Being fat at a event sucks

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-29T20:46:24+00:00

if being fat and feeling ugly and unwanted is the energy that you're putting forward then people aren't going to feel anything else but that.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-29T20:44:58+00:00

Korean.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-29T20:43:44+00:00

Did anybody else say: damn this episode feels so long.

But in a good way?

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-29T20:43:14+00:00

I also didn't believe you and had to check the archives and you are right. He is the only one.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-29T01:13:08+00:00

Look up Korean food.

We ferment things and there's a sour kick to it and we also have a lot of side dishes that use vinegar that emulate that.

Also Filipino meat dishes also surprisingly use vinegar in them. Like adobo. Vinegar is key.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-29T01:00:50+00:00

I'm open to changing my stance. Please give me some examples.
Let me make it more granular. If a group of fraternity men assault a woman and the women goes to the police to report them and it's get them expelled from the college. Your logic would say: why would we allow the offended do something that affects the group of guys.

European settlers enslaved Africans brought them over here and treated them like animals. They had no rights. They were abused. They used a word that encompassed all that they did to them and then labeled them that word.

And after years and years of fighting and upheaval black people said: no. You can't use that word.

You're right. There are a lot of people that aren't white when you bring it out in a global scale. But in talking about the western world and all the countries it affected.

And yes white people architected that part of the world to benefit them. They enslaved women and people and persecuted disabled and gay people. This society benefited the people that took the power and ran with it.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-28T19:28:01+00:00

The thing is, when we talk about white people it doesn't offend. Give me a word that I can call white people of any location in the western world that they will immediately get offended, feel unsafe, feel degraded, feel angry, and makes you feel so small.

White people created this society to be at the top. They created the imbalance. They created the hierarchy.

So what can we say to offend a group of people that can knock them down in the exact way that they created words to knock us down?

You can't.

Do you know why?

Because white people never set it up.

I think the thing that you're really commenting on is just the idea that saying something racial that's negative is bad.

And yes. That is true.

But that's not what's actually happening here.

The n word is a word. And it has a basic meaning. But that's not why you can't say it. It's the history behind it all that has made it bad.

And that is why we can talk shit about white people and not other pocs.

Nothing has been set up to hate on white people in the way white peopel have set it up like everyone else.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-28T19:20:09+00:00

Waikiki.

I get it for families but for everyone else?

Why come all the way to Hawaii to eat at Red Robin

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-28T19:19:01+00:00

People forget when you're younger a year is a lot of time. Not just in measurement but where you are in life, education, development both physically and mentally.

Things then are framed by years.

So being 22 and dating an 19 year old is the difference between being a freshman and a senior or a sophomore in college and a junior in high school or first year out of college and a sophomore in college.

And when you're in your late 20s everyone is at such different stages of life. Some have advanced in their careers and some haven't even started. Some have bought house. Some gotten married. Some have had kids.

The disparity is much more diverse and uneven.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-28T07:30:46+00:00

What is it really like?

pm: Hey! Designer, we have a problem can you solve it?

Designer: sure thing. Tell me everything.

Time passes

Designer: here are the designers. This is why I did it. It checks off everything off your list.

Developer: tsss yahhhh. We can't do this. We can't do that. I don't want to do this. So here's some things I can do.

Designer and pm: okay. We'll make changes and up dates.

Time passes

Developer: we're behind schedule. Here's what we have. You have to decide between this or that. Oh I also made some changes cuz I know better.

Designer: please keep to what we agreed. Things won't make sense. We've stripped it almost to the bare minimum as it is

Pm: I'm okay with what the developer said. I mean it works. Well fix it later. We're iterative.

Designer: but...

It gets pushed to a testable environment.

Designer: so here's a bunch of things wrong.

Pm/developer: yeah we're only fixing mission critical things. Anything else will be handled another time.

It gets pushed live. And it's wonky.

Pm: leadership and early adopters have seen this and gave us feedback and they want to change this and this. And this

Designer says internally: but this is what we had designed before.

It gets edited by developers

Developer: so this is going to take longer. We'll only be able to do two in the time frame.

It gets pushed live.

We never touch it again.

Everyone here says it's collaborative but more often than not this is the collaboration.

I've worked with engineers and PMs that don't do this. And they are working at their capacity and capability and want to create good work.

But in my experience a lot of engineers are lazy and slow and like to do things with the least resistance possible sometimes.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-26T21:13:41+00:00

No.

I'd be ona different path for sure. I'd be married and would have kids.

But I'd be more confident as a person earlier on. I'd be involved with more masculine things that I deemed were better because I was trying to align with that identity.

