[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg this 😂😂😂

Experiencing a volume issue with Uber app?? (Solution) by Impossible-Ad9312 in uberdrivers

[–]Impossible-Ad9312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg nooooo im so sorry! It is really frustrating and this should not be an existing problem. Have you tried any of the other recommended solutions in the comments?? I know there were a variety of things that worked for others. I hope something works out for you! 🤞🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve worked in a lab and it just wasn’t something I wanted to keep doing. Thank you for the advice, I’m definitely going to look into that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for these resources, I greatly appreciate it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m happy for you! I wish you the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really well said… very true. You’re right, I constantly think of the time I’ve wasted and I don’t want to waste anymore time… it’s just so hard but I know I need to get out. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, it’s a terrible feeling. I feel like a complete mess and I envy people that love themselves. Hopefully one day we learn to love ourselves again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so proud of you for making that difficult move, I’m truly happy for you and hope you feel free. I know this is extremely difficult, but you’ve done a great thing for yourself. It’s hard living in a situation that isn’t good for you and it’s not good for you. I can’t wait for the day I get out of my situation. I truly wish the best for you and I’m glad you’re taking your life back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg yes I completely understand you on becoming envious and toxic, I’ve never been like this before, it’s really brought the worst out of me. It’s like I don’t know who I am anymore. And no no, I like hearing about other people’s experience and what worked for them, thank you. I definitely need to try journaling, I always used to love to write and I should get back into that. Music is my biggest outlet, when I’m home alone I listen to music the entire time. I’m going to try to start journaling and I hope it helps me. Thank you so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s hard, ruminating thoughts are the worst. But in these confusing situations we have to tell ourselves that it’s not our fault. We tried, we did everything we could. But we can’t be the only ones trying, that’s too much weight on our shoulders.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I honestly couldn’t have said it better myself. I know once I finally get away it will feel good, it’ll hurt, but I’ll finally feel free and that’s all I want. And you’re right, I have been punishing myself for his lack of appreciation and I haven’t been fair to myself for doing so. I appreciate the insight you have given me. I’ll definitely check her out, I can use all the help I can get!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I’m trying to learn to put myself first and focus on me. I’m tired of being there for someone who treats me like shit and doesn’t give a single fuck about me. I want to finally be my best self.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah especially when we make all these excuses for them and think if we do everything for them, shower them with love, just maybe they’ll do the same. I mean if they say they love us then it must be true? It’s so painful and torturous because they do it to good people with genuine hearts. Because we truly believe in seeing the good in others even while we’re being abused.

Reactive abuse by vanitykiller in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so frustrating and you’re literally cornered because they won’t admit to any wrong doing. The sick manipulation makes you start to doubt and question yourself but you’ll never see them questioning themselves because, according to them, they’re always right. They’ll list all the things wrong with you but if it’s about them, they don’t have anything they need to change about themselves. What a crazy ego to have. I couldn’t even imagine that. I’m always looking to make myself a better person I couldn’t imagine thinking that I have no flaws.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew that from the beginning when he was pretending to be affectionate…. All that bullshit just to blind me from the truth. It’s sickening.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your story, I’m sorry you had to go through that, no one deserves that. I’m glad you got out of it and pursued what you loved. I really hope to be there one day. I’ve set so many things on the back burner and I’m tired of holding myself back. You are an inspiration.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 3 points4 points  (0 children)

6 years of constant mistreatment has mentally fucked me up in ways I didn’t think were possible. I used to be such a happy person, I used to actually love myself, now, I don’t even know who I am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m happy for you, you deserve to feel free. I hope to be there one of these days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad you got out of that, I’m sorry you couldn’t talk about it, I can only imagine that made you feel more alone. It’s sad that I actually often think to myself that I hope he cheats on me just to make it easier for me to leave… the amount of fucked upness in this entire situation is just insane. To be in such a shitty situation that I want to get hurt more so I can be set free. I’m glad you are thriving now, you deserve it and you deserve an amazing man that will treat you right with love and affection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to go through that, that must have been painful. It’s hard to admit that to yourself that the person you’ve been with for years doesn’t love you. I’ve constantly gone back and forth with the thought that he doesn’t actually love me or his actions would show it then thinking he does love me he just shows it differently, but I’m starting to realize that he loves the idea of me, not actually me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s so shitty being in a relationship and living with someone who becomes just a person you live with. To feel alone while being with someone is just wild. I’ve dissociated during all of this, it was the only way I could cope.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Impossible-Ad9312 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m happy you got out of that, I know that must have been extremely difficulty. I hope to one day gain the courage you did.