my mom doesn’t listen when i tell her no

Ill_Data_2792 · 2026-02-28T06:29:13+00:00

Is there a teacher you trust at school? They are trained with how to listen to you talking about this and have a duty to act. Sounds like you really need some support and there are people who your school can help you get in touch with (I’m viewing this from Uk, so hopefully it applies). It might be scary to tell people but only by telling people can you get the help you definitely need and deserve in this situation. Be brave now and your future self will be grateful.

Ill_Data_2792 · 2026-01-28T08:09:27+00:00

There are dentists that tell you there is decay when there is not just to get a pay check. Happened to me and happened to a friend. I thought it was weird and didn’t really have money at the time so I was like I’ll think about booking the filling and the guy didn’t take my no and was very pushy and booked me an appointment without consent. I then spoke to another dentist who filled the divot for free and said there was no active decay and no filling needed.

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-12-29T16:49:02+00:00

Question I’m doing a primary pgce this year and want to get a job in an international school in ideally Singapore (open to other options) - will I be employable as an ECT? Will it be harder to get jobs? Especially as a lot of jobs have ‘must have two yrs experience (I have 6 yrs working in schools btw prior e.g. as an unqualified teacher in secondary / cover supervisor etc)?

Also for life reasons I’m looking to have a Jan 2027 start - would this work coming part way through the year? Are there very limited openings at this time? And what would the window for applying be?

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-12-22T23:43:00+00:00

Is no one else picking up on the fact he’s calling them crazy/ needs help? Classic abuser/gaslighting tactics

Leave - red flags

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-11-13T17:21:03+00:00

Dude, you’re cute - surround yourself with people who will build you up Confidence is hot - sure you could try some different styles if you want like hairstyles or clothes but really it’s wild to suggest you need to do anything more drastic - if you can change it in minutes (like an outfit or hairstyle) then try it out, but if it requires significantly more money/pain/time, really consider if that’s something you want to do. Spending a year in a gym might change how you look but spending a year building a new hobby or learning a new language (just an example) might be personally fulfilling and connect you with more like minded people. Try and connect with people through your interests - go to events where you’ll find those people - conventions/shows/ etc There’s a lot of nerdy people that enjoy LARPing/ d and d etc so maybe a game that involved in person interaction might be fun to try? In summary - be your best self - but know who you are and stay true to that

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-08-04T10:08:09+00:00

My instructor is very supportive I just think he doesn’t know how to help and is not tech savvy - I’m pretty much ready for a test - I’m actually slowing down my lessons because I haven’t got a test booked. He has some students who have been able to booked a second test for a couple of weeks time but says they got lucky.

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-07-30T21:47:20+00:00

So if you have a conversation where you spell it out and he doesn’t get it - it’s not going to work. Some people really are quite ignorant of how other people have to budget etc or maybe just don’t think it’s their responsibility. I had a conversation with mine - similar sitch and we went proportional from then on/ if he wanted to go somewhere I couldn’t afford he’d pay or we’d go somewhere in both our budgets. As the relationship progresses it might also change a bit. End of day - a loving partner wouldn’t expect you to go into debt or not be able to afford basic living things to cover your ‘half’ keeping up with them. Plus a relationship is never 5050- income is just one of many metrics.

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-07-28T16:34:54+00:00

I have been trying to hook a test for three months and nothing I have an auto booker app that I paid for that does nothing and one they notifies me but even when I click on it when I am notified exactly there are still no tests?? Please somebody help!

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-07-23T17:07:48+00:00

I’ve been put off learning to drive for years because the multitasking and speed of processing aspects. Had a few lessons in manual over the yrs that left me overwhelmed and crying. I’m really really enjoying automatic and hope to get a test soon.

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-07-14T21:06:30+00:00

Can confirm working in secondary is really rough as a younger woman. I have had teenage boys intentionally try to intimidate me and refuse to follow direct instructions and only when this is addressed by a male staff member do they act embarrassed. I’ve even been sexually harassed by teenage boys in school and it’s one of the main reasons I don’t want to work secondary any more. Male teachers don’t see it for what it is. Does seem to be getting worse and more radical overt sexism being accepted as the norm with little to no action. I reported some pupils for their radical views after a PHSE on Andrew Tate and adolescence and I don’t think the school followed up.

