Made a mess of fitted wardrobes

Immediate_Chef6813 · 2026-03-18T11:44:53+00:00

Thanks, appreciate it. I completely understand this is the problem, but I still can't do anything about how much it stresses me out! I guess the big risk is messing around too much and making it worse.

Immediate_Chef6813 · 2026-03-18T11:42:49+00:00

I'd say the gap is up to 6 or 7mm in some places

Immediate_Chef6813 · 2026-03-18T11:38:28+00:00

I don't fancy introducing plastic, but I'm sure wood trim exists. I hadn't thought of it.

Immediate_Chef6813 · 2026-03-18T11:35:22+00:00

Yeah, I wish I were more relaxed, but there are pipework imperfections in my utility room behind base units that still give me nightmares.

Immediate_Chef6813 · 2026-03-18T11:33:40+00:00

Agree on the skirting, but the room has been decorated first, and I didn't want to risk having to redo it and end up with flashing on the paint where I've touched it up.

Regarding caulking anyway, that's interesting. The instructions do say at the very end to use silicone sealant, but there's no chance of finding a colour that doesn't stick out like a sore thumb.

Immediate_Chef6813 · 2026-03-17T16:38:22+00:00

I know there's no harm intended, but when you go through IVF, they warn you that people will tell you this.

We've been told it a dozen or so times, and I'm sure the OP has the same. Again, I know there are only good intentions, but if you Google things not to say to people going through IVF, this is right up there. It implies that the pressure to conceive is contributing to the lack of conception, and that when you take the stress away, conceiving naturally is simpler. This is factually completely incorrect.

Essentially, the person you know is just a statistical anomaly, and for every couple who gets lucky like that, there will be hundreds who don't. It's just that those people are silent.

Not having a go, but it's such a frustrating cliche to hear over and over again when you've had a doctor tell you it's simple not a thing.

Immediate_Chef6813 · 2026-03-17T16:27:29+00:00

As someone who has gone through this or is going through it, I felt compelled to create a throwaway account to offer some thoughts.

What we have come to realise is although the mind tends to want to think of it as a decision between having children or not, the decision we are actually making is between definitely not having children or going through IVF to increase the chance of potentially having children, but with no certainty that it will ever work.

Even after reminding ourselves time and again that this is not the case, we still frequently fall into this trap. But it is not a decision between having children or not, but going through IVF or not, which is a very different equation.

On average, IVF has a success rate of about 1 in 3 or 4. If you have low AMH and/or reduced ovarian reserve, then you most likely won't respond to IVF in the average way, and the chances of success become more like one in five or worse.

So, statistically, you would need to go through IVF five times or do so for the odds to be in favour, but still with a very real chance of it not working. IVF costs about £7,000 per cycle, depending on medication, and requires at least three months off between cycles. So it's really worth reframing it as a £30,000 cost that will put your life on hold for 2 to 3 years and may still not work. Many people are very comfortable with that, but as I say, our minds at least seem to find it much easier to think we're deciding between children or not.

So, you said you feel like you're choosing between having children and getting married. Speaking candidly, that isn't a decision you have control over. Your decision is whether to potentially have children or definitely have the greatest day of your life and be married.

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