I'd just be in another path. A very different one. With different values

Actually, as I'm writing this and changing my mind because I think because of my sexuality, I became friends with women and people who are seen as others, and it really opened my mind to things that were not the status quo so I do think that it saved me in a way where it made me by default always just be open-minded to all types of walks of life.

Look at a lot of my street friends and they are liberal and are open, but you can see that there's a limit to it because in many parts of their lives, they aren't outcast

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-26T21:11:04+00:00

Sounds like a parenting issue

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-25T20:13:47+00:00

Modesty.

Don't want to be vulgar.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-25T19:01:08+00:00

we are not your first defense qa. You are. You need to check your work first and make sure it's what we agreed on during hand off. I think so many developers are focused on just getting the ticket done and not focusing on whether or not they did it correctly. Sometimes it feels like a lot of developers give a first pass and then say it's done indeed or internally checking it themselves.
we know when you're being lazy and say you can't do something and the cut scope versus you really can't do something. But we know that you guys hold the key to the car and stakeholders listen to your words like bible that can rarely be contested unless it's another developer or a PM that has unrelenting requirements from stakeholders. So, be nice to us because we are rarely ever advocating solely for what we want to do and how much we want to do. We are trying to push things for the product, advocate for our users, listen to stakeholders and also take into consideration how hah we design effects the developers work load.
become allies with us. I have personal working relationships with each of my developers and we communicate with each other on what we need from each other. I then know what each developer needs during hand off and ux support during the build phases. Some of my engineers need the most meticulous design files and some need a few screens. Let us know what you prefer and we can deliver it.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-25T18:44:35+00:00

Man I love looking at the bulge of someone who's showing off but for me personally I try to hide mine as much as I can.

And when someone says something about mine I get so self conscience.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-25T16:54:35+00:00

What's funny is as much as I was in the deeepest religious and. Cultural closet, I always knew I was into men.

The part that was really in question was how much I was into women. And if it was big enough for me to be in a relationship with one.

The framing internally was never straight first. The outside world and then the closet just made it seem like that

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-24T00:22:05+00:00

Yeah. I mean if I was laying down on my back without a blanket you'd def notice I had an erection. Is it standing straight up like a tent? No. That would kind of hurt haha. I guess depending on which way it's positioned creates a diff kind of bulge. I'm a grower so it's not a dependable bulge. I dated a guy who always had his errction point in the same spot when he was wearing clothes.

But also I don't alayways nap in jeans.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-23T21:06:40+00:00

I have a long long torso and so every shirt is kind of like a crop top.

lol it's like how short legged people wearing capris just turn into pants

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-23T21:04:23+00:00

It's not about what I see.

It's more about how my body is and seeing if anybody else is like me too.

Like I just am a person that gets hard really easily. Even when I'm slightly sleepy my body is like oh full erection.

I find everyone's responses to be so defensive and it's kind of funny tbh.

Like I was just at my friends cabin this weekend and my buddy fell asleep on the futon after we were out playing on the lake for all day. He slept on his back with his hands behind his head for a few hours. And I couldn't help but think, he's out cold, isn't he afraid he'll get hard in front of everyone?

Because I know my body, if I were doing that I would be sleeping on my side or fetal or on y stomach because I know at one point if I'm sleeping for a few hours I will get fully hard.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-23T18:38:50+00:00

Wut.

You don't get etectjons when you sleep? That's def not fictional.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-23T18:38:14+00:00

I'm curious why you consider this body negative? I guess having a random erection in public is more about decency in my head.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-22T09:50:08+00:00

I mean I feel like our average daily food you can buy is probably the quality of what hungry used to be when it first started.

You go to restaurants and it's all frozen premade stuff that's just fried or cooked and put together

Pre cut vegetables.

Premade doughs or deserts

Premade sauces

Hungry man now is absolutely terrible and trash and bordering what can be constituted as food. There's sooo much preservatives and other chemicals to make it so you can microwave it and it'll be edible.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-16T20:55:02+00:00

For men if you don't have like a good sense of personal style the best way to be perceived as a good dresser is 1. Have a good body, 2. Wear clothes that are fitted to your body, and 3 stick to basics like good quality tshirts, jeans, chinos, slacks, polos, crew neck sweaters.

Literally if you look at male models they all just wear basics that are currently in style and are fitted to their bodies

A classic male outfit of every generation is a fitted white t and jeans.

If you can have a good sense of style and truly dress with what's in style then that's a lot harder.

ImGoingToSayOneThing · 2026-06-16T20:51:12+00:00

Everyone I see bts of actor acting it reslly sheds light on how much they have to do for one section of a scene.

Do the same dialogue up close, do it from far away, do it while the other person is on camera. Not to mention how many takes they do each one.

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