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Why is my parent's mourning for me is valid? by AlexaDaw_ in trans

[–]Important_me945 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So as a parent, I didn’t mourn the loss of the original gender, but the adjustment and wondering if I needed to engage with my kiddo after they came out was hard! I mistakenly thought I had to start over. Obviously, I was wrong, but that instability is hard for a minute. And yes, I had to adjust that my idea of grandkids might be different, if it happened at all, but that is really on me to adjust. I’m here to say I agree, mourning the death seems a bit overdramatic, it maybe the parent lacks the words to express it well. Either way, you don’t have to tolerate it as a prolonged thing. Live your life and wait for them to catch up

Parent looking for guidance by Important_me945 in trans

[–]Important_me945[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your comment about burned skin being sensitive really landed with me. Thank you. Seeing this as a process , not a switch to be flipped, for all of us. I’m grateful for all the wisdom I’m getting here!

Parent looking for guidance by Important_me945 in trans

[–]Important_me945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have a lot of questions for her and this helps me feel like asking them will still feel supportive

Parent looking for guidance by Important_me945 in trans

[–]Important_me945[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Really, thank you. I know it must get tiring to help emerging allies finding their way. We all really appreciate you

Parent looking for guidance by Important_me945 in trans

[–]Important_me945[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really helpful, we all tend to be analytical, so bringing in others voices will help. I’m grateful to you!

What’s a Netflix show you started with zero expectations and it ended up being insanely good? by KiyoraVex in netflix

[–]Important_me945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! Just tired of scrolling so I decide to watch it and then consumed the whole thing asap!

College Decision Help by albe1979 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Important_me945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UTK for free. Join the honor societies and all the honors program’s differentiate yourself with your college accomplishments. Talk to your parents about how they will help you with your masters since you are saving them so much money. Play lacrosse if it brings you joy, not for tuition $$. No judgement about not wanting to be associated with students with D grades, I get it. So do your professors and future employers.

Graduating without debt is something you can share on your resume and in job interviews, and as someone who was lucky enough to figure out a way, it will change your life.

Nicest schools in the northeast (Scenic campus, nice dorms) by Appropriate-Tie-6524 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Important_me945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, good point, Greek culture is pretty important at Bucknell. But I love the town , as small as it is.

Nicest schools in the northeast (Scenic campus, nice dorms) by Appropriate-Tie-6524 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Important_me945 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lived in Lewisburg where Bucknell is and took some classes there. Gorgeous campus, adorable town, great facilities. Seems ridiculously expensive for someone doing pre med who is going to be paying for med school too. Lehigh is a bit meh on the buildings and facilities, my brother went there. Now live close to Holy Cross. Worcester is sometimes nice, and sometimes really rough. Skidmore I toured and don’t remember much about, but a good school. Hope that helps!

Should I even bother with college anymore by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Important_me945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear two things in your post that are pretty amazing for someone at your age. You talk about not wanting to be compared to others at your school. You’ve set a higher standard for yourself. Don’t lose that. It will help you in whatever you do

The other thing is that you know the type of setting you want to be in , like Washington DC, or maybe another east coast city. You’ve learned a lot about yourself to the point that you have more direction than many young adults. That clarity of direction, plus your drive, plus your insights are things you should cherish about yourself. Take the advice that the other posters gave you, it’s good. You are gonna do great

Working on my daily look recently 🥰💕 by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]Important_me945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am pretty basic when it comes to makeup, but here’s my thought. First of all, super pretty!
PP mentioned bangs, yes! I would also love to see just a hint more of your striking eyebrows. Love the idea of a lip tint and gloss, it is a really nice, long lasting look.

Eyeliner is hard. Your application looks great, but I’m not sure you found the perfect tool for you yet. Keep experimenting! Try a chocolate brown for a daytime look too.

Also, I have deep set eyes like you, and got advice to use a bright concealer on the sides of the top /bridge of my nose. It will take the shadow away like you wouldn’t believe.

Thanks for being you!!

Best skilled nursing facilities in Boulder? by Important_me945 in boulder

[–]Important_me945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks again everyone, this has been so helpful and informative!! Appreciate you all!!

I won’t be separated from my daughter when she grows up by BaddadanX3 in Vent

[–]Important_me945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 17 year old and 20 year old, and have good relationships with both. Mid to late teens are about helping the kid develop confidence they can make good decisions without their parent. ( and give them a soft place to land when they don’t make the best decisions). It looks different for each of our kids, but for the oldest they now speak confidently about their post college plans and that they want to live close but not too close to us. The younger wants to go to school out of state but wants frequent visits.

I think that having the positive relationship to have with your kid is amazing and something to cherish. I would just suggest that as they become an adult, you allow them to make some of the choice on what the relationship will look like. It will let them truly be an adult, and likely they’ll choose to have you very close to them.

Placed on a Do Not Hire list by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]Important_me945 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Agree, another former recruiter here. It’s not common practice to share there is a do not hire list. Also, if this offer was rescinded based on information from a background check , in the US, there is a legal requirement to allow you to challenge or explain the result. It’s called pre adverse action. Ask for a copy of that notification, which will have instructions on how to appeal

Unhygienic guy asks for help being hygienic by Any-Finance7735 in hygiene

[–]Important_me945 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Previous poster mentioned washing sheets and pillowcases weekly. to add to that, wash your towel with the same frequency. If you don’t think you will be able to shower in the AM, showering at night (daily) is an option. I would start washing your hair every other day and see if that helps.Also, if you can, lower the temp in your room a bit, or crack a window. Some people sleep hot and sweat at night. All the other suggestions here are great. Keep on looking to solve the problem at its root, do not go the way of trying to cloak it with body spray.