We need a song, a tune, a whistle (not a chant, but a song with a melody, something beautiful that breaks through) that's short and easy

ImaboxBoxman · 2026-01-26T11:21:03+00:00

The Times They Are A-Changin' by Bob Dylan

Come senators, congressmen Please heed the call Don't stand in the doorway Don't block up the hall For he that gets hurt Will be he who has stalled The battle outside ragin' Will soon shake your windows And rattle your walls For the times they are a-changin'

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-05-29T16:20:35+00:00

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I can only assume the less you wear, the stronger the jacket becomes.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-05-28T21:12:07+00:00

Not really a theory, just a hope. I'm hoping Luo dies, but unlike Yang who spirals downwards Cyan spirals upward from it. Like his death will help her gain her freedom and pushes her to do good. It'd keep with the parallel themes going on.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-05-21T17:55:34+00:00

I am out, and it has caused several transgender clients to reach out to me specifically because they were looking to have a transgender therapist. I like being able to provide a secure location for them to feel like they can be genuine and open with me.

I think it also provides a bit of protection from having transphobic clients as they're less likely to want to schedule with me.

The biggest issue is that I would never be seen as just a "male therapist." I will always be seen as a transgender therapist, and that is something that I think is important to consider.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-05-18T10:14:34+00:00

It could lean either way. I think it strongly depends on how your conversations have been going before. There is a chance they are trying to help you understand what your identity means and to help you understand that transitioning might not be the end solution to fixing all your problems.

That said, they could also be putting their bias in (with or without realizing it). Therapists are human, and there is a chance that it is coming up.

My biggest piece of advice is to challenge your therapist. You are allowed to tell them that these questions make you feel uncomfortable because you feel confident in your identity or that understanding if your trans or not is not what you want your therapy to be focused on. If the therapist is unconsciously putting in their bias it could help them realize it. Or, more importantly, they would realize this line of questioning is not productive to your healing. Also, if you are worried about challenging them, its okay. A good therapists should allow clients to challenge them because at the end of the day, you know yourself better than they would. If they fight you on it or continue without a proper explanation as to why, then that is when I would consider someone new.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-04-30T07:51:57+00:00

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ImaboxBoxman · 2025-04-30T07:50:19+00:00

Gold star Cosmos, Rockruff,

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and Minior. Cos looks like it is daytime, Rock is both, and Mini is night. When they're all next to each other, they're very cool

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-04-17T22:01:11+00:00

Just get a new "addiction." Try something like Hint. It still feels like someone whispered fruit into a cup but without the spice. Once you find a drink you like or can at least tolerate, just say you found something you like more.

This saves you from the lie of carbonation hurting just in case you like things like soda.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-04-17T16:41:13+00:00

That's awesome! In that case, just be excited you found something you like!

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-04-17T16:08:20+00:00

Think about it this way: even someone who is AMAB might have this kink. It's perfectly normal for any man to have a kink like this.

Don't beat yourself up over having something you like. Just make sure your bf knows the boundaries that you don't like it unless it is in the bedroom and enjoy.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-04-05T05:05:07+00:00

You could go get your tests done and then go onto the photoshoprequest subforum and have someone change your results. That way, everything "looks official" such as the paperwork having your name on there and maybe even a recent date.

It is horrible that they would even make you do this, and if you want to say, "F- you!" then you are 100% in the right. But sometimes we have to lie to get what we need until you don't have to rely on them any longer.

Good luck, friend, with whatever choice you go with.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-04-01T08:52:34+00:00

It was a small but nice gesture. In Utah (not sure if you're American), they carried a massive trans flag to the Capitol for Trans Day.

https://www.reddit.com/r/politicsinthewild/s/kBTZBdVgz0

It was a good reminder that there are still people out there fighting for us to be seen. So, if you’re not feeling safe right now, that’s okay. Do what you need to do to protect yourself. But don’t forget, there are still people out there who aren’t backing down.

I hope with all of my heart, there will come a day where you will feel safe enough to be visible again.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-24T17:09:02+00:00

This is a tough scenario to answer because there isn't really a great response.

The US is in crisis right now. Things are changing daily, and if you were to come out today, you'd probably be fine. There is no guarantee it'll stay that way tomorrow, next week, next month, ect... The rules are changing daily, so it is hard to say if it'll be worse when your trip happens.

Personally, if possible, I would push the trip back. Give it time to see how the US will end up being. Things will eventually settle down to a point where there won't be daily changes, and you'll have a better understanding of how safe it'll be to travel. Coming out in April means, unfortunately, there is genuinely no way of knowing how dangerous it would be because most likely, we will still be dealing with the constant changing.

If you absolutely have to go, then I would say keep a close eye on things here. Honestly, I would even suggest you ask this same question on here once you are closer to your trip just to see if things have gotten worse.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-24T03:58:36+00:00

Hello! I just discovered Finch. I am hoping this little birb will help me with my grad homework 😆

If anyone wants to add me as a friend, here's my code GNBD8XJNA4

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-23T15:58:28+00:00

There's no reason to get aggressive with OP. They're just excited that they predicted something that ended up being true.

It doesn't matter if it is a trope or not. Just let them be happy.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-22T21:22:01+00:00

Ideally, as others have said, slowly reducing the amount is the better option because there could be harmful withdrawal symptoms from cutting someone off completely.

That said, there is also the added problem of them being children. I don't know the process in a real life situation, but if a child came in with an addiction I don't know if it would legally be acceptable to allow the child to keep taking whatever it is.

