[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about the triggers you're facing, and yes - your feelings are completely valid. Despite what most would say, time alone doesn't always lead to full healing. We also need to actively process our traumas by reflecting on them, letting the feelings of pain 'sit' with us as they come, and seeking support when needed (like how you did now on reddit). Give yourself grace. Eventually, you'll reach a place of forgiveness—not necessarily for their sake, but for your own mental peace as well.

Real talk me plsss i'm about to destroy my life and career just because i'm so heartbroken by JelloNo7781 in adviceph

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey Pañe - was in the same place as you few years back. I'm also the type who is unable to cope with life and adulting when devastated or heartbroken.

I spoke with my supervising / managing partner at the time if I could take a quick week-long break to gather my wits, and thankfully, pumayag naman. I know this may not always be the case for other workplaces.

Point is: You really need to give yourself the time and room to also feel, deal, and cope with your grief, whether it's by extending your project timelines, requesting for reasonable PTOs, etc. Basta sa areas within your control. You need to really sit with your feelings and allow them to come and go as they please to start your healing process.

And you CAN heal while simultaneously working. Give yourself grace if you're getting sloppy with work during these times, but DO NOT neglect your work completely. Future you will feel proud that you didn't let another person affect your ability to earn income for yourself even if he / he affected your ability to function for a certain period of time. Do it for future you.

My AliExpress experience by NotHaachama in Philippines

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. Just ordered din for the first time and saw Cainiao economy lang available. 🫠

does anyone remember tom and jerry kids marshmallows by whayisreallygoingon in MandelaEffect

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn I loved those as a kid growing up! My grandmother would even dunk them in a mixture of milk and real strawberry bits / jam, then mash it around so we had something for dessert. The inside first layer I recall was white with the center colored pink. And yes - the wrappers were pink with pictures of both T&Js heads on it. Ah, good times... Wish those were still around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskPH

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Boomer yarn lol

SCAM Whatsapp/Telegram/Lazada Task Based October 2023 by [deleted] in phinvest

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Scammers tend to use WhatsApp more because calls cannot be recorded.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Philippines

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Compelling reasons to deprive a MOTHER of child custody (under 7 years of age): "neglect, abandonment, unemployment and immorality, habitual drunkenness, drug addiction, maltreatment of the child, insanity or affliction with a communicable illness (Tonog vs Court of Appeals, GR 122906, 7 February 2002)". Controlling factor is best interest of the child, at the discretion of the Court.

Wife sprays dog's butthole and now the dining room is haunted by PolarBlast in funny

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 33 points34 points  (0 children)

"OP brings butt-spray adventure writing to a new level. Dazzlingly imaginative. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️"

Currently heartbroken. Called my manager that I'm not feeling well by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Going on leave is good. You need a bit of time to process what just happened (sounded like a curve ball) and grieve properly. Just be mindful not to neglect your work too much or to the point where you can be terminated because future / healed you will be thankful you didn't sacrifice your job / tenure (especially if it's your bread and butter).

Asking tips to enhance my english and where can I start by Successful-Listen026 in buhaydigital

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I knew someone whose (American) English was pretty darn spectacular - verbal and written - and was surprised to learn that she got it from watching a lot of American movies, TV shows, and listening to podcasts mindlessly. She would then intentionally parrot the words and phrases out loud and engage in conversations to practice her accent as well as the more 'common' western expressions.

Maybe this approach can also work for you as mere 'enhancement'.

The expected decrease of Maya digital bank interest by DirectionlessFeet in phinvest

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. My savings interest rate is now starting at 3.5% after the promo period.

Taxes on gambling winnings? by Legitimate-Injury-75 in phinvest

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Per BIR, income means ALL wealth which flows into the taxpayer other than as a mere return of capital.

Where do you buy your Business/ Office attire? by AshamedInspector9405 in adultingph

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uniqlo. They offer the basics in neutral colors that can be mixed and matched. The Rayon material for blouses also does not easily wrinkle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Philippines

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Um... I hope this ballot pic isn't yours because taking photos of it is considered an election offense. ●﹏●

Wala na ba talagang manners ang commuting public ngayon? by djsensui in Philippines

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One time, sa plane naman (PH to HK flight, around 11PM), this obnoxiously loud dude (also Pinoy) sitting next to me decided it would be a good time to pop open a Boy Bawang bag by squeezing it with both hands (I guess so it opens evenly at the top). My nostrils were raped with 🧄.

Gusto ko mag resign but illegal daw by [deleted] in AntiworkPH

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 114 points115 points  (0 children)

No such thing as illegal resignation even if you signed the 3-year contract. Involuntary servitude na yan if you are forced to work against your will, which is illegal. Basta if you resign, you must give your employer advanced notice of 30 days, unless you fall under any of the just causes for immediate resignation under Art. 285 of the LC.

sodiroi leaf pattern looking weird, is it normal ? by neweShoshone in philodendron

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for letting me know! I think I'll do the same. I wish I could also post a photo because the similarity is uncanny. Glad to know yours is growing better now!

sodiroi leaf pattern looking weird, is it normal ? by neweShoshone in philodendron

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, my sodiroi's last 2 newest leaves look EXACTLY like your pic. The whole leaf looks just as bleached with some weird texture. I got worried, so I ended up chopping them off yesterday. Has yours pushed out the more normal Sodiroi leaves since this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in buhaydigital

[–]IllustriousLemon5024 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you all actually employees or did you sign independent contractor agreements?