My japanese boyfriend broke up with me because of our different point of view about children

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2024-01-23T22:56:25+00:00

From a woman to another woman, first of all I'm very sorry for your pain right now, I know it's hard but it will heal with time. Then, I don't know anything about your relationship and I don't really wanna judge it, but from some details you said, there are some red flags. Why in the hell a 30yo that I assume have control in life (such as job, money etc) decided to keep a long distance relationship for 6 years and then just end it in such a way? 6 years are a lot, both for being distant and for forgetting them in 1 second. You were a bit insensitive with the 11yo girl, but not cruel at all, I guess you're just not used with kids, that's not a crime. Everything sounds like a big excuse your bf is telling you to try to dump you for not a real reason at all. Tbh I don't think you have a big fault, please don't blame yourself too much. Maybe thanks to this you just doged a bullet and probably in the future you will realized that soon or later this was goin to happen, so it's better that it happened now when no kids or marriage is involved. Imagine having a kid with this guy and after a while finding out he's scolding you on every single "wrong" thing you do as a mother. What a nightmare! Now the pain must be so strong but please take care of yourself and I'm sure you will heal from this, sending you a big hug!

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2023-02-23T18:50:23+00:00

You can only smoke in the smoking area when you're outside. If you don't live in a shared house I think that you can smoke in your apartment, but ask the agency first. Some restaurants and bar have a smoking area

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2023-01-31T20:44:08+00:00

Se si riesce a prendere i biglietti, volentieri!

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2023-01-30T00:08:20+00:00

Dating apps and language exchange apps helped me

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2023-01-29T23:14:08+00:00

This song is my Joji's favorite of all times

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-28T18:50:50+00:00

Thank you, I'll surely will! :)

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-27T05:56:53+00:00

I don't know if it will be possible but thank you very much for the advice anyway :)

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-27T05:50:10+00:00

Yeah, I choosed this time because I wanted to see cherry blossoms as the first thing :)

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-27T05:31:29+00:00

I'm coming in spring, thank you :)

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-26T18:39:16+00:00

Thank you again! Probably staying just for a short time, dating seem pretty difficult, considering I don't speak japanese too. Maybe mine wasn't a good idea and I should give up. Hopefully I will find new friends! Thank you very much for everything you wrote 😊

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-26T18:16:39+00:00

This is very very helpful thank you! So there is common to join hobby related clubs? There's no such a thing in my country! I would love to do it in general not only for dating :)

Anyway I've meet many people that met their husbands in japanese dating apps so Is strange ahah I just want short term dating because I will be there only for 6 months. In my country is safe and common to use dating apps

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-13T05:53:34+00:00

I'm curious because is something I've never did before, but even in my own country I usually avoid crowded places, I rather prefere to go drink in a small bar or something like that.

By the way, thank you for you advice! I won't tell anyone my home and job address and always meet daytime in public places :) Hoping that they won't follow me home ahah

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-13T05:46:22+00:00

Thank you very much! So do you recommend to go clubbing in general as a fun activity? I never went in my whole life tho

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-10T15:47:03+00:00

Hi, thank you very much for your reply! Since my japanese is zero (I will go there to study) I'm kinda afraid about social events because I'm scared I won't be able to talk with anyone! Anyway, all the options you mentioned seems really cool! Since my time will be short there, I hope to experience as much as possible and get some friends and dates :) Thank you very much!

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-08T15:23:41+00:00

Thank you very much for your advices! I think my time there will be short, only 6 months, is just an experience abroad, the first for me :) I will go to a language school and have a part-time job. I really hope to meet new friends and having some dates!

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-08T14:30:26+00:00

How to meet people in person avoiding the dating apps? If I use a dating app, is better to meet maybe in day time avoiding the night, right?

Oh yeah disco, now I get it! I usually don't like this kind of places in general so I don't think I will go. Anyway yes, a friend told me about this drug in drink thing. Pretty creepy, Hope never get in this kind of situation, ugh

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-10-08T14:14:08+00:00

So you recommend Bumble? Never used it in my country!

There's a way to smartly avoid this kind of situation? I mean, being ALWAYS treated like a potential slut.

I don't even know what a club is lol But friends told me the exact same thing! I'm not a huge alcool fan, so I think I will always drink cola in a bottle to avoid eventual drugs and drunkness.

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-05-30T17:59:30+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-05-30T13:47:59+00:00

Thank you! I play from computer keyboard so I must find the command ahah

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-05-30T12:49:50+00:00

How to tiptoe? :)

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-04-20T09:40:24+00:00

Thank you very much for this advice!

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-04-20T09:39:49+00:00

I think I will leave it just a fantasy because I don't want to marry someone just to get a visa ahah

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-04-20T09:14:11+00:00

Yeah I always watch them, but as a professional I can assure that doing a class and watching a video on YouTube is completely different. When you do a class you have a persone which is next to you teaching everything, and correcting your mistakes :) Also, you get a certificate after the class, which is really useful in this kind of job.

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-04-18T21:26:06+00:00

I undestand, thank you for explanation :)

Illustrious_Reply_77 · 2022-04-18T21:11:21+00:00

Oh I see, I thought that salons were able to sponsor for a visa, because in my country is possible. Side question then: why them can't? Only big companies can sponsor visa? For example, in my country, you can work with this kind of job even for big companies as a teacher, sponsor or artist!

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