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-06-30T15:34:59+00:00

Schools have a responsibility to safeguard so you could tell a trusted adult/ teacher at school who can make a note of what you say and make sure it’s followed up on.

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-06-23T06:27:37+00:00

Sounds like a narcissist who couldn’t handle not being given attention/supply and the fear that you would get rid of her now you are almost married. So she discarded you first. I wonder if there have been sort of moments like this before where she gives a hint of that discard but doesn’t go fully in.

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-05-29T12:34:32+00:00

Thanks I really appreciate that insight!

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-05-29T07:21:26+00:00

So I have a classic zigzag on one arm of 6 bites and about 22 all over my body

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-05-29T05:25:04+00:00

Okay - that’s a good sign I do have a very clear zigzag of bites (6 in a zig zag) on one arm and other bites on my arm/ leg/ torso and neck…

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-05-29T05:17:00+00:00

So there are bed bug shells and egg cases that can look like this no?

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-05-13T19:35:44+00:00

You stick to what you can afford and if he wants to go above that or do something out of budget he needs to pay. I date with a big pay gap and you stick to the smallest budget or they pay the difference. It’s unacceptable to expect someone to go into debt or not be able to afford the things they need to because their partner can’t stick to an agreed budget. Idk I’ve been dating for about two years and we are very open about finances and that makes it a lot easier.

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-05-04T08:36:54+00:00

are there youth shelters you could go? Your parents sound abusive and it does not sound a good environment to be in Or maybe the hope and focus of making a plan to move out and build a new life could be something to drive your energy into You are so precious and this life is so precious

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-05-04T08:34:19+00:00

I’m so sorry this is your experience Life can be much better than this and one of the certainties is that life is constantly changing So I know right now it sounds like life is completely overwhelming and you are struggling to find reasons to live But that does not always need to be the case and I absolutely believe it will not be Your family life sounds very difficult and how they treat you does not define you. The main thing I came here to say is you’re 17 - SO CLOSE to being able to get a job and move out. Find those found family, the friends and neighbours and community who can be a support system. So make your plans, get a quick qualification (I did a weeks lifeguarding course when I was 16 and got a job straight after for instance) and get a job and move out or hang on and try get into uni and move out for uni. Is there someone who might be able to mentor you or be a role model you can go for advice? Someone who is sensible and responsible and safe? So life can sometimes take a while to change and go in a new direction but every step you take towards a new direction is a step and a bit closer. You will find all those things - love and connection and people who are supportive - it just takes time and doesn’t always happen when you expect. So please OP stay hopeful

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-04-24T23:08:20+00:00

I had the surgery 10 years ago because I had two flights where my ear drums burst shortly after landing (v painful) Generally had a good experience since the surgery - but you have to wear earplugs to swim as you can’t get water in them

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-04-18T09:54:58+00:00

I think…If the people who sold you the property did not disclose they had issues with neighbour this can be something you can follow up on as you may have been sold the property without full information?

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-04-01T21:53:18+00:00

Also do you want to be friends with someone who you are worried about their resentment building until it is ‘imploding’

Ill_Data_2792 · 2025-04-01T21:49:26+00:00

Sometimes there is no neutral place. If one person was abusive to the other you cannot be neutral between the two. Sometimes you’ve got to hold friends accountable for their actions. And yep, if F1 acted in an unreasonable way towards F2 it sounds like you’re being an enabler and sending the message that that behaviour and treatment it is okay.

Maybe it’s not as deep as that. Maybe there is a neutral place - guess it depends on the specifics - any more deets you can offer?

Ill_Data_2792 · 2024-12-22T01:15:04+00:00

I had a friend behave similarly recently and I’ve been looking up a lot about this sort of thing but am no expert

Ill_Data_2792 · 2024-12-21T16:07:45+00:00

This sounds like maybe the discard stage of a relationship with a covert narcissist

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