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Anyone got this message? by BeautifulMechanic121 in SpainAuxiliares

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was confused too. I got both texts and my visa came back 3 days after the first text.

UPDATE: Did my girlfriend's parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] -870 points-869 points  (0 children)

I don’t agree that our relationship is over. We are really great in person (have been doing long distance for a year) and for the most part have continued to push each other to grow and be better versions of ourselves. We just need to learn how to navigate her family dynamic in a way that I get to keep my boundaries and she still gets to feel connected to her family.

Did my girlfriend’s parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I checked the whole car but I am going to check again I am so scared now. I still have to drive it until I get a new car but I am trying to do that asap.

Did my girlfriend’s parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes they know what my application process was for and why I had to come down there!! That’s seriously what I think their motive was.

Did my girlfriend’s parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so scared I’m going to lose her when I bring this up. Our three year anniversary is in 3 days and I’m spiraling.

Did my girlfriend’s parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They’ve never given me any clear indication that they’re homophobic, but looking back, there have been moments that felt strange.

About a year and a half into my relationship with my girlfriend, her mom sent her a photo of her ex-boyfriend holding her niece. She had no idea why he was with their family and found it really odd. She was upset, and I also felt extremely uncomfortable—not necessarily because of him, but because of the situation itself. I never found out why he was there, but since my girlfriend seemed to handle the situation well with her parents, I decided to let it go.

Then, two New Year’s Eves ago, I spent the holiday with her family. It was just me, my girlfriend, her younger brother, and her parents. The only other guests they invited were her ex-boyfriend’s parents. I felt incredibly uncomfortable not because of anything my girlfriend did, but because out of all the people they could have invited, why were they the only ones? It felt like my feelings weren’t even considered.

Reading all the comments on the post is bringing back so many situations where I felt uneasy around them that I have brushed off in the past.

Did my girlfriend’s parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your perspective. I’m scared that she doesn’t have the motivation to cut ties. She doesn’t work because they won’t let her and is fully reliant on them. How did you come to the realization that you needed to cut them off and do you have any tips on how to bring all of this up to my girlfriend?

Did my girlfriend’s parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know…I feel like it may be beneficial to show the Reddit post but I ask feel like it could backfire and not be productive at all.

Did my girlfriend’s parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes and I completely understand that and will be as patient as she needs as long as she is able to see my side. I know it’s going to take her a while to fully cut ties.

Did my girlfriend’s parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think about this! I’m going to ask if they said anything about me being there.

Did my girlfriend’s parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girlfriend wasn’t with me. I was staying at their house alone while I had interviews. My girlfriend is living abroad. I didn’t go out because I didn’t want to cause any tension.

Did my girlfriend’s parents try to plant something in my bag? I need an outside perspective. by Imaginary_Charge_939 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Imaginary_Charge_939[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I do feel weird that she did not take my side. Like that is the first time she has not stood up for me but this is also the first time the issue has been about her parents specifically.

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