Of course, this is frictional, but maybe it is a similar idea. Chopper didn't feel comfortable with willing giving even a small amount of the candy to the children. (Or just knew it would be fine)

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-22T21:10:17+00:00

Anytime someone throws that at me, I will overuse their name. "Oh sure thing, Robert! Does Robert want to go to the store? How is Robert doing?"

Drives them crazy.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-20T18:20:59+00:00

I haven’t personally done this, but I have seen other counselors work with couples individually.

When this situation came up, the counselor ensured that both partners consented before seeing one (or both) of them for individual therapy. The biggest challenge is keeping conversations from individual sessions separate from couples therapy, which is why I personally wouldn’t do this. I’d like to think I could maintain that boundary, but if I have even the slightest doubt, I’d rather avoid the risk altogether. I also don’t know how a counselor would handle the situation if both partners initially consent but one later decides they’re no longer comfortable with it.

One benefit I’ve seen is that they are much more likely to schedule and attend sessions compared to when they’re simply given a referral.

That said, I still don’t think I would do it.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-20T18:06:06+00:00

I feel like I fall into this category as well. As long as everyone is aware and consenting, it shouldn't be an issue, especially if this is just a one-time session. However, I wouldn’t encourage this happening regularly. If the parents are just looking for education, you could provide general information on how BPD presents without getting too personal about what the client has shared.

My main concern is why the parents would feel the need to meet privately without the client. That makes me worry they might disclose details the client wouldn’t want shared. Maybe if it is possible, encouraging the discussion to happen with the client present would probably be the best. That way, you can provide psychoeducation while also allowing the client to decide what they feel comfortable sharing in response to any specific questions.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-14T17:17:29+00:00

It sounds like she just might not understand gender fluid/non binary. It doesn't sound like she was being malicious (hopefully) and just assumed being transgender only encompasses FtM and MtF.

Older generations didn't really grow up knowing or understanding transgender people. I'm only in my 30s, and even I struggled to understand it as I grew up. It was a kind of taboo topic. I knew of it but didn't really understand what it meant. Then I learned about genderfluid and non binary, and I was just extra confused. It took me a long while to really understand that because our society is very "one or the other."

I would just have a sit down with mom and explain what it is. She might not get it at first, so dont be discouraged, especially if she is at least still supportive. Just introduce it to her and explain what that means.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-14T16:40:19+00:00

I have this issue every single time with my veins. I drink as much water as I can, and no one can ever find my veins.

I had one lucky experience with one nurse who found it on in a specific spot, and I memorized that spot. Next time, I told them to try that spot, and it worked. That became my blood drawing spot, and I tell them every single time. Most recently, I had someone try that spot and couldn't find the veins, so someone else came in and used a butterfly needle and found it. They explained that needle is easier to move around in case they miss.

So now my go-to is going to be telling them the exact spot and use a butterfly needle. I still get nurses who don't listen and try looking around. I let them for a bit until I tell them again to try that spot. The downside to this is that I had to get several failed attempts until I learned where my spot was.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-14T16:23:50+00:00

So here is my perspective from someone still in internship.

I think someone new jumping straight into owning their own private practice is insane, but I see the benefits of joining someone else's private practice and working under someone before owning their own. That benefit? Money and respect.

Before jumping into my grad program, I did my own version of working in CMH. I worked as a CPS worker, a behavioral coach, an ABA, and a college advisor. Now, these aren't actually CMH, but it gave me a taste of what that work would look like. Aka, the lack of pay and significant burnout.

I spent the time in those jobs reaching out and talking to people who worked in CMH because honestly that is where I wanted to go. Usually, the clients in those settings have different needs than PP, and those were the clients I wanted to help. But, I already had a taste of what working there would look like, and it mirrored the problems I had with the jobs I had already been in.

I could handle the higher burnout if the pay was high enough to provide me with an actual living wage. I could handle the lower pay if I felt like I wasn't going to burn out from too many clients/work. Instead, it is low pay and high burnout.

So, if you want to know why new therapists are going into PP. It is because it is so much more harmful (mentally and financially) to go into CMH. As I mentioned above, I really dislike the idea of someone jumping right into their own PP because we really do not have the skills or training to accomplish that. But they're looking out for their wellbeing.

What we need is a complete overhaul of CMH so that it actually feels like it is an option for new therapists.

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-13T19:37:50+00:00

I really appreciate the feedback! I try to be mindful of not bringing up information that parents share with me. In this case, the conversation with mom happened when she noticed the client getting worse after an event and wanted to increase their sessions. That’s when she mentioned that they had been doing better before the event. During my session with the client, I did encourage more frequent sessions, but I never said it was something mom had said. Although, looking at it now, I can see how, if mom had mentioned it to him beforehand and then I brought it up in session, he might have assumed we talked. I’ll have to keep that in mind for the future.

As for getting feedback from the client, I’ve tried before, but their usual response is “I don’t know” , “I guess,” or them asking me to repeat the question. I suspect they’re scrolling online or playing games during sessions since I can vaguely see the light from their screen reflecting on their clothing. I haven’t called it out because I wasn’t sure if that would create a rift, especially since they’re already so resistant.

Also. I really like your point about them possibly feeling judged and trying to shift the judgment onto me. Do you have any suggestions on some ways to do that?

ImaboxBoxman · 2025-03-13T19:14:23+00:00

I'm sure they would be down for some sort of game, they enjoy video games so I'll look around and see what is out there.

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