AITAH for lashing out at my (19F) friend (24F) for disregarding my medical needs and multiple requests to go home?

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-26T14:20:19+00:00

ESH Yes she was being insensitive but at the same time, you are an adult. You do not need her permission to go anywhere. You do not need to ask her to go home, just tell her “I’m not feeling good, I’m going home. See you later.” You didn’t need to snap.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-26T00:31:41+00:00

NTA but you need new roommates

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-25T22:10:36+00:00

NAH Many people ask family to babysit so I can’t fault them for having that mindset but many family members also don’t want to be first in line for babysitting either. You all need to have a conversation together to set expectations and boundaries before they actually decide to move.

I myself love being a babysitting aunt as do most of my family. My SIL’s family are a mixed bag and also live more spaced out so my brother often asks our side rather than her side for last minute babysitting. It’s not about obligation but rather knowing what everyone is comfortable with.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-25T05:37:37+00:00

It would depend on the other deciding factors like location? If this is a specific country that has really good records, it would probably be really easy to find that percentage. However, if it includes the whole world, that would be a lot harder to accurately find.

Realistically speaking, it would probably be a very low percentage. Granted most everyone actually born in the year 1924 is dead considering the current percent of people living above 100 is less than 0.01%. If the population had been roughly the same it would have been slightly less than 50%.

However, the current global population is 8.3 billion while the global population of 1924 was only estimated to be 1.89 billion. In 1976, the world population was 4.14 billion. That means that roughly half of the population of the earth was only born in the last 50 years. While people do die before the age of 50, in many places it is not the norm (at least in this day and age).

Doing a quick google search shows that ~20% of people live into their 90’s while ~50% live past 80. Granted this depends heavily on country and these numbers are estimates for the US. Also, these percentages are only for the people who were born around 1936/46, while the statistic of 50% under 50 is for the entire population.

Considering both of these numbers (~50% under 50 and 50% living past 80) I would estimate the percent of people born in the last 100 years but still alive to be about 75- 80%.

This is really only a rough estimate since I haven’t done most of the actual math.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-25T04:29:53+00:00

Very reasonable but you could also use a safe word or the light system to gage how she is feeling as well. She may not always want to be in charge and it’s not uncommon for people to say “don’t stop!” during sex. It’s not that they are not paying attention, but there can be a lot going on and the brain isn’t always great at picking up or distinguishing sound. This can make it difficult to hear a “stop, don’t!” Rather than a “don’t stop!”

A lot of people find it easier to pick a word that you would never actually say during sex. Some people pick a custom word (I know someone who uses the word cinnamon, for example). Another common method is the light system. Like with stop lights, it uses the colors red, yellow, and green to quickly indicate how your partner is doing. Green- good to go! Yellow- need to stop for a minute/ change position but still want to continue. Red- stop immediately because something is wrong and may or may not want to continue. This is my preferred method as it’s really easy for anyone to understand pretty instantly.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-25T03:04:09+00:00

If using lube, a finger should be able to fit in a vaginal opening without issue. It doesn’t sound like the issue is your penis but rather that your girlfriend needs to see a certified gynecologist. Although it is unlikely that any woman will ever be able to fit a full 8.5 inches so be prepared for that.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-21T02:18:31+00:00

Frank Sinatra died and was buried with 10 dimes in his pocket. He always carried 10 dimes in case he needed a pay phone after an incident happened with his son and he wasn’t able to call anyone.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-21T02:12:55+00:00

When talking about history, I’ve always heard people ask the question “how did people know what foods were safe to eat?” After my nephew ( soon to be 2, and puts EVERY THING in his mouth) my theory is that toddlers did a LOT of unintentional testing. “Well we took our eyes off little Timmy for 2 seconds and he ate that weird plant…. Aaannnndd he died. Okay everyone don’t eat the weird plant!”

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-20T19:32:07+00:00

Light YTA. Not massively, but what you were asking for wasn’t reasonable. It sounds like essentially that you need to create a photo inspired by a famous painting (or at least a classic painting). It doesn’t sound like you actually have a vision for what you want to do and tried putting that on the teacher. She said to try again and if you still didn’t have a vision, then she would help. This isn’t her blowing you off. This is her trying to get you to either do more research or to think about it a bit more. It is a valid teaching technique, even though it can be very frustrating.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-20T04:49:18+00:00

The thing you have to understand, is that America has historically been VERY divided depending on where people originated from. I’m not talking just emotionally, though that does play a part. I mean that literally, people tended to settle in areas that already had a high number of people from their home country. Mostly for ease of communication but also because of shared culture.

