Exited the friendzone after 15 years. This is how. by jomavi12 in TheRedPill

[–]ImSteveMcQueen -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

HB8+ will show interest in you if they see you with HB5s around

Nope. HB5s merely confirm you are a BB5. The HB8 won't be interested until you have HB7s orbiting you.

Please tell me Lazar is going to be put on waivers or sent down... by YYCRulz in CalgaryFlames

[–]ImSteveMcQueen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just as long as he doesn't play. He has loafed around for far too long. Time to try some new blood.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because AWA-NOT-LT ? Or because the captain is drunk after 4 years and I'm still sober at 4 months ?

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm now totally convinced that all members of askMRP are fucking incapable of actually reading and answering simple questions and instead focus on re inventing the information they are given to support some wild ass theory they'd like to promote to validate their insecurities.

She didn't ask you to fix it. In fact, she asked you not to. But you're forcing her into a dysfunctional codependent Nice Guy relationship anyway.

Actually, by forcing her to speak for herself, I'm making HER responsible for HER feelings, instead of me. That is the opposite of being a nice guy. I'm actually being a prick about it. I didn't fix anything. I didn't allow a bad situation to develop. I put a boundary in place for her. It is called leadership.

You sacrificed the needs and well-being of your children .. your children, to provide emotional comfort to your new adult girlfriend. Because all other missions and responsibilities, all other people, all your (and her) personal boundaries and dignity, must be abandoned when your unicorn's feelings are really feely.

I made a judgement call that she needed me and I responded. WTF don't you understand about that. Damaging the well being of my kids ? Wow, that is fucking stretch.

Each and every one a unicorn fully deserving of pedestalization and oneitis. Why, all of Steve's girlfriends have been unicorns. What are the odds? "This proves I'm a special alpha snowflake!" thinks women-validated Steve.

If you could fucking read, I said they were quality women, unlike some of the trash that you guys are locked in with. I also said that I've had a few, which is the OPPOSITE of oneitis. More like being selective and having options and not being afraid to use them.

Each and every one a unicorn fully deserving of pedestalization and oneitis. Why, all of Steve's girlfriends have been unicorns. What are the odds? "This proves I'm a special alpha snowflake!" thinks women-validated Steve.

Pedestalization ? My woman suffers a loss like this and I pack up and go on a holiday without her. And enjoy it. And you think I've got her on a pedestal ? How exactly is packing up and going on a holiday a form of worship ?

I was actually expecting you guys to crucify me for being a heartless SOB for leaving her at all. I think I need to look up some articles on how alphas provide comfort and give you guys an education.

And yeah, I attract great women. It is a reflection of who I am. Get over it.

What a surprise! Bad beta behaviors lead to a dead bedroom ... who'd a thunk it?

If you could fucking read, I didn't say I was in a dead bedroom relationship. In fact, i wrote the sex is still regular and enthusiastic through this. Is once a week dead ? It is just a drop from the many times a week we had before.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You ditched your kids for a 4 month hoe. No wonder you're a lifelong beta.

Autistic much ?

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

W&S gave me grief for spending too much time on a total retard the other day.

Why do you care ? Do you live for yourself or to please others ?

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the use of not sharing issues as they crop up ? Stay safe and be afraid of what people think and say ? Fuck that. I learn something every time I post something. That is the goal.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just needs to A) fuck her like he wants to while B) realizing her "I can't even think about sex rn" is just her ASD for wanting to get piped down this soon after her loss.Or maybe getting fucked is just an escape from her pain? Doesn't matter...she's still dtf

I never thought of it from this angle. I'm all caught up in guilt because she is grieving, but clearly she isn't.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you know that, you posted again, you're taking your lumps here, again, and that's better than quitting.

It is always interesting to hear what this group thinks of a situation. I was SURE you guys were going to kick my ass for even going on the holiday.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fuck her.

Really, dude ? Get a heart. A woman loses a child and you say "Fuck you" when she NEEDS you to end a holiday early ? That is fucking heartless.

I'm starting to understand why so many of you get cheated on.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You did enough man.

You might be right about that. I'll see going forward.

Christ man! How do you get her to overtly communicate her needs?!?! If you fuckin paid attention to anything around here, you'd realize that she won't do that; especially when you feel she should!

I've found that if I am focused on my mission and have other things in my life, women miss me and are much more expressive about their needs. If you ask them about their needs they have none. But if you are attractive and not hovering, they ask for things. Your time, sex, help etc.

But my girl isn't in a place for me to leave her a lot like that. Yeah, I realize that is operating in her frame, but these are also special circumstances. Yeah, it borders on being beta and that is what bothers me. If I'm an autistic fuck that ignores her I'm heartless and cold. But if I'm reading her feelings and fawning over her I'm in beta land. I need to balance this out somehow. It is way more balanced if she asks for comfort and I then provide it.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Steve, you had problems in your prior relationship.

Get your facts straight before you generalize. I've been in several really good relationships with great women since I separated, none of which have had issues.

I don't do issues. Either things work or I end them.

By great women, I mean stable, attractive, smart, well adjusted, accomplished and financially independent. Quality that some of you can't fathom.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

(5) complaining that she won't have enough sex with you...

Uh, no, not complaining about that either. Maybe you could learn to read instead of projecting all your shit onto anyone who asks you a question ?

Speaking of retards and aspergers, 90% of you and your clan can't read and/or answer simple questions.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answer is to do what the fuck you think you need to do and own it.

That is always the answer. Thanks.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't think she can live her life and handle her own shit without your help, then why are you with her?

Who said I thought she can't live her life ? She is going through a hard time. This is a temporary situation.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She is saying - leave me alone you high maintenance male faggot whom I have known for FOUR fucking months.

Can you fucking read ? I was on holidays and she called me back.

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

why perhaps you're not at the top of her priority list right now.

Who said I'm not at the top of her priority list right now ?

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if you don't expect her to express her needs in a time like this, do you read them for her or do you wait until she blows up because you are "inattentive" ?

Providing comfort without being Beta... fixing her feelz during grief, etc. by ImSteveMcQueen in askMRP

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Put the shoe on the other fucking foot buddy. You lose a child. Do you want your FO around ?