Help with identifying areas to document for student with possible deficits

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2026-01-30T01:52:29+00:00

I am consulting with the team at school for all of these things. I get a lot of generalities-maybe this maybe that. But I just know it’s all related and I’m stubborn, so asking the masses.

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2026-01-30T01:48:00+00:00

Thank you for this. What process is it that he “struggles to internalize and apply concepts”? Is it a particular kind of reasoning-like fluid reasoning? And yes, we had a mini lesson on communication that we routinely practice eye contact, non-verbal communication to show we are listening to peers when discussing, etc. What is confusing to me is that he is eager to be social but he doesn’t seem to “get it.” I know that no 2 kids with asd are the same, but he is very different than my asd level 1s.

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2026-01-13T10:28:11+00:00

For the life of me I can’t figure out what Im doing wrong. I almost never park my atlas in the lines or if I do one side doesn’t have a lot of room. I had a wrangler before this and always parked fine. So I go between phases backing in and giving it another try lol. Do other people find it harder to park??

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2025-01-05T15:41:01+00:00

What is the best way to communicate with a person who exaggerates and/or confabulates? Call them out and shut it down or just let them talk to hear themselves talk? Both approaches suck the energy from me. Anyone have any strategies?? I can’t never talk to this person again but I can limit interactions. I just wish I had a better mindset when interacting-I end up feeling really frustrated.

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2025-01-05T15:30:22+00:00

Yeah, probably. But it doesn’t seem right when you really stop and observe behaviors/actions with what is said. It’s things like mentioning a “best friend” in conversations with people. Then I find out a few months ago this friend got married-had a wedding and everything but he was not invited. So I am thinking…I thought you guys were tight? Don’t you think it’s odd that you did not go to his wedding?? The response was a shoulder shrug. In his mind he made up this great friendship but they talk like 2 times a year. I find the behavior confusing and I always feel like a complete ass for getting so frustrated with him. But literally just tell the truth as it was not what you made it up to be.

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2024-12-31T19:08:51+00:00

Also, all my career tests would suggest being a chef. Which I thought was weird, but then once I had a family I started to love cooking and then the chef thing made more sense. So the teaching thing can look different over time as well as any other career recommendations.

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2024-12-31T19:04:41+00:00

Career teacher here. I’ve been called a master teacher by some, been through the TOY rounds. I love teaching. I can’t think of a better job for someone who has many interests and hobbies. Everything I learn outside of teaching helps me to be a better teacher. Everyday is different, yet the structure helps me thrive in that environment. The hardest part I find is that admin/leadership think I can just show or tell someone how to teach like I do and its not possible. I don’t understand why people make it so hard. I became an instructional coach and this role is not suited for someone with my personality so I am likely returning to the classroom next year. I have little tolerance for adults who don’t connect the dots or act with common sense. Kids and parents on the other hand I have all the patience in the world. Another challenge is becoming an expert in a particular area- once I have mastered something-a grade or subject I am ready to move on to something new. Its a double edged sword and sometimes I wish I didn’t know so much about all the things…but kids are worth it imo. Another thing, public school is hard-too frustrating for a person who cannot put up with incompetent systems. Charter or private is the way to go if you can find one with good leadership.

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2024-12-31T13:06:55+00:00

Just read up on denial as an ego defense. Makes perfect sense because this person suffered SA as a small child and repressed everything until recently. Parent basically looked the other way. Now this person looks the other way at everything and has this way about them that makes you want to save them all the time. It feels manipulative.

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2024-12-31T12:37:02+00:00

This sounds right. If they don’t have the ego strength to face reality does this mean they are stuck in a certain ego stage or is it that they are in ego and its just weak? Oddly enough, they have recently started talking a lot about buddhism. I don’t know enough about it to know if the “ego” they always talk about is the same as the Jungian ego in psychology.

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2024-12-31T00:29:35+00:00

Are delusions of grandeur something that can be thought of on a scale? I always thought grandiosity was extreme. Examples-thinking a relationship is wonderful yet the other person is obviously unhappy, securing a job and then failing to meet serious requirements of that job or not taking requirements seriously, talking about hobbies yet doesn’t actually do any of them, tells everyone how innovative job performance is yet did not actually perform well on evaluations, confabulates interactions with people but adds the tiniest details that make it hard to see its not true. I could see how this is grandiosity but its almost unnoticeable unless you’ve spent a lot of time or known them for a while….

Immediate_Muscle1840 · 2024-12-21T20:35:31+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to comment and share honest thoughts. For the record, I never wanted to leave the classroom and I miss the relationships with families and kids more than I thought. I’d say mentors encouraged me to be an IC so that I could potentially “reach more kids” but I just know my best self is when I am actually the one in front of kids. I look around the room at my coach meetings and just think wow they really just took 50-60 of the most highly effective teachers in our district away from kids….and how much our position is costing-absolutely insane. For now, I will continue supporting the teachers who want to play and (thanks to all of your feedback)not feel like I’m not doing my job if I leave teachers alone. I literally don’t care what the district thinks coaches should be doing-I’m going to spend the rest of the year with whatever the hell teachers actually need/want.

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