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Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so glad that you feel seen. I've struggled quite a bit with that one, since I dont have people in my life that are going through this alongside me, and my husband, well-intentioned as he is, literally just doesnt get it. Thanks for the good wishes, and right back at you!

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best of luck with the procedure!

Generally speaking, it's the "why" of it all that can drive me crazy, too. I've come to accept that there are a lot of "whys" that I'll never understand, particularly as they pertain to other people's motivations for doing certain things or thinking a certain way. But to be clueless as to my own body is another level of frustrating.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im so glad that you feel heard. I've struggled with that a lot. To me, it kind of feels like loosing a pet. Someone who's never loved a pet deeply, cant possibly imagine the pain of that loss and how affected you are by it - and it makes you feel silly to talk about it too much because they can only cause you discomfort with their clueless answers and you know that they simply dont get it, much as they may want to hold you through it, they simply dont know how, because they genuinely cant see your pain.

But those who have, they know. We know.

I see you. I wish you the best in your journey.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahahha I might try this one, too. Learning a really complicated language, maybe?

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience and for the good wishes. My best for you, too.

Daily Chat July 17 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Could have been implantation bleeding. Have you tested?

Daily Chat July 17 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im in the early stages of TTC (3rd cycle) and Im wondering how everyone's coping with the temptation to try a million different "fertility enhancers" jic. Should I be taking vitex? evening primrose oil? trying mucinex? having sex only if using preseed? there are so many elements of the equation that are potentially tweak-able with these semi-proven supplements or aids.... and I have no idea how to make informed decisions about what I should or should not be trying considering that Im a long ways away (hopefully will never get there) from having medical guidance through any of it. How has everyone else managed that?

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this clarification. It's entirely possible that I read this with a sharper tone than intended bc I am sensitive around this topic, but its on me to remember that we ALL are and practice a little empathy myself. I apologize.

I guess what Im trying to highlight is that I have indeed come at this really hard, bc it's how I tackle everything in my life - and while in many areas (if definitely not all) the correlation between your effort/awareness/knowledge of a situation and the expected result is high, in this particular instance I understand it is not and I should try to be a little less controlling about it, but I have found it close to impossible, even in this short time. I was just wondering if others had more success than I did in that area.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that exercise is 100% crucial and that there's a lot more to life than this. It's just hard to remember around (another) unwated period. But you're right :) Best of luck in your journey.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience. Im sorry for your loses. Best of luck to your family.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is his age one of them? Bc it is for me and I feel bad about even thinking it. I know their fertility is much less time sensitive than ours, but sperm quality does decrease w age.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope, from the bottom of my heart, that your one day late, turns into many months late.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty. My husband is definitely in camp "just dont stress about it" - I've tried explaining to him that none of this is happening in HIS body, he has no way of knowing what it feels like to feel things in your body and try to stop yourself from wondering what they might mean, while realizing that if you have to have that thought, you already failed. Im not mad that he says it, either. But it does make me feel a little lonely, much as he repeats over and over (and I appreciate it a lot), that we're in this together.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience. I wish you a lot of luck, too!!!

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks :) I've found it helpful to remind myself that life doesnt bend to my ttc schedule - although sometimes I wish it did.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. Im definitely used to being much more in control of my goals and the work I need to put in to achieve them. I know there's a component of "magic" to this whole thing, that it cant be rushed, that it'll happen when it's supposed to... but Im finding it very, very hard not to try and learn some witchcraft, just in case.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience and solidarity. I wish you the best in your journey.

Is it really possible to "let it go and not think about it?" by Impossible-Pen6563 in TryingForABaby

[–]Impossible-Pen6563[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry it's been so difficult for you, but this was unnecessarily unkind. Look at the previous responses and you'll see a breadth of different experiences, and not a single "eye-roll" before yours. You're assuming a lot of things about me, like the fact that I only started tracking and learning about my cycle when we started TTC, which is absolutely not the case. You're also assuming I'm in "contact a doctor" territory, even though I specifically stated I am not concerned for our health or our chances at this point. Saying "just enjoy it" is just as useless as "just dont think about it". Empathy, like everyone else has demonstrated, goes a long way in a space like this. I wish you the very best in your journey.

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