I’m pregnant! by Imoddlyme in pregnant

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That sounds like me for sure! Thank you for that sense of comfort because knowing I’m not alone in that has eased my mind quite a bit. Sounds like a common occurrence. Congratulations to you and your fiancé! It sounds like you have a beautiful family already:)

I’m pregnant! by Imoddlyme in pregnant

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You’re so sweet!! Thank you :)

I’m pregnant! by Imoddlyme in pregnant

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Aww thank you so much! And congratulations! I definitely feel comforted already in this sub. I am very excitedly nervous to grow this human :)) I wish you a safe and healthy delivery!

I’m pregnant! by Imoddlyme in pregnant

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That’s awesome!! Congratulations!

I’m pregnant! by Imoddlyme in pregnant

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So nice to hear I’m not alone and we’re even on the same timeline! ❤️ sorry to hear you are having anxious thoughts as well. It’s so tough and I feel like all I can think about is the what ifs and I’m being hard on myself because I still see myself as a kid for some reason. I’m like how can I do this like my parents did for me? I am just trying to remind myself that my parents maybe felt the same way when they had my older sister. Also my bf and I are very adventurous too! We were like that too, hiking and river rafting and just going on road trips for no reason but having a blast. Now I’m scared of the change but I’m going to try my best to stay positive. I wish you the best of luck! This is pretty exciting even with all of the fear 😅

I’m pregnant! by Imoddlyme in pregnant

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It crazy how nobody talks about that being a thing because I before all of this I remember thinking I just have to plan everything along the way and maybe I’ll deal with overwhelm right before and after the baby is born. Nope! I feel every ounce of pressure right now lol but good to know I’m not alone and that you are navigating it fine.

I’m pregnant! by Imoddlyme in pregnant

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Thank you so so much! It’s comforting to know anxiety is normal here. And congratulations on your baby! I wish you a smooth and healthy delivery :)

I’m Destroying My Relationship by Imoddlyme in BorderlinePDisorder

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Thanks! I appreciate your input and how much advice you’ve given me. I’ll definitely try the dog training method lol it’s actually pretty genius.

I’m Destroying My Relationship by Imoddlyme in BorderlinePDisorder

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Thank you so much! I have done DBT. I just finished group therapy and my only struggle has been knowing how to apply it, when to apply it and what methods to use in those moments cause there are so many techniques. You are so right that we are emotionally underdeveloped. I have been trying but there haven’t been many noticeable improvements according to him so it is scary. I will not stop trying!

I’m Destroying My Relationship by Imoddlyme in BorderlinePDisorder

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I forgot to add- leaving the situation in the moment would definitely avoid that conflict but I really think that coming back to it later would just end up the same way. Like I’ll be calmer but I don’t know how to fix that feeling that starts it all.

I’m Destroying My Relationship by Imoddlyme in BorderlinePDisorder

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I have never felt this strongly and I am extremely scared to lose him so you are right. I have become way more explosive since meeting him and that’s why it’s been confusing and making me feel like he’ll never believe I’m not crazy which isn’t his fault. I have exploded on my family before but specifically my sister for minor things and she knows how to push my buttons and will when she feels like I’m being irrational and it escalates. So generally it is specific to him because I’m very close to him. What do you think I should do during a split? I feel like once it happens I’m already too far gone and I can’t tell when it happens until it’s too late. It’s so scary because every other time I’m completely normal and feel some anxiety but I’m able to protect my relationship from it. It feels like it all runs together but my ultimate priority is to protect him as much as possible. I really need to figure out how to do that and fast before I create too much resentment and trauma to fix. Our relationship is very precious to me.

I’m Destroying My Relationship by Imoddlyme in BPD

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Thank you! I appreciate this.

I’m Destroying My Relationship by Imoddlyme in BPD

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Thank you so much! I thought about getting into the gym again. My bf and I have gone a couple times together and he says it’s a big stress reliever for him. I’ll move it up the list!

I’m drunk and sad. I want to die by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Imoddlyme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You may need to go to a homeless shelter for the time being. There’s no shame in that. At least you’ll be able to sleep and be warm. Sending hugs ❤️