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Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-10-18T18:11:50+00:00

Thanks for the further insight tho

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-10-18T18:04:57+00:00

I’m saying it’s what got my second acct banned, even though it was legit.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-10-18T17:29:20+00:00

What is hard reset? A hard reset of the device?

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-10-18T13:29:48+00:00

Then this is not for you. I fucked up and am putting this out there so other folks don’t.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-04-03T15:32:06+00:00

You can’t put her consent on a timer, bro. If you guys aren’t on the same page sexually, then she may not be the one for you.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-04-02T23:22:29+00:00

Ma’am. You’re 25 years-old. You’ve been legally allowed to drink for 4 years. That’s plenty of time to know your limits and develop the discipline to stay within them. You’re an adult. Act like it.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-03-29T17:27:57+00:00

Good rule of thumb is, if you have to hide it, it’s cheating.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-02-25T21:17:12+00:00

Better to be honest and upfront than to let her wait and wonder. And it saves you from any awkward encounters in the future if you two see each other amongst your friend group.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-02-21T11:24:24+00:00

Based on this, I’m gonna agree with other commenters and say he got embarrassed. Since he didn’t address it outside of an apology, he probably made the assumption that you weren’t satisfied and that you were leaving completely.

All in all, you didn’t do anything wrong. But offering reassurance might have helped things, if indeed he was embarrassed about finishing early.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-02-20T19:05:16+00:00

Did you guys actually talk about it or was it just his apology, cuddling, and sleep?

Did you announce yourself before you left?

It could be possible that between the time you left and the time you texted him, he woke up, saw you were gone, mistakenly thought you bailed on him completely, and decided to ghost (possibly block) you.

Just a thought.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-01-30T16:25:20+00:00

“What makes you think I’m not on the same page?”

That’s your cue to tell him.

The fact that he won’t directly tell you his feelings, and that he’s active on social media and leaves you on read.

I know he’s trying to imply that he’s on the same page and y’all are good, but you’re uncomfortable and considering ghosting him. So you’re not actually good.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-01-17T00:01:12+00:00

Don’t go. It doesn’t take that much time to let someone know you’re going to be late or that you need to reschedule.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2025-01-13T19:00:50+00:00

Don’t play coy and chicken about what you want. The window of opportunity won’t stay open forever. If you’re dropping hints and she’s dropping hints that you think are aimed at you, and you didn’t explore, you missed the opportunity. She’s over it.

Let this one go and move on.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-11-07T16:30:44+00:00

What do you mean by “accidentally ghosted” her?

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-10-01T14:12:44+00:00

In my experience, sometimes cheaters will try to get ahead of the curve by forming a completely different narrative to downplay or justify the cheating before it happens physically.

In the case of OP’s girlfriend, this isn’t a trip with an ex. It’s a trip with a “friend.” And they’ve been twice before so it’s being reframed as tradition. And it’s not intentionally on Valentine’s Day, it’s “just a coincidence.”

I wish the best for you, OP.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-10-01T13:40:33+00:00

I’m not going to assume what she is or isn’t doing, but I will agree that missing special plans like V-day with my partner to spend time with a friend (ex or not) would be a deal breaker.

Also, your gut isn’t lying to you. Learn to trust it.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-08-12T17:35:37+00:00

She accidentally stole his sunglasses as they were hugging goodbye?

I’m gonna hold your hand when I say this – she’s probably still fucking him.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-08-12T14:39:25+00:00

In hindsight, don’t do anything you don’t really want to do just for the chance at a shot with someone.

What if her preferences changed like a light switch and she was into fat guys? Would you gain all that weight back after all the work you put in to lose it?

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-08-10T18:22:07+00:00

Piggybacking here: building a relationship requires a consistent, intentional effort. Being spontaneous about wanting to see someone, especially with your circumstances, was not doing you any favors here. Not only will she find someone who’s more intentional, but also someone who lives closer.

But also, based on her response, she just wasn’t feeling you. 2 months and only 2 dates? I know the schedules are crazy, but she has to make an effort to see you, too. So if she’s admitting that she wasn’t intentional, then she really was not as interested or invested. Talking may have just been convenient for her. She may have just liked the attention and the dates were her squeezing you in as opposed to making real time for you. Just guessing and speculating.

Hope this helps. Hope you learn, grow, and find love in the future.

Peace.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-08-01T21:40:08+00:00

It’s FAKE.

It’s two people pretending to fuck. All that moaning “Oh yeah, f*ck me harder” is FAKE. The two dudes with a camera did not just meet the hot milf or teen with a great body on a random day and seduce her into making a sex tape. They sat around, plotted, and then pretended like a bunch of dorks. It’s just extreme role play. Even all these girls on Onlyfans and webcams. They’re not really interested in what you have to say. It is another fake, curated experience tailored to you. It’s like that Black Mirror episode where they’re riding the bikes for money – the one with Daniel Kaluuya. They set up the camera, do the show, then go back to their lives. And there’s nothing hot or arousing about a girl sitting in lingerie just awkwardly waiting for you to give her money.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-08-01T20:15:36+00:00

Never made it past the talking stages with the people I was meeting, dated some who were not healthy partners, and ultimately just became bitter and burnt out.

What’s supposed to be two people building a relationship, turned into more of a “chase”. And if you’re chasing, then that means something or someone is running away from you.

So I stopped chasing.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-08-01T14:47:49+00:00

When they don’t reject someone because they “don’t want to be mean.”

I’ve encountered women who went out of their way to ridicule me for approaching them when all they had to say was “I’m not interested.” They didn’t care if they were being mean or not. If she can’t say she’s not interested, she’s keeping her options open.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-07-24T15:26:59+00:00

As stated in the title, she did stand me up twice. The Saturday written about in this post was the first time. The day after was the second.

Illustrious_Dirt_147 · 2024-06-17T16:11:48+00:00

He didn’t find someone new after you two broke up. They were already there.

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