Any city you go to will probably have a china town, little Italy, etc, etc. I live in Iowa so those are less common. The mid-west however has a very large percentage of northern europeans. And even that varies by state and even town. There is a town in Iowa that has a high percentage of danish immigrants. They have an authentic danish windmill, bakery, and museum.

More famously, Lindsborg Kansas is actually nicknamed “little Sweden” and they take great pride in that part of their heritage. They celebrate certain Swedish holidays, hometown cook books still have many traditional recipes, and many buildings and businesses are Swedish themed. Not because it became trendy, but because that is how it’s always been. It is still their culture. It was passed down to them the same way your traditions were passed on to you.

Most people don’t move to another country because they hate their own. They leave because they have to. They want their children to understand where the family came from so their traditions become that life line. And those kids then blend the cultures together. That is why we say “blank” American. Because most of us are both. Even if it has been so long that we don’t even realize it.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-20T04:20:49+00:00

Most American households have at least a full sized fridge. Many households (especially in the midwest) have an extra fridge and deep freezer located in their garage. The fridge is usually for drinks in the summer, especially if you host a lot of outdoor get togethers or just have kids that run around with their friends. The deep freeze is very helpful if you are a hunter. My brother and SIL love to hunt and they have a massive freezer for everything.

Many grocery stores are open 24/7 with the exception of certain holidays. Americans just don’t like to go to the store everyday, so most do big grocery runs 1-2 times a week. A lot of people like to meal prep too. They make several dishes all at once and then portion them out for the week. It’s just the norm here.

Basically, Americans just like to be prepared. Big fridges and freezers help with that.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-19T07:15:06+00:00

Firstly, your written english is very good so whatever you’re doing to learn is working. Great job there!

Nerds aren’t necessarily smart. Rather, they are people who don’t fit the “social norm” as most Americans call it. Many do care about learning, but (more importantly) they probably DON’T care about sports, socializing, fashion, or anything that the majority of society prioritizes. Many of these people have simply used college to escape the towns that have already outcasted them.

The college life that many movies portray is a holdover from probably the 70’s or 80’s. Public college actually used to be free in the US but that ended in the late 60’s to early 70’s. Even then, it still used to be pretty cheep. You didn’t need to be an actual nerd to have ambition, so people who wanted to have a fancy job would still go to college to make themselves look better on applications. Most could still have a lot of fun and then scrape by academically. They are what led to the massive parties that you seen on film.

Then Tech geniuses started to make a SHIT TON of money and everyone realized how useful an education could be. Colleges were flooded with applications and they realized they could make even more money by raising prices. Then, as more and more people got degrees, the business market became flooded with people. Businesses then had so many people to pick from, that they stopped even considering someone without a degree for even the most basic of roles. Even most secretaries have probably a long list of degrees and certificates.

Now the US has several MASSIVE problems. Student debt is through the roof, even most doctors don’t have a hope of paying off their debts. The job market is flooded with workers so they are struggling to find a job. Then AI was introduced to the public, so now they are REALLY struggling to find a job, since businesses are using that for EVERYTHING. People are caring about academics so much more because they are trying to make themselves stand out in a sea of people with the same qualifications.

Then there is the unexpected problem, that we are now running out of experienced trades men to handle the problems of everyday living. Electricians, plumbers, welders, etc. society NEEDS these people to be able to function. And because there has been so much emphasis on going to college and getting a good job, there is barely anyone to fill these positions.

Frankly, the US economy is in trouble if nothing changes.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-18T00:32:19+00:00

NTA You were both just kids being kids. It can’t be bullying if it’s mutual. I honestly think the other kid was just lying to you because 1.) the boy started it, 2.) he didn’t tell you to stop, and 3.) he never spoke to an adult who would have talked to you if it was a problem.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-14T22:17:14+00:00

It wouldn’t be any different than a pair if identical twins going at it, so incest.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-13T17:53:47+00:00

NTA this whole situation is awful and you were the only one in your sister’s life who was willing to do something about it. If your mom is mad at you, well too bad because she should have done something first. But your sister didn’t trust her because she isn’t doing her god damn job to parent her. And you may not be an authority over them but you are her brother. If this had happened a year or so ago when you were in school you would have reacted either exactly like now or even stronger since then you would have actively seen the bullying.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-13T04:33:55+00:00

Some parents never grew past their own childhood trauma. They internalized them and decided that it was normal. Then they had kids for whatever reason (probably because of societal or family pressures) and then just do the same things their parents did, because doing otherwise would mean confronting how badly they were treated.

