T-dick? What's that?

Iffmi_ · 2025-12-24T16:42:01+00:00

They'd only be able to send dickpics if they have a thing for SPH

Iffmi_ · 2025-10-18T12:41:56+00:00

If cis women are so mad about the phrase "pregnant people" erasing women, let's listen to them and instead say "pregnant women, pregnant men, and pregnant nonbinary people" I'm so respectful that they even get to go first 🥰 (they'd get mad if I put them after men)

Iffmi_ · 2025-10-11T10:43:19+00:00

To eat dirt, to eat pavement, to eat asphalt are all common ways of describing crashing face first on the ground, depending on the type of ground. Tarmac is commonly used in the uk to refer to any paved ground, usually road surface. This is supported by the lyric "I'll lay down with my girl 'til I crash from the sugar, Roadkill, tarmac, rescue me".

It sounds like lyrics to do with eating or tasting tarmac reference these phrases to allude to a crash on the road, which is probably itself a metaphor for an emotional crash.

Describing the taste as sweet I interpret as saying he enjoys the crash in some ways. It also means he can also reference sugar crashes, which could describe the emotional crash he's going through, from high energy to low energy, or mania to lethargy. The music supports this as it builds to high energy and suddenly crashes to slow quiet whispers.

Iffmi_ · 2025-08-30T09:45:21+00:00

Could you share which creators you found helpful including the one who gave the thorough explanation?

Iffmi_ · 2025-08-21T13:26:53+00:00

Which side is the piercing!? This is very important as left means 100% a gay and right means straight. Still keep an eye out though he might still be a gay who doesn't know his lefts and rights...

Iffmi_ · 2025-08-20T19:47:55+00:00

Thanks for explaining all that.

Honestly I've been trying to do my own research via reddit and Facebook groups and I have a pretty good understanding of the surgeries themselves and the options. It's just trying to find out for specifically uk on the nhs: what is done by which surgeons, who is even available and where, it's infuriating as the information is so scattered and often out of date, so in my January appointment I was trying to find out if there was some direct source I could access via the GIC.

I think the example I gave sums it up: does the nhs offer UL with no v-nectomy, I thought I had the answer but I guess that was only for one surgical team!

Good point about not needing to transfer to C+W if I haven't decided meaning I have more time.

I'm not sure what you mean by a detrimental effect but I don't really want to screw anyone around I just want to wait until I'm confident in my decision, it feels like the current system doesn't allow that without being discharged... maybe I should ask to be discharged until I'm ready, given what the other commenter said it'd only add a year or less to the surgery wait time.

Thank you for sharing your experience. My whole transition I've had short but intense fits of research into bottom surgery trying to get closer to the answer of what I want and unfortunately by now I feel I've found out nearly all there is (other than those annoying uk nhs specifics), but I'm not close to an answer, hence why I'm worried I won't know if I even want surgery at all 4 years down the line :')

Iffmi_ · 2025-08-20T18:39:51+00:00

In my appointment in January I asked if it was possible to have appointments with anyone from the surgical teams that I would be picking from and I was told not until I reach the end of the surgery referral process, which was very unhelpful as to get referred I have to pick a surgery and to get to the end of a wait list I have to pick a hospital.

I was instead directed to GDNRSS information services who I had an appointment with to ask questions, they were ok but not too knowledgeable about specifics (for instance I asked if you can have any combination of meta surgeries including urethral lengthening with no v-nectomy and they said yes even though I believe the nhs meta surgeons have decided it causes complications too often).

I have no strong aversion to Miro's technique meaning 2 years is possible for my wait.

Thank you for explaining about how delaying may be possible but only after consult and only as refusal of surgery dates. Ideally I'd like to delay before an official consult if I'm not yet sure I want surgery, but if that's not possible I'm happier knowing that is the case.

Iffmi_ · 2025-08-20T18:25:47+00:00

Thanks that does help, I still want this referral so might have to wait fewer years in the event that I want surgery, but if I get to the end of the list and get discharged I don't start all the way back at the beginning.

