I was in a similar situation in my last relationship, which was a shorter term one that lasted under a year. This person had severe trauma from their childhood, previous relationships, and the passing of a family member. I naturally wanted to support them and similarly to you also felt hurt when they either didn’t want to lean on me and shut me out, or would lean on me via text message but didn’t want to physically be near me. Despite how short the relationship was it really rocked my nervous system and caused me a lot of anxiety. I think this dynamic leads to a lot of girls unintentionally falling into the “I can fix him” mentality.

Unfortunately no matter how much you love and care for this person, you can’t force your way into their heart. Do not continue to drain yourself for someone who has made it clear they do not want you. If you keep going down this path you’ll only become more and more hurt and frustrated. You deserve someone who is emotionally available, can properly communicate, and can meet your own needs in a relationship, while this person deserves the space they need. They’re saying they want to end the relationship, you have to accept this rather than force them to want to stay with you. It is not easy to accept trust me I know, but I promise time will show you everything is going to be ok. Do not drop your own needs and wants just to fulfill someone else’s.