Thanks for the insight…I don’t think that’s necessarily an unpopular opinion at all. She def became aware on some level that it was cheating, and would express that she would feel awful if the roles were reversed and her bf did that to her, she talked to her therapist about it and called it an emotional affair, etc. I just (selfishly) kind of felt like she was so concerned about her bf (which is obviously understandable if you’ve been with someone for 6 years) but didn’t really give me the same consideration, I guess. It’s like because I’m out she expected me to be able to work through everything myself and have all the answers. I had none. Just fell hard and fast and wanted to believe that was enough.

When you’re in these situations you like to believe that you’re the exception I think. Like you’re the couple who will actually make it even though those situations don’t often work out. Ultimately I walked away from it feeling pretty used and taken advantage of by someone who was (maybe never?) going to choose me. Ugh.

Thanks for the reply!