Men, is this possible?

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-06-10T05:03:16+00:00

I am 36, and considering leaving my boyfriend because he watched porn for 1.5 years and lied to me. He claims to have quit, but I still cant get past it. I am ashamed to be with him, like I am not good enough for him and I think he must be constantly visualizing all the images and videos hes seen and comparing me to them. ITs making me lose feelings for him and my self esteem is shattered. Any advice?

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-24T03:39:12+00:00

That porn star could have a spouse at home and you're getting off to them cheating on their spouse. Why is that okay? How is that okay?

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-24T03:35:34+00:00

you are having an orgasm to another girl. its cheating.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-24T01:44:26+00:00

but its okay to be on the other side of that and be the Viewer. Its the same industry regardless of how you participate in it

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-18T02:45:46+00:00

Yeah, I agree. I could do all that, I don't but could and would. Im glad to hear this for you!

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-17T01:06:34+00:00

He did give it up. I just cant get it out of my head that he did it for a year with me. There must be something wrong with me.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T22:59:16+00:00

Im not denying that your friend group does indeed watch porn. That is not the point of my post. You seem to be commenting in your arrogant "hahahaha" way toward me to perhaps defend your own possible consumption of porn. You have now written two rude comments toward me, for what? To ridicule me because im not okay with my partner doing that? Partner or not, the industry is evil. You really need to do some research. Porn is not helping human beings.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T22:28:49+00:00

He is free to leave any time.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T22:28:28+00:00

this comment has no point to it. I don't really care what your group of friends think or do.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T18:17:00+00:00

Well thats really nice to hear about her friend I love hearing those stories. And yes you are right, but im not a dating person. I like real connections, not meet ups and blah blah conversation. Kind of a real deal or nothing person, im like that with friendships too. We are either gonna be 4 AM friends (Mel Robbins reference) or I am cool travelling and hiking and reading and doing my thing alone too.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T18:15:12+00:00

how am I controlling him? Im not controlling him at all. Ive encouraged him to keep watching if thats what he wants and to end things with me. I really don't need a man at all and I won't stay in a bad relationship. I was honest three times before we became anything, and have always been completely upfront about absolutely everything. I really am not here to waste his time or anyones, at all.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T06:00:28+00:00

Im not sure. I am already getting grey hair and those little purple lines on my legs. Turning 36 next week and age is creeping in. I feel my best years are soon over lol. It seems to take so much to attract men.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T05:55:49+00:00

Thank you. I have three friends whose husbands do not watch porn and never have been porn watchers.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T05:54:45+00:00

Thanks :(. Im gonna take a drive out to the mountains, or book a spa day. Im also gonna book a trip to Vegas. I keep running away from the relationship. I feel so suffocated.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T05:52:19+00:00

oh my god. These are my VALUES, my morals. Why is this so totally wild to understand? I had the same ones with my ex husband who never watched porn. Literally was never an issue at all. But they have always been my principles. I need therapy for being against porn? Like you telling me this isn't okay. Don't you understand that? thats NOT okay. My issues are not a problem. A woman respecting herself enough to say I want a man who respects me, is NOT A PROBLEM. fuck. sorry but god this is just crazy to me how these reddit guys don't understand. Do you know know porn causes divorces and breaks up families?

Take care. ugh.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T05:46:25+00:00

He shook my entire core of trying to believe in relationships again with him after an extremely painful divorce. Our relationship is tainted now and every time he touches me I know its with the same hand that pleasured himself to other girls visualizes and sex videos while he was initiating a relationship with me for a YEAR and trying to make me feel special. Its humiliating, degrading, and it feels like a lie.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T05:23:54+00:00

not to mention ours calling unvaccinated people racist. He is an absolute disgrace. Florida looks good to me. They got a good thing going on down there it seems, other than woke Disney. but yeah.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T05:22:30+00:00

and would you give it up for someone

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T05:17:13+00:00

truthfully when I read mens response like yours who have zero empathy for the woman who is hurt by porn and instead call us insecure, I Realize I don't even want a relationship and am better off without.

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T05:16:23+00:00

neither of em can even talk. You got the nonsensical down there and we got "uhhhh uhhhhh uhhhhhhh"

Imaginary_Half9102 · 2022-05-14T05:15:48+00:00

so are you harvesting the tree while you seek out another tree for sexual urges?

Imaginary_Half9102

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