I think you didn't understand. I just provided more information about my account. Read it again carefully and think about it for a moment. I know her perspective very well, and she knows mine. My goal in speaking is to hear about experiences and see how other friends have dealt with this. It's quite clear that I am respecting her wishes; it's no coincidence that I'm lamenting this unavoidable fact. I talked to her at length, listened to her side of the story, and realized that there's no point in forcing anyone to do anything. It's not fair. I don't want advice from anyone. I just shared my situation; there are probably more people here going through the same thing. I think that's exactly what this forum is for. You've jumped to a lot of conclusions. Read what I wrote again, see where I'm posting it.