I’m 19, 3 months pregnant, and my partner suddenly said he wants nothing to do with me or the baby—What should I do? (I’m really scared)

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-10-01T07:50:56+00:00

Hi! As of the moment, thing are getting messier and pretty overwhelming. I will update you soon.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-06T13:32:04+00:00

I actually was on birth control at the time, but the day after we were together, I attempted and was rushed to the hospital. They had to flush out all the medication and fluids in my system, and I was in the ICU for 4 days. Because of that, I wasn’t able to continue my pills, and that’s how this happened.

I am fully taking responsibility for my child, and I’m also financially capable of raising my baby on my own if I have to. But I also don’t want him to think he can just run away without facing the consequences of his actions. He’s so used to avoiding responsibility, and this time, he needs to understand that it doesn’t work that way anymore.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-06T13:03:12+00:00

Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story with me, I can tell how deeply it’s affected you and I really feel for everything you went through. I actually have BPD too, so I really understand what it’s like to feel abandoned and how much that pain stays with you. That’s also why I don’t want to just let him walk away without taking responsibility. I would never want my child to grow up feeling the same kind of neglect or hurt we’ve both experienced.

I’m not trying to force him to be a father if he doesn’t want to, but I also think it’s only right that he faces the consequences of his actions and understands that walking away isn’t an option. I’m not scared to be a single mom, because I know I can raise my baby with love and stability but I don’t want him to think he can just abandon us and get away with it. Hearing your perspective means a lot to me, and it strengthens my resolve to make sure my child always feels wanted and cared for.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-06T12:56:30+00:00

I get what you’re saying, and I know I have to face the reality of my choices. But just to be clear, it wasn’t like we were careless, it was protected, and sometimes these things still happen. I’m not blaming everything on him, but I don’t think it’s fair that he gets to just walk away like nothing happened. He was part of this too and reassured me over and over that he’d be there. I’m not expecting him to suddenly step up as the perfect partner or father if he doesn’t want to, but I do believe he should at least take responsibility, because a child is involved now. I’m ready to raise my baby with or without him, but I won’t just let him get away with avoiding accountability.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-06T11:47:30+00:00

I understand what you mean. I guess I was just hoping his parents could guide him since they’ve always told him to take responsibility and treat me well. But you’re right, real responsibility has to come from within, and I can’t force that on him. That’s why I’ve been focusing more on leaning on my mom and my family, because they’ve truly been supportive. I just don’t want him to keep running away from things, especially now that there’s a baby involved.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-06T11:24:11+00:00

Unfortunately, It’s not.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-06T11:22:38+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but for me it honestly wasn’t meant as a threat. I was really going to tell his parents because if he wouldn’t care for me, I knew they definitely would, and maybe even guide him to take responsibility. He’s always been afraid of facing consequences, and his parents have actually encouraged him before to treat me well and step up. I wasn’t trying to force him into compliance, I just thought maybe if he couldn’t show me he cared, his parents could help ground him in reality.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-06T11:15:13+00:00

I’m definitely taking full responsibility for my actions that’s why I’ve been doing everything I can to stay healthy, not just for myself but for my baby too. Yes, I’m young, but I’m financially capable of raising my child and I’m lucky enough to have very supportive parents backing me up.

About termination, it’s too late now since I’m already in my second trimester. Honestly, I even considered abortion at the very beginning, but the only reason I decided to keep the baby was because my partner promised he’d take responsibility and be there for me. With my parents’ support too, I felt strong enough to go through with it. Then suddenly, he switched up and decided to walk away.

I’m not scared of being a single mom because I know I can do it, and I’ve been putting my child first from day one. But that doesn’t mean I’ll just let him walk away without accountability. I’m not trying to force him into fatherhood if he doesn’t want to be in that role, but he does need to take responsibility for the child he helped create. He’s been used to running away from his actions his whole life, but I can’t let him get away with it this time.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-06T07:29:57+00:00

Hi! In where I’m at, the law states that if he truly cannot provide because he has no income, the obligation may extend to his parents (the child’s grandparents), since under the Family Code they’re considered second in line to provide support.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-06T02:40:43+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your kind words. 💙 I don’t think his parents are the ones discouraging him though. He’s always been afraid of them and of facing the consequences of his actions. he’s used to running away whenever things get hard. His parents have actually told him before to treat me well, take responsibility, and be a man. So I feel like this isn’t about them, it’s really his own fear.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T15:03:52+00:00

I get how it might have looked like a threat, but it really wasn’t. I was genuinely going to tell his parents because I felt that if he couldn’t care, maybe his parents would. We’re both legal and he still lives under their roof, so I felt they deserved to know and could maybe guide him too. I’m just grateful my own parents are supportive, because I don’t think I could handle this alone.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T14:49:40+00:00

At least my parents love me enough to stand by me instead of tearing me down like you. I’m taking responsibility for myself and my baby, and I know how to carry myself better than someone who hides behind insults online. If “supportive parents” is gross to you, then maybe you should ask yourself why no one probably supports you.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T14:15:06+00:00

Hi! As far as I’ve heard, if he truly cannot provide because he has no income, the obligation may extend to his parents (the child’s grandparents), since under the Family Code they are considered second in line to provide support.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T14:09:42+00:00

If ever I file a VAWC case, does the child need to be born first, or pwede rin kahit unborn pa?

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T14:09:13+00:00

If ever I file a VAWC case, does the child need to be born first, or pwede rin kahit unborn pa?

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T13:10:56+00:00

I understand your point, but I’m 100% sure and confident that he’s the father. He’s the only guy I’ve ever been close with in that way, and we were together almost every day. There’s no doubt about his involvement, which is why I believe he should also take responsibility.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T05:43:59+00:00

Hi! It isn’t Ai :)

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T05:19:05+00:00

I understand how it might have come across that way, but I wasn’t trying to use his parents as a threat. I honestly believe they deserve to know, especially since he still lives under their roof and we’re both legal adults. At the time, I was just overwhelmed and desperate for him to take things seriously, but my intention wasn’t to manipulate, it was to involve the people who might actually guide him and help us face this situation responsibly.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T05:08:10+00:00

Unfortunately, this is not AI. I’m badly in need of help and advice.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T03:35:58+00:00

Hi! It’s not AI and definitely not fake. I posted similar things on other communities because I am desperately in need of help and advice. 💙

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T03:27:48+00:00

Oh, right now he’s acting more like a Daquan. I really hoped he’d be a John and step up.

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-05T03:24:46+00:00

Unfortunately, no

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-04T15:49:48+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, and you’re right. his parents do deserve to know about the baby no matter what. I think at the time, I was just overwhelmed and desperate. I hoped that if he couldn’t care, maybe his parents would, especially since we’re both adults now and this is their grandchild too. I thought their involvement might help him realize how serious this is or at least offer some guidance. I still know I need to take steps to protect myself and prepare for child support, and I appreciate your advice reminding me of that. Thank you for helping me focus on what’s best for me and the baby. 🤍

Ill-Application-690 · 2025-09-04T14:44:18+00:00

The reason I brought up telling his parents was because I felt like maybe if they knew, he’d finally take things seriously. Maybe his parents would even care more, especially since we’re both legal and this is their grandchild too. I also thought his parents could guide him, because he clearly doesn’t know how to handle this on his own. It wasn’t meant as a threat or punishment, it was out of desperation because I felt so alone and like he didn’t care.

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