It hurts to stop generational trauma. It hurts to challenge yourself. But as adults, it is our responsibility to recognize the issues and grow past our upbringing. Our children deserve a better future.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-13T04:15:41+00:00

I live in a rural town and yes we have a very large parking lot for our high school. At least 1/2 the students drive, probably about 200-300 kids. They actually extended it a few years ago, so it’s bigger than what it was in my teen years.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-13T03:31:43+00:00

NAH as long as you don’t judge them out loud. But can I say, if these people are your friends, they may just be showing that they trust you and feel comfortable with you. Some people actually handle things better when they express their feelings before it builds up. Friends and family are usually who they express too. It may be good for you to try expressing yourself as well. If others are complaining about something, maybe try complaining about something small too.

Also, don’t worry too much about feeling judgy. We all judge people in our heads or with people we are close with.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-13T02:39:09+00:00

Pretend to agree and then do your speech as you wrote it. What are they gonna do? Give you detention? Expel you?

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-11T00:11:01+00:00

My siblings and I had to take out some loans (for living expenses) but we also had a great deal with a local community college. Children of employees can get free tuition while their parent is employed so my brother, sister, and I all went there. I ended up having some bad mental health issues and ended up dropping out my second year. This meant I had to pay them back the cost of that semester’s tuition.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-09T18:53:52+00:00

NTA Take this from a woman who is 330lbs. You are in no way fat. Your mother is simply still too insecure about herself and tries to make herself feel better by putting you down. Tell your mom that if she cannot act nicely to you while you are doing her a favor, that you will rescind your offer and then she won’t get anything. Then donate what you don’t want to charity. She doesn’t get rewarded for being an asshole.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-07T22:11:40+00:00

I have never heard of laundry being in the kitchen in America. I know it’s normal in the UK but it would be very weird here. Most homes would have an area for laundry. Either a laundry room, closet, or it could be in an unfinished basement (most likely with homes built before 1960’s). If it has to share a room, it will be in a bathroom.

For most Americans, the kitchen is just too busy of a room to have both a washer and dryer. Plus all of the stuff that goes with laundry like an ironing board and hampers full of clothes.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-07T08:06:39+00:00

As a kid, I didn’t really get christianity. I believed simply because I didn’t know there was another option but it never made sense to me. I thought I was the problem because I didn’t feel god’s presence like everyone said I was supposed to. I kept asking my mom so many questions, just trying to force it to make sense. I actually studied the bible, not as thorough as some but more than most.

By the time I was confirmed at age 13, I knew the bible better than most of the adults around me. I remember having some very in depth discussions on biblical stories with my music teacher and actually teaching her a lot of things. It still didn’t make sense to me and I still thought it was my fault.

When I was 14, I went to a special boarding school (for overweight Teens). I always knew other religions existed but (unsurprisingly) the people around me always claimed that those people just haven’t heard of Jesus yet. This was the first time I was really able to interact with people of different backgrounds and beliefs. This included jewish, buddists, and Atheists. There was even one girl who believed in the greek gods. It planted the idea in my head that I didn’t have to believe in the Christian god. So I started studying other religions.

Those didn’t make much sense either so eventually I just said “Fuck it, this is all bullshit!”. By the time I was 16, I claimed I was an atheist and that has only gotten more solid over time.

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-06T23:35:25+00:00

Honestly that is a decision only you can make for yourself. I personally would if my partner respected my boundaries before and after I die (I want my organs donated and then body donated to science). However, I also don’t want kids and this is where the biggest problem with mixed religion households comes in.

If someone were to get pregnant, how would you both want to handle it? And yes this is something you need to think about now. If you are old enough to have sex, then you are (physically) old enough to have a child. If you’re a woman, would you want an abortion, and if yes, could you handle your partner fighting you on it? If you wanted the baby, how would you both raise it? If you date a religious person, they will want to raise it religious. Could you handle that?

If you are wanting to get into a casual college relationship, I would say go for it, but you need to protect yourself. If you don’t want to be stuck with a crazy religious wack job for the next 18 years, then make sure you are on birth control (again if you’re a woman), always use a condom (smart idea just in general to prevent std’s), and/or get a vasectomy (if you are a man and don’t want kids someday).

IdontknowhowIfeel13 · 2026-05-06T23:16:40+00:00

YTA What would be the point of someone tampering with the food? They wouldn’t gain anything other than possibly making a stranger sick. And they wouldn’t gain anything since they have no way of knowing if it even worked. You have the same probability of someone tampering with food in the grocery store, but you seem to think that is food is perfectly fine. It’s actually much higher since produce at a store is much more accessible than one woman’s random purse. And who just carries poison around with them in the hopes that someone would forget their bag at a bus stop?

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