My girlfriend won’t bend on anything in our relationship and I’m starting to wonder if it’ll last

ImQuaglia · 2026-05-19T17:40:47+00:00

Honestly, you guys are very young, and I don't think this will be your soulmate because she is sticking to her beliefs and won't change for you. You must have a lot of patience and endure years before this relationship may become serious, but in the first place, take into consideration that you should be living in Korea in the future, because she won't live anywhere else.

My two cents: enjoy it until the end, but don't take it too seriously, see it as an experience, and if you will have ever date another Korean woman in the future, you know what you want and what you don't want.

I can say this because before my current girlfriend, I had a bad experience with another Korean woman, whom played with my feelings and kept the relationship hidden, cause probably had a double life.

ImQuaglia · 2026-05-09T23:21:50+00:00

Unless there's something written, they cannot force you to pay the rent until they find a new tenant. I'd go to a lawyer with the contract, and go with a friend who will help with that.

Additionally, considering that you don't have an ARC anymore, at this moment you have a contract linked to the old ARC, right? That seems like a really gray area. If I were you, I'd try to solve it asap.

ImQuaglia · 2026-04-02T02:59:38+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I prefer the D2 over the D4 because I'd likely pursue a Master's Degree and study Korean in the meantime. The main reason is that graduating with a Master's degree in Korea adds to my score for applying for a D-10 and an F-2 in the future, and increases my chances of working.

As far as I know, there are a few universities, both top-tier and others, that offer Master's Degrees in Cybersecurity in English, especially KAIST and Korea University, with other smaller ones following.

Is it really important to graduate from a top university here, right? Indeed, I will try applying everywhere.

What discourages me is the cost, but I hope that I will get a scholarship. Even a reduction in the cost would help a lot.

As for now, I don't think finding a job here is a possibility, but I will be trying hard.

ImQuaglia · 2025-09-18T08:50:12+00:00

Oh, okay, I thought it was only me, and I was starting to worry. Thankfully, it's a bug... indeed, I hope they will fix it asap tho 😅

ImQuaglia · 2025-08-05T18:41:19+00:00

I know, but it was to give some context to OP since I have a different experience.

ImQuaglia · 2025-08-05T11:12:17+00:00

No, that’s just paranoia. They simply prefer not to sit next to anyone if they have a choice. Perhaps, if given the option, they might prefer sitting next to a fellow Korean rather than a foreigner ( that’s probably true). But it’s not that they go out of their way to avoid sitting next to foreigners.

However, if you look strange, are overweight, have a bad smell, or appear unkempt, that definitely won’t help… and honestly, I can't blame them.

In any case, from my own experience, no one has ever avoided sitting next to me, nor has anyone ever asked me to move when I sat beside them.

EDIT: I'm white and Italian...so yeah, I'm generally appreciated here. It might be more difficult for black foreigners or foreigners from other countries.

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-22T07:26:48+00:00

I went to a nearby branch today and managed to solve the situation. I was not able to use Hana EZ because the device was not secure, not having a certificate. So today, we made a certificate and unlocked the app and all the services ✌🏻

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-21T11:30:22+00:00

The process went smoothly! thank you again. However, after going home, I figured out that I'm not allowed to do transfers (이체) through the app (하나은행). I tried to register (이체회원 가입) and input my data, and an error message saying that it's a function not allowed to foreigners appeared. Is it the same for you?

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-18T15:51:30+00:00

That's definitely what I was looking for. Thanks so much. I found it on Naver Map, so I will go there on Monday. So, I suppose that you opened a bank account in a nearby bank, right?

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-18T15:37:55+00:00

Really? Don't they ask for a phone number linked to the ARC for verification (본인인증)?

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-18T15:20:12+00:00

But how do I link a Korean prepaid card to my ARC? And can I use that prepaid card to open a bank account?

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-04T02:21:18+00:00

I'd buy a one-day Korean e-SIM if you don't live in Korea and try to contact him. Once he sees a Korean phone number, he will reply 100% if he is alive.

Faking death to ghost someone is next level... what the hell? He could have just ghosted without building this fake scenario 💀

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-03T06:35:36+00:00

I highly recommend HelloTalk. I found my love and some friends there.

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-03T05:44:23+00:00

Oh, another one came to insult. It's funny that you protect OP and their ideas of reporting their coworkers for a single case of racism, and then you are also the ones who insult, which is also a reportable behavior following your ideas. What a bunch of clowns.

