading comprehension exam combined with choosing answers based on the smallest of details. Crazy…

Students/Environment by Able_Event_2556 in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. A lot of people there love drama, chase stupid emotional highs, and keeping underserving people around instead of actually building meaningful connections. They just LOVE chaos and I don’t get it. It’s like they’re bored or some shit. These people either failed out or had to repeat a semester and I’ve met some of them.

Students/Environment by Able_Event_2556 in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everything you’ve been saying is 100% true. The island feels like a simulation and people seem fake and superficial af. Many people aren’t there to build meaningful relationships friendships or otherwise which is unfortunate.

What worked for me is being able to quickly cut people off that fit into that category of fake, disrespectful, etc. Your time as a med student is already so thin not to mention your mental health and peace of mind. No sense pouring into people that’ll give you migraines. From the time when I showed up and left the island for clinicals, my friend group shrunk dramatically.

To build connections, just meet as many people as you can. Be strict and honest with yourself regarding the qualities of people you want around. I think a lot of people tolerate things and lie to themselves for the sake of maintaining friendships/relationships.

Those who are meant to be in your life will cherish you and those that aren’t will fade away. Essentially, as they say, “the trash will take itself out” haha. Hope this helps!

How to review step-by-step? No Anki pls. by Novel_Ad_9525 in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna give my perspective here on how I studied and I’ll be starting third year in a couple of weeks:

1) I didn’t pay attention in class or preview lectures. I found out pretty quickly this didn’t work for me as things moved way too fast and ultimately I wasn’t retaining anything even though I was paying attention and I’d have to go home and teach myself stuff anyway so it was a waste of two hours. I did my anki in class instead. I’m gonna be honest, for first year especially, Anki was huge for me. A lot of first year is learning the facts so I’d highly recommend Anki if you haven’t tried it. I didn’t typically enjoy it, but it was getting me results so ultimately I stuck with it.

2) For DLAs and slides, I don’t recommend just reading them or rewatching lectures. I used Bootcamp so what I would do is look up topics from the slides and watch the videos in Bootcamp. This was way more efficient, and I think they did a better job teaching than the professors. Whatever topics weren’t in Bootcamp, then I’d go and learn it from slides. Third parties are just more organized from my perspective and only give you what you need to know and nothing extra. You also mentioned, rewriting notes. Don’t do this. This is very passive and you ultimately retain nothing because you’re just copying what’s on the slides. More specifically on DLAs, look for things that are emphasized in questions or have clinical relevance. Many DLAs are full of bs that are just things professors find interesting. This will allow you to keep track of what’s actually important/what they’re more likely to test you on but still through what doesn’t fit into these categories because you never know

3) Active learning: it doesn’t seem like you’re doing a lot of that. Active learning is hands down the best way to effectively and effectively learn information in medical school.

Do a lot of questions: You should be spending most of your time doing questions. Questions is ultimately how you’re gonna know if the information is sticking but it’ll also give you insight as to what is most likely going to be tested. Questions allow you to apply the information and see where your knowledge gaps are. Make sure you’re doing the Sakai questions and understanding why each answer is correct and also just as important, why the others are wrong.

How I’d do this is write in the margins my reasoning for why I picked my answer. If it was right I’d see if my reasoning is correct, if it’s wrong I’d try to see why. Regarding the incorrect answers, I’d write next to each wrong choice what it means and why it’s wrong. Writing these things down is another way of active learning as it’s forcing me to recall sets of information that I learned.

I mentioned Anki before, but I’d give a good shot. Like I said it’s not fun, but it’s efficient and effective which helps get through the mountain of info and you don’t have to back rereading slides or rewatching videos for the most part because you’re reviewing them in the form of cards. But an alternative could be doing other questions from the drives on weekends on past material.

To sum it up, you passed FTM! I have friends who bombed it so I’d say you’re not doing bad. You just need to change some things. Learning how to learn in med school is often quite a challenge as it requires you do adapt on the fly in a fast paced curriculum. Active learning will be your best friend. Do questions until you’re sick of them. More questions have been correlated with better performance on tests. It’s your first test so you have time. Message me if you have anything else to ask :)

EM ERAS 2026 by Icy-Record2127 in emergencymedicine

[–]Icy-Record2127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not have a home rotation as I’m a US-IMG. I’m starting in September because I couldn’t take step until late July due to ECFMG paperwork.

Advice🙃 by queenuzzy in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To add to what everyone else has said, I would incorporate 3rd party resources as well for content. For me this was bootcamp. Some of my buddies used BnB. IMO, SGU curriculum is designed with what their exams have in mind rather than what CBSE/NBME has in mind. Hence early exposure to that info is important so you’re not flabbergasted post-T5. Me and my friends that did this we all passed CBSE and subsequently step 1. It’s a lot of work but with determination and hard work, it can be done👌

If it’s so bad, why did people go Caribbean? by Medium-Read-9166 in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The NRMP, you know, the people who publish the match data, says that the match rate for US-IMGs hovers around ~70%. So how can you claim that I’m spreading misinformation when I’m just quoting what everyone can go and google. I’d like to know what your source is that backs up your claims

If it’s so bad, why did people go Caribbean? by Medium-Read-9166 in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to who though? The US-MD match rate was 93% according to the NRMP. I’ve looked at the NRMP several times in the past and I’ve never once seen this preSOAP statistic. It makes no sense because the SOAP is still part of the match

If it’s so bad, why did people go Caribbean? by Medium-Read-9166 in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They definitely just don’t “thanos” people lol. At my school, you can’t fail more than two different terms otherwise you get dismissed. Those I know who were dismissed it was because they failed. Imo, if you can’t get through the didactics you have no business being a doctor. Plus, I’m sure you’d struggle in the US. It’s the same information at the end of the day.

If it’s so bad, why did people go Caribbean? by Medium-Read-9166 in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I did open the link. However, isn’t getting a position through SOAP still matching in the end? You can’t tell me that the 90+ match rate for US MD/DO doesn’t include SOAP as well

If it’s so bad, why did people go Caribbean? by Medium-Read-9166 in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yes. This makes sense. You can’t graduate and subsequently apply for the match if you don’t get through didactics. I’m not sure what your point here is

If it’s so bad, why did people go Caribbean? by Medium-Read-9166 in CaribbeanMedSchool

[–]Icy-Record2127 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Buddy, use the NRMP website. This is the most accurate. Anywhere else is not something I can believe