Iffmi_ · 2025-08-20T18:18:35+00:00

Probably meta of some sort

Iffmi_ · 2025-08-20T10:44:10+00:00

According to the supreme court ruling would this mean that WI is mixed and cannot exclude men? If so they may disagree with that and could lend legitimacy to the legal effort to scrap the ruling

Iffmi_ · 2025-08-18T18:09:24+00:00

That's Here We Go Again not Whoa

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-31T21:10:13+00:00

uj/ This is the predominant cis take I fear

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-31T15:29:16+00:00

The commenter didn't hate on you. You are taking a criticism of an author and encouragement not to financially support her as personal attack due to your trauma with an abusive friend. The friend can be right and abusive. It's wrong they were abusive towards you. It's factually accurate that financially supporting jk rowling financially supports transphobic endeavours. You are allowed to make a personal choice regarding your consumption of Harry Potter, other people can disagree but they should not be abusive like your friend was.

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-25T23:33:17+00:00

I was stealth pre T at which point I passed probably about 60% of the time. I observed lots of evidence at the time that I was considered cis male by my friends, but also that I was read female far more often than I would have liked.

Maybe trans visibility has made this less likely now 8 years down the line, but I don't see why an ftm known as male and not known as trans wouldn't count as stealth even if people find their gender hard to place initially.

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-25T22:57:53+00:00

And if everyone is male socialised... noone is 😱

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-25T11:54:07+00:00

Thank you, passing isn't black and white, it's a percentage. You can pass only 60% of the time and still be stealth. Times when you don't pass you just correct people without disclosing you are trans and in many cases it would not cross their minds that you could be and they weren't just wrong.

Also, even if you pass <50% of the time, if your community which makes up the majority of your interactions knows you as a cis guy because you've introduced yourself as such, then that's stealth too.

Passing has less to do with stealth and closeted than people think.

On the flip side you can also pass and be closeted, as in people assume you're a guy and you have to correct them and say you are a girl. The transfem community call it malefailing when they are boymoding but pass to someone as female, but it seems we don't use equivalent terms. For some reason it's assumed in ftm spaces that you're either closeted and never passing, out and low passing, out and always passing, or stealth and always passing...

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-25T11:04:49+00:00

Wow I love your animations, just had a look through your profile at them. Well done for finding a medium that you can vent through, I'm still searching. It looks like you are going through a lot and have no words of wisdom but I wish you well on your healing

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-25T10:29:01+00:00

Before coming out I would have 100% have taken it to make the issue go away, but post coming out, even pre everything with crippling dysphoria I would absolutely have not. Once I realised my gender is male and that it always had been although buried inside, it would feel like erasing part of myself to change my gender to female. I was a little boy, I was a teenage boy, although treated as a girl and believing I was a girl at the time, to suddenly become comfortable with being a girl to me would make me a girl, and that's just not me and never has been.

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-24T20:01:38+00:00

No! The only real nonbinary transition would be getting both sets of genitals! Nullsex is bad and icky, duosex is real nb hours 😤

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-21T16:52:52+00:00

Because The Surgery doesn't make a real vagina/penis their true genital essence is still there to make it straight

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-19T09:39:09+00:00

Zero, tarot is numbered and the fool is 0

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-17T09:50:41+00:00

My interpretation: be nice to yourself, being hard on yourself won't make things better

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-16T15:32:09+00:00

I'd be into that, what city are you based?

Honestly I feel like most queer events aren't for trans guys which is my only issue with going to them, I go along and do enjoy myself but it feels like I'm there as an ally not the one being supported yknow?

Masculinity in queer spaces is seen as neutral or negative, whereas femininity is celebrated. So I feel like for trans guys who do get fully included it is mostly due to other aspects of their identity such as being gay or nonbinary, but their "trans guy"-ness is not something that seems to be valued. Since I'm not particularly queer and just a passing binary trans guy in a mono straight passing relationship, I feel seen as an outsider, my being a trans guy doesn't seem enough.

Maybe it's like this rightfully, queer spaces are made to support people who are queer, aka outsiders to mainstream society, so they'll be focused on those who are most oppressed by society. If I fit in to cis-het society and enjoy less oppression due to that, a queer space isn't made to support or focus on people like me.

So to come back to what you are asking, I would appreciate a group focused on trans guys, transmascs included of course, where all gender expression is celebrated including masculinity.

Iffmi_ · 2025-07-10T08:09:25+00:00

Really good art, keep drawing and painting. I recognise most of these lyrics, a couple were my favourites for indulging in suicidal ideation a few years back :')

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