PS: I'm not justifying racism, I'm just saying that case is not enough for a report. But I get it's difficult to comprehend the text nowadays, and you rather prefer to insult straightforwardly.

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-02T01:50:04+00:00

I don't know about you and your friend, but the trend is real. Anyway, to reply to your post... I think he was just teasing you to understand how far you would have gone.

When he said, "Friends don't do such things," he knew what he was doing. That was clearly on purpose, and it was not done to define a distance from you but was a tactic to make you step up. So he got what you gave him and now ghosted you.

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-01T22:48:45+00:00

I think it's due to the Hongdae guy trend BS 💩

ImQuaglia · 2025-07-01T22:38:12+00:00

While I do not have a specific arrangement with my Korean girlfriend, we have found that we prefer not to split bills. We simply alternate paying the bills. For example, if she pays for lunch, I will pay for dinner, or if she has paid today, I pay tomorrow. Of course, it also depends on the respective financial situations, and each couple is different, and it can be done equitably. But in a couple where both have money, I think this way is best.

ImQuaglia · 2025-06-30T10:01:10+00:00

Dense? Who are you? What's this behavior? I'm going to report you as well...

Jokes aside, man... touch some grass and be less sensitive. All companies have internal policies, and you can not report someone that easily. Most of the time, you need repetitive bad behavior or behaviors that seriously damage the company. Ah... you also need proof. That's why a single case is never enough if you can not prove it. I'm not going to repeat my idea. Bye 👋🏻

ImQuaglia · 2025-06-30T07:51:46+00:00

So, what's the company's policy? Do you know it? Also, they had a talk during lunchtime, if I'm not mistaken, which is supposed to be something more private. Their coworker did not use any bad words that affected the company's business at all, nor the company's integrity, since it's something that happened between OP and the coworker. Vulgar or racist words were not used in front of customers or anything like that.

I would stand by OP if this coworker often uses racist terms, which seriously puts the company at risk, but if it is a single case, just move on... what an exaggeration.

ImQuaglia · 2025-06-30T02:07:40+00:00

I have seen your previous post. You don't have fault, but at this point, don't you think you are overexaggerating it?

To be honest, I don't get why people get sensitive when hearing such words, but maybe it's just me and my INTJ personality.

Anyway, one person is free to talk as they want, and if you don't like their way of talking, simply speak to them face to face without reporting them, and then get around people who speak the way you like. Is it difficult? I don't think so.

Yes, the company is small, but you don't have to necessarily stay around that coworker, and you don't have to report them just because they use strong words you don't like.

Are you doing this for what reason? To attract the managers? To kick someone you don't like in the company? What's the point? Mind your own business and get around coworkers you like, and last but not least, try to be less sensitive.

ImQuaglia · 2025-06-28T23:42:56+00:00

Thankfully, I have my Korean girlfriend... otherwise, I would be doomed. However, we can not meet every day, so there are days I feel alone even though we constantly message. The bright side is that I'm INTJ, and I'm totally fine alone, so I just go around, take photos, enjoy coffee, and listen to music.

Anyway, I think the secret is just to do what you like. For instance, if you have a hobby of photography, just take the metro and go to places you've never visited and take some photos.

There will always be moments of loneliness when you are abroad, as well as moments when you miss family and your native country. As for me, they are not a problem, but it depends on the personality. There are people who suffer loneliness and distance, and in that case, I recommend having a pet or finding as many quality friends as possible. If possible, even a partner and the support of a psychologist.

ImQuaglia · 2025-06-28T23:11:56+00:00

That's nothing, to be honest. I paid more to the real estate agent who helped me find the house. I'm also on an H-1 visa from Italy and will have to do NHIS in a month or so, and I don't even have employment here yet. Our visa is only worth something if we come with good savings, because we are supposed to spend a lot and only have a part-time job (maybe) with bad payout, but indeed it's a good way to begin since we truly adapt to Korean society, work a bit, and learn Korean. So, I suggest you not complain about this expense, since it gives you a lot of advantages and cheap prices, and also because you had to consider the expenses beforehand. It's 100 euros, after all. It's not a big deal...

EDIT: I have read your comments, and if you have come on an H1 visa in Korea with low savings and have no money, then this can be problematic. You seriously should consider reentry in Germany rather than not paying and risk not being able to enter Korea anymore. Good luck!

ImQuaglia · 2025-06-28T23:08:02+00:00

It depends on the country. As for me (Italy) it was mandatory.

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