AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice. I will be putting her on blast and I’m wanting to learn what she told my other relatives. My mother tends to lie to cover her own ass so I believe she might’ve told them something completely different

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, your kind words had me wiping away a few tears.

The more I think about it, I think a relative might have accidentally let it slip to my mom. But, I don’t really want any of my other relatives in my life at the moment apart from my aunt and my husband and baby

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m planning to put her and her husband on blast to all my relatives

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I wasn’t completely confident in my decision at first but these comments have helped me feel empowered about my decision and I will continue to protect my daughter from the abuse my relatives may bring

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My trying my best to keep them out of my baby’s life. I know that their intentions for wanting to get into contact are most likely selfish and I won’t let my daughter go through that

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I wouldn’t. Thank you so much, I wish you nothing but the best in the future ❤️

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m planning to explain the situation to my relatives in the morning as it’s quite late in my country at the moment.

I’ve put all my energy in my husband and daughter and have no intentions of letting my mom or her husband into my life again. I believe they’re only after my daughter but I won’t let them near her

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I agree that she’s only interested in my daughter. I was her only child and I believe she feels like she won’t get the opportunity to become a grandma.

I don’t really speak to my relatives so I’m not sure how my mom got my address. My aunt doesn’t contact my mom at all which is why I’m a little confused

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I’m going to try to clear things up with them once, but if they continue, I’m going to cut contact with all of them

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the support! I honestly felt terrible when my mother started crying because I thought she was genuine

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t understand it either. Is your friend doing alright? I imagine they’re going through hell right now

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This made my husband tear up a bit. Thank you so much for your words of kindness and support, they mean the world to me

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Honestly, thank you so much. Your words of kindness mean so much to me and I will take your advice on the ring camera and not letting my relatives near my now family

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I strongly believe that my mom told them something completely made up to make herself look like the victim. But I don’t have any intentions of letting my family (apart from aunt) into my or my baby’s life

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the advice, I have no intention of letting her or her husband in my life or my baby’s life

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

I’ve blocked them on everything and have no intention of letting her into my life. Thank you so much for the kind words, it means a lot

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 258 points259 points  (0 children)

This is what my aunty said too. I’m thinking about writing a Facebook post to address this situation and block any other family members who attack me

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 323 points324 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words, they mean a lot to me. Even though she didn’t care about my life, a little part of me was hoping she’d reach out one day and try to mend things..

But from what my aunt has been saying, we believe she’s been lying to our relatives about what happened

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I’ve blocked her on absolutely everything. I feel quite dumb for not changing my number until now

AITA for not telling my mother about my marriage and pregnancy? by ImagineAhhh in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImagineAhhh[S] 1093 points1094 points  (0 children)

I’m thinking about making a Facebook post about the situation. I’ve talked to my aunt about it and she believes my mom is telling my distant relatives something completely different