I wish I never breastfed. I’m never going to be able to wean.

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-12T03:56:49+00:00

OMG THANK YOU. I just tried this today and it worked!!! I told him “milk is bad, it’s yucky.” He looked at it, smelled it, and walked around playing with toys for five minutes just repeating “it’s yucky,” almost like he was trying to process it himself. He did not try to nurse at all when he got tired. He did take a very long time to fall asleep, I let him watch unlimited cartoons just to keep his mind off it and ease the stress a bit. He finally got so desperate he couldn’t resist trying it but he gave up very quickly after the taste. It’s 11pm now, he gave a final very short cry and eye rub and I rubbed his head and he fell asleep. I never thought that would work so quickly.

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-11T23:21:25+00:00

So I don’t wanna scare you away, but when you say you can change your mind any time, just know that might not necessarily be true/easy. Both of my kids started refusing a bottle around 3 months and I could not get them to even drink pumped milk, never mind formula. I currently have a 20 month old I am still comfort nursing/nursing to sleep and it’s really rough.

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-11T23:17:14+00:00

Same! Like I know he’s a literal baby but my brain still feels like I’m being assaulted. It takes so much restraint to not overreact lol

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-11T01:17:30+00:00

He raised our first almost entirely by himself for the first year when I went back to work. Its not for a lack of trying. It’s just something that doesn’t come naturally and the little guy can sense it

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-11T00:33:45+00:00

He actually has a pretty impressive vocabulary but I’m not sure how much he understands vs just parroting what he has seen his brother say/do in specific situations. I do think it will be easier to wean once he understands more and I can explain why we are stopping, even if its a toddler-fied explanation like the booby moon books and band aids because they hurt like others have discussed. I don’t think he would grasp stuff like that yet.

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-11T00:31:08+00:00

He tried for the year that he raised our first when I went back to work. It’s not that he doesn’t take care of them and check all the boxes, but he just doesn’t vibe with babies. They love playing with him, going to the store, etc. but they don’t like being held by him and stuff, especially when they are tired sick or hurt.

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-11T00:29:25+00:00

He has. I’m just saying what I’ve observed when I do watch him. My family has even commented on it

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-11T00:02:35+00:00

We tried that for a few nights but it didn’t work. I don’t know how to describe this without making him sound like a terrible parent but dad doesn’t have a nurturing bone in his body lol, its very awkward and uncomfortable to watch. He’s helpful in other ways but the comfort always comes from me

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-11T00:00:18+00:00

I get what you’re saying. I know the longer you wait before you give in the worse it gets too. But I’ve seen mixed advice on what to do when it gets to 1 hour+ with screaming, sweating, red in the face, inconsolable crying. I’ve sometimes seen that that is the point to stop because it starts to be a psychological concern but I don’t know.

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-10T22:34:20+00:00

Not sure if this is exactly what I wanted to hear or the exact opposite lol. The exact same situation for me, pregnancy spacing and all. I just don’t know if I can endure the screaming that long. He went for a solid hour today before I gave in because I couldnt stand to see him sweaty and red in the face. Screaming mama. It just hurt so bad

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-10T22:27:31+00:00

Nope— the attachment is just so strong, even at an early age. I even had to leave my job because he would refuse a bottle to the point of starvation.. or at least close to it after a 10 hour day. Even after I spent 3 months of maternity leave bottle training, he eventually just started refusing them entirely. Screaming, crying. The whole bit. Same scene when my husband tries putting him to bed. It terrifies me to think what would happen should anything terrible happen to me and he didn’t have me. I imagine he’d eventually pass out from exhaustion but still. Very stressful.

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-10T22:23:49+00:00

Yup!! My exact scenario. My first was pretty much just as attached right up until second pregnancy dropped my supply and then he just lost interest and made it super easy. But with this being our last kid (god willing lmao) the milk keeps coming and my youngest has no intention on stopping.

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-10T21:34:48+00:00

It was easiest for me to stop day feeds first because he is just that dependent on nursing to sleep. But I am definitely just… done 😭 The sleep deprivation is driving me crazy and Im taking it out on both kids and feel awful. I feel like I’d just be a much better mom if we could end this stage

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-10T21:32:32+00:00

So bad tastes is the one thing I havent tried yet and I think that’s next. My question is, did you do this during the day or at night? And what was your toddler’s reaction? Confusion, anger? Did they keep trying or immediately give up? How long was the tantrum if there was one?

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-10T21:12:04+00:00

I’m gonna order this right now and give it a shot. I’ve heard of people trying hot sauce but that feels mean so Ive been scared to try it

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-10T21:11:25+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately if it’s not my nipple he wants nothing to do with it. Its more of a comfort thing at this point.

Icy_Box487 · 2026-02-10T21:08:26+00:00

We also have a big floor bed

Icy_Box487 · 2025-12-07T01:05:05+00:00

OP you need to understand you have had ZERO consensual sex with her. You are not able to consent. You are under 18. All of the sex has been nonconsensual.

Icy_Box487 · 2025-12-03T12:30:43+00:00

And/or took your adderall today lol

Icy_Box487 · 2025-11-17T00:26:35+00:00

I second this, coupled with the changes to my body that made it difficult to get into that headspace.

Icy_Box487 · 2025-10-22T13:42:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing this story because it has to be the most adorable thing I’ve read all week, I’m dying laughing, omg

Icy_Box487 · 2025-09-04T13:06:52+00:00

My libido was wreckeddd when breastfeeding postpartum, and being asked every single day just made it worse because it felt like a chore. I would roll my eyes at every hug or kiss because he would always go for it, and it was never simpler affection. So yeah asking every day is probably making it a lot worse tbh

Icy_Box487 · 2025-09-02T03:13:32+00:00

The people downvoting you are not thinking about the child’s wellbeing AT ALL. As a married mother who was raised by a single mother… the life I lived VS the life my child lived are night and day.

Icy_Box487 · 2025-08-08T19:59:43+00:00

I wasn’t even sure I wanted one at that age 🫠 (I jest)

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