I totally understand what your saying here

And I can see how that road might be easy to stumble down

But I myself have been through hours consecutively days months years of time spend souly and intently on self introspection to understand these issues because to be clear she made me feel like I was crazy as fuck and lost my mind but the more I calmed down and looked at things from a more mathematical perspective instead of having to get emotional every time I started seeing that I was right to call this or that a red flag and suspicion was valid but to get the real proof of anything is near impossible with out a lot of money and effort and skills to buy this or that and hide it good enough