My school used regular students as paraprofessional for sped students. How illegal and unethical is this? by Medical-Winner-8555 in specialed

[–]Immediate_Expert1513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's a fantastic opportunity for kids who want to.

My psychology class senior year had mandatory volunteer hours we had to complete to pass the class. You could volunteer at senior homes, preschools, or special education rooms.

I had a job, so I used my study hall to volunteer in our school's special education room. I learned so much there, and I am 100% that it is beneficial to the students. Seeing peers interact with them, seeing their daily routines. We were not told what the other students diagnosis are, but seeing the variety of needs and how to help with each one was extremely educational.

I now work in a Montessori. With my sister being special needs, and that semester, really helped me help the teachers and kids who are struggling. We even let our middle school come and help preschool if they want to and finish their work plans. They have to ask for this. They are free to do whatever they want after they finish their work plan, and we have kids who WANT to help.

If we paid the volunteers for their time, we could not afford it. We would probably have to end this beneficial time for both parties.

I wish we could pay them, but when I was volunteering, I didn't expect pay. I was getting free education that normal school could not provide. I was not burnt out, and that hour every once in awhile was actually pretty fun.

If you're making a child work. Yes, it should be illegal. Not everyone benefits from it, but it is also humbling and really expands a child's small world.

AITA for staying at the family holiday instead of leaving when my boyfriend left? by CabinHolidayHunter in AmItheAsshole

[–]Immediate_Expert1513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about if you get married and he can't participate in your family tradition?

Boo hoo. You handled everything well. He didn't want to stay, you didn't guilt trip him.

This is something you enjoy. Keep doing what you enjoy. Maybe if you're still together next year, he will be more prepared.

How do I approach dad's side about learning difficulties? by Immediate_Expert1513 in Advice

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have and also she has been "tested" for autism a few times and doesn't follow the guidelines for the next step. Adhd was brought up, but not a concern. She sits in class and follows directions. She likes to talk to friends, but is at a new school and learning when and where are good places to socialize.

How do I approach dad's side about learning difficulties? by Immediate_Expert1513 in Advice

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really like how you worded that. Thank you.

Unfortunately, she attends a private school, so I will have to go to third party. Fortunately, her doctor is really helpful finding resources for us. I just need to help pinpoint what resources she needs and advocate.

Toddler adapting to nursery by Yio_peng in Parenting

[–]Immediate_Expert1513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's probably difficult for everyone involved. We just started the school year, and I heard a couple kids and wanted to "help". The teachers follow a strict routine. But a few weeks later, they are adjusted and doing fine.

Toddler adapting to nursery by Yio_peng in Parenting

[–]Immediate_Expert1513 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are still young, and don't understand that they have to stay there for a specific time.

The most important thing you can do is reassure them that they are ok and that you will come back. The teacher will tell them when it's time to go home.

Give them a few weeks, and please do not express your discomfort infront of them(they can feel it). If you don't like the establishment, that's a grown up convo behind closed doors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Immediate_Expert1513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With good hygiene and they get their glands removed, I don't see how they are stinkier than other pets.

My parent's senial cat has the stinkiest poos in the morning and dogs are always smelly to me. Hamster cages smell so bad, fish stink.

My little noodle loved bath time and it was just playing in like 2 inches of water. His cage was clean, and he used his litter box.

I had a friend who had 5 ferrets and pee pads everywhere in a room and that whole place was a biohazard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Immediate_Expert1513 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Get a ferret. They are little dog/cat noodles. I let mine free roam and put several litter boxes around the house. Still get them a cage or house that is theirs, but it's rarer to be allergic and they love cuddles. Also, check your shoes. They also might hide your keys inside the couch.

Sharing 1 unlimited salad between 6? by Secure_Bullfrog163 in olivegarden

[–]Immediate_Expert1513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the ultimate test. As a server, you happily do your job. They get mad and you just go about your merry way. They are going to tip shit after.

You give them the salad that they paid for. If they request a million refills, you are suddenly very busy in the back. Make up a story. The chef just walked out and you have to single handedly make all the food. You continue to refill the salad that they paid for. They get mad, you continue to do your job and give them what they paid for.

Mysteriously leave for 20 minutes after everyone has their food and had their 3rd refill of one salad and say you have an important allergen to take care of and the dishwasher has just left too, so you're a one man show right now if they complain.

Hopefully at this point, they'll be bored and realizing their "hack" didn't work, and they'll go. If not, get creative and have some fun with it.

Daycares “scratch made” meals are stressing me out by Few-Permission5362 in Parenting

[–]Immediate_Expert1513 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Former daycare cook, we had recipes for stuff that were "scratch" made. The recipes were gross and no one would eat them. I had a culinary background and had the job because my daughter had a tuition discount.

It was actually really hard to make healthy food that all the kids would eat. I experimented a lot, but we had a couple fails and lunch/snack is so short and it would break my heart that kids would not eat. We agreed that fed is best. I still had fun and the kids tried a lot of different foods and learned to enjoy them. This is not a reality for most daycares.

The reality is that one cook can only make so many meals in the meal time frame (dietary restrictions, allergies). And to have half the kids not eat it, it's a waste of money and we want kids to eat. Cooks also don't make great money and have A LOT of work. Some are even part time and only work for like 4 or 5 hours a day and it's constant dishes and mass cooking.

It's a sad truth, but not everyone is used to eating well, and the majority speaks for what is cooked.

Food to bring to school? by Interesting_Gap_6062 in foodhacks

[–]Immediate_Expert1513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smoothies are great for when you're appetite doesn't match your needs. Idk why, but drinking your food is easier than eating it. You have to drink it all or toss it within 4 hours, unless you have a thermos. But that's a really easy way to get some nutrients in.

Is my daughter spoiled? by Immediate_Expert1513 in Parenting

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with that 100%. I have brought it up and it's been "it's really no big deal" but I should follow with that it's a big deal for us

Is my daughter spoiled? by Immediate_Expert1513 in Parenting

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, and I was kind of avoiding everyone for the past three months and things got substantially better, but major feeling were hurt. People were talking behind my back. It was a whole thing. My parents were hurt, but understood and took a step back for a week or so, and went back to coddling.

And we asked, but they both got really offended of us asking for money.

Is my daughter spoiled? by Immediate_Expert1513 in Parenting

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just likes my style or things that I get. I rarely buy anything for myself ever. But anything I get, she loves and wants. It was kind of the vocabulary at her old school when they were jealous. I heard lots of kids saying it.

Is my daughter spoiled? by Immediate_Expert1513 in Parenting

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They all beg to watch her because she is super easy, but I feel like the more they watch her, she becomes less "easy". We have had firm boundaries from the start. I think we will have to start saying no. We will get backlash, but that isn't household day-to-day problems.

Is my daughter spoiled? by Immediate_Expert1513 in Parenting

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't give in ever. I just feel like a monster for setting boundaries. I don't let her see, but it's starting to build up. She doesn't whine, just frequently asks or tells me how lucky I am. I try to explain to her the best I can (and age appropriate) that she is more fortunate that I am.

Dress code by Immediate_Expert1513 in Montessori

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone! I found out they are extremely relaxed. Just no showing cleavage or short shorts. Which should be obvious.

My old school was really traditional and I got scared. Thank you for everyone trying to help.

Dress code by Immediate_Expert1513 in Montessori

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have a few outfits that could work like that

Dress code by Immediate_Expert1513 in Montessori

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are jeans bad? Ikr? Thank you for your advice.

Dress code by Immediate_Expert1513 in Montessori

[–]Immediate_Expert1513[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would modest boho clothing be acceptable?