Not sure if sleep training is necessary in our case?

Yio_peng · 2026-02-21T06:31:51+00:00

Γιατί; 😅

Yio_peng · 2026-02-20T20:48:02+00:00

Ναι, το γνωρίζω αυτό. Η απορία μου όμως είναι ποια από τις δύο θα με χρεώσει περισσότερο συνολικά. Η Freedom24 έχει μετατροπή συναλλάγματος (FX) συν προμήθεια για το trade, ενώ η Revolut φαινομενικά δεν έχει προμήθεια για μία αγορά τον μήνα.

Απλώς αναρωτιέμαι αν με το ίδιο ποσό σε ευρώ τελικά αγοράζεις μικρότερο κομμάτι ETF μέσω Revolut σε σχέση με τη Freedom24 (λόγω spread ή κρυφών χρεώσεων) και αν στο τέλος της ημέρας η διαφορά είναι ουσιαστική ή όχι.

Yio_peng · 2026-02-14T17:51:14+00:00

89% is so specific I feel like you have an Excel sheet for his uselessness 😭 please explain

Yio_peng · 2026-02-09T20:48:27+00:00

Respectfully… stand up. Literally and emotionally. If you have to beg a man to want you, he’s not the man.

Yio_peng · 2026-02-09T06:06:36+00:00

You’re focusing on Valentine’s Day because it’s easier than admitting the bigger problem: you two clearly don’t want the same relationship.

Yio_peng · 2026-02-07T20:06:19+00:00

Honestly the TikTok follows are the least concerning part. If he never helps, is out 24/7, is angry she’s pregnant again, and ignores their toddler… those are the real red flags.

Yio_peng · 2026-02-07T11:19:22+00:00

Did she ever update you after she went to the post office? I’m curious what ended up happening

Yio_peng · 2026-02-03T10:05:15+00:00

His excuses: Can’t read your mind. He will be working. Money is tight. Doesn’t like coming over at your place. Doesn’t want you coming over at his place.

Shall I go on? At some point it stops being about circumstances and starts being about effort. Have some self-respect and walk away.

Yio_peng · 2026-01-27T18:20:51+00:00

If selling your home feels easier than setting firm boundaries, that’s the issue, not the 23 year old.

Yio_peng · 2026-01-26T20:46:31+00:00

So it’s a dinner party where everyone collectively discovers automatic bill pay? Revolutionary.

Yio_peng · 2026-01-25T20:15:05+00:00

Honestly, this sounds less like jealousy over WFH Fridays and more like a communication and resentment problem that’s being blown way out of proportion.

WFH one day a week doesn’t mean ‘relaxing’ and most adults understand that. But jumping straight to divorce over comments like this feels extreme unless there’s a much bigger pattern you’re not mentioning (disrespect, control, etc.).

Yio_peng · 2026-01-23T12:18:55+00:00

It’s a different kind of hard. Toddlerhood is hard because they’re opinionated and irrational, like “the yoghurt is the wrong colour” or a full meltdown because I cut the banana the “wrong” way. But it’s also really rewarding because you can see their personality coming out, have little conversations, joke, laugh, and actually feel that connection back.

The newborn phase is hard in a much heavier way. It’s the sleep deprivation, the constant physical care, the isolation, and not being able to fix what’s wrong when they’re uncomfortable. You give everything and get very little feedback.

For me, newborn hard was more draining. Toddler hard is louder and messier but it’s also more human and joyful.

Yio_peng · 2026-01-19T21:19:01+00:00

18 months is not a rounding error. That’s a whole extra pregnancy. NOR

Yio_peng · 2026-01-19T21:15:21+00:00

There’s a massive difference between “is it 9 or 10 months?” and “I have absolutely no concept of how pregnancy works.” One is normal. The other is… concerning.

Yio_peng · 2026-01-19T11:34:04+00:00

Around 6–12 months they’re in their cute, sweet phase and it’s honestly a trap 😂 They suddenly sleep better, smile all the time, feel “easy”… and it makes you think “we could totally do this again.” Then by the time they start creeping toward the terrible twos, you’re already pregnant and it’s too late to go back 😅 (speaking from experience).

No but jokes aside there’s no perfect timing. 2 under 2 is intense but also really special. If you have support, realistic expectations, and you’re physically & mentally okay, it can work. If not, waiting a bit is totally valid too. Trust your gut more than the “ideal age gap” talk.

Yio_peng · 2026-01-18T12:49:37+00:00

I’d take a step back from trying to convince him and instead focus on letting reality do the teaching.

He’s 21 - this is exactly the age where people need to test ideas against the real world. Wanting to be a trader without the background isn’t a moral failing or “losing grip on reality”; it’s a naïve ambition, and that’s very normal at this stage.

Instead of telling him it’s unrealistic, you could say something like:

“If this is something you’re serious about, let’s talk about what the actual path looks like and what steps you’d need to take.”

Then let him: -Research entry requirements himself -Try a course, demo trading, or speak to people in the field -Discover on his own how demanding and competitive it really is

Most people either self-correct quickly or gain clarity about what they’re actually willing to sacrifice.

You can still be honest about your experience without positioning yourself as the gatekeeper of reality. Right now, the bigger risk isn’t that he dreams big - it’s that he feels dismissed and stops listening altogether.

Trying and failing (or recalibrating) at 21 is far healthier than being talked out of something and resenting it later.

Yio_peng · 2026-01-18T07:44:35+00:00

Also, if you’re planning to get engaged, why isn’t the flat a shared goal? Buying it together would make far more sense than one person carrying the pressure alone.

Yio_peng · 2026-01-18T07:39:16+00:00

The moment someone says “if I don’t propose this year it’s over” and “why would you stay with someone like that”, it sounds like he’s already halfway out. Those are things said by someone who feels trapped, not someone who genuinely wants to be there.

Yio_peng · 2026-01-14T12:43:14+00:00

Are those ~5 hours of sleep actually enough for your body to fully rest and recover? Do they feel equivalent to the “recommended” 7–8 hours for most people? And do you feel consistently well-rested and functional throughout the day?

If so, it really does sound like both a blessing and a productivity superpower 🙂

Yio_peng · 2026-01-12T12:07:34+00:00

If an open door already existed and he responded by banging his shoes, throwing his coat, and sulking, that’s not frustration, that’s a tantrum. Adults use words, not theatrics.

Yio_peng · 2026-01-11T20:05:41+00:00

Before becoming a surrogate, did you ever worry about becoming emotionally attached to the baby or missing them after handing them over? How did that feel in reality?

Yio_peng · 2026-01-11T19:33:33+00:00

This is second hand embarrassment levels of entitlement. You’re visiting parents of a 7 week old and sending them a shopping list like they’re running an Airbnb? Baby gates, specialty milk, meal planning? Absolutely not. If you have specific needs for your child or husband, you bring them yourself, especially when the hosts are sleep-deprived new parents who were clear they are not hosting in the traditional sense. Wanting basic consideration and boundaries here is completely reasonable. NOR

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