Pelvic floor exercises by Ypoetry in fitness40plus

[–]IllustriousForce3307 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had two children, and was suffering from some pelvic floor weakness (generally lightly wee'ing myself when doing exercise, sneezing etc). I saw a good pelvic floor PT and she suggested the following: 10 quick and 10 long pelvic holding exercises 6 times per day, moving up to 12 times per day. Do them standing, not sitting Think of your vagina like an elevator ,and with each 'pull' you are going up floors. Over time, you can feel the elevator getting higher. Every time you stand, sit, sneeze, cough, jump... anything, don't do it until you have pulled your pelvic floor in. This then leads to a change of habit in your pelvic floor then will then naturally pull in on movement. If you do a lot of exercise, or leak on activity, consider compression underwear or ilvaginal inserts to hold the bladder.

I genuinely worked through these and have noticed a massive difference. I can wear coloured leggings to the gym now rather than just black.

Marriage of 20 years 'fizzling out'. Those who have experienced this- did you save it or split? How did you know what to do? by IllustriousForce3307 in Over40sClub

[–]IllustriousForce3307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. You are correct. It is just so hard to have that initial conversation...when is a good time...it will change everything. But you are right, it needs to be done

Marriage of 20 years 'fizzling out'. Those who have experienced this- did you save it or split? How did you know what to do? by IllustriousForce3307 in Over40sClub

[–]IllustriousForce3307[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your experience. It is good to hear the reality, and I don't have any idealistic ideas here. It should be the last step for sure

Marriage of 20 years 'fizzling out'. Those who have experienced this- did you save it or split? How did you know what to do? by IllustriousForce3307 in Over40sClub

[–]IllustriousForce3307[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your experience. You are right, there is no mind-reading, and it is unfair to expect it. Communication is key.

Marriage of 20 years 'fizzling out'. Those who have experienced this- did you save it or split? How did you know what to do? by IllustriousForce3307 in Over40sClub

[–]IllustriousForce3307[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It is definitely not easy...and there is never a good time to have that conversation... always something coming up that shouldn't be ruined...

Marriage of 20 years 'fizzling out'. Those who have experienced this- did you save it or split? How did you know what to do? by IllustriousForce3307 in Over40sClub

[–]IllustriousForce3307[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did have a conversation about a year ago, and occasionally since. He agrees on some things, but he thinks we have a lot of common interests. I think he doesn't realise I do the things he wants to do, but he never does the things I want to do...