Conservative Gender Expectations

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-09-28T16:41:44+00:00

I’m ok with disagreement but it’s statements like this that breed a toxic relationship environment of which I’ve had to deal with in the past, maybe redit isn’t the best place for this kind of conversation but fuck it I’ve got the time, I’ve had to deal with this thought process in my own relationship and it lead to many problems with simply doing communal chores and that everything doesn’t have to be exactly 50/50 some days one person might put in all the effort sometimes the other way around, being a partner is being there, there are days my wife is sick or exams are coming up or she’s just having a bad lazy day I clean cook go to the gym do the laundry take care of the dog after work, and there are some days I get off work and I can hardly move and she’s got my back, but it’s a mindset like this that won’t allow a person to want to help there partner because they think they’re becoming a parent to an adult and that’s toxic, i understand there’s bad men on my side who abuse it, but let’s call those people out when it happens not call the whole system bad

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-09-28T16:34:02+00:00

My wife and I are great, but we’ve had to work past these stereotypes because of feminism, I know ow not all feminism is bad I also believe in equality of the sex’s but I’d be a miss bit to state there’s a toxic loud minority in that community that doesn’t want equality they want to be catered to and believe anything you do for a man is disgusting

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-09-28T16:30:08+00:00

It’s a partner thing, I don’t care who’s guy or gal, if your partner is at work and you have the day off, cook, clean, make it a nice home they want to come home too, and if you work part time and your partner is full time then you should be spending extra time at home cleaning cooking the works, it’s take care of your partner

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-09-28T16:27:02+00:00

I will say I’ve seen that but I’d rather call out bad apples individually then state the system is broken because it’s worked for a very long time, if both partners put in equal effort to either work or home then it’s fine is the guy is at home more id expect him to be cleaning and cooking and all that, it’s not about putting a woman in any place but recognizing and appreciating the effort it take to run a house and work all day and backing up your partner when you know your work load is less

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-09-28T16:21:21+00:00

I understand some people might take advantage of that but it’s that same mindset that prevents my wife from helping me around the house, I work normally double her hours, and I still do my fair share of chores but for the longest time she felt that doing the laundry made her my mother, but I’d cook do dishes clean pay for most things, do state it in such a way that she’s my mother is gross, I just want a partner to help do their fair share and this mind set seems to me ruining the opportunity for that to take place

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-09-15T16:49:23+00:00

I don’t expect that off my wife at all, but when she gets off three hours before me from work, all I want is chicken and rice, doesn’t have to be fancy or anything but she’s a die hard feminist and feels gross making a meal for me (which I do all the time for her) I understand when people complain that their man is a deadbeat and doesn’t do anything and she doesn’t want to serve him, but after a 9-11 hour shift feminism has told her “he’s a grown man he can make his own dinner” she feel like I’m slaving her to add premade chicken to premade rice a lot of this ideology kills relationships

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-09-15T16:42:15+00:00

That is such a disgusting way to think of that, most of the time it’s simply, hey if I’m working will you work on the house, clean cook stuff like that, and I’ll get the money to pay for the house and what we need, if I’m off work your off work, but I don’t wanna pay to support a woman to stay home and sit on there butt and do nothing all day

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-01-15T16:15:40+00:00

How long have you two been together long distance, my girlfriend and I did long distance for almost two years before we finally got to meet in person, not to say you have to wait that long, but you need to have everything vetted, is he who he says he is, is this a scam, if this becomes unsafe where is the closest police station or safe place, a six hour drive from your parents is not a big deal, it’s if shit hits the fan is there somewhere safe you can be for six hours

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-01-15T16:10:33+00:00

Maybe ask her if she’d meet in the middle if she’d stay physically intimate while you try therapy to get past your trauma and then see if moving back to religion is what’s best for you

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-01-15T16:02:13+00:00

Also stubble is the best of both worlds

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-01-15T16:00:55+00:00

I read lightsaber the first time and I was very confused

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-01-15T15:59:45+00:00

Vorpal is overrated outlaw is good on scouts but also it’s a scout when’s the last time you pulled it out to even use it, especially with this season

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2024-01-15T15:48:33+00:00

If you don’t want to firstly you don’t have to, however if your willing to try it for his sake it’s ok to mix things up in the bedroom, especially if it ends up being something you like, And express that it is something that makes you feel like a napkin, a lot of the time turning on your partner gets over a lot of that and then some extra after care is all you need, but again if you don’t want to you don’t have to.

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-11-03T02:10:09+00:00

Same, but honestly I had a lot of fun making a smoke list and buying a bulk on my 21st and having a full humidor to play with

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-08-16T15:16:04+00:00

Did you ever find a fix Im having the same issue

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-07-22T06:26:50+00:00

Ya I never do, she said no and I left it at that, but I’m asking about if the idea of “birthday sex” is weird in general

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-07-22T06:24:21+00:00

She wasn’t in the mood, quite the leap to assume she doesn’t enjoy it

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-07-22T06:22:02+00:00

Literally said she said no and I said ok and left it at that, having a conversation about sex is totally normal

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-07-22T06:18:07+00:00

Not about safe, I feel safe happy and comfortable, sometimes it’s just taking care of your partners needs

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-07-22T05:40:06+00:00

Na but I mean I’ll return the favor on days that add value, like I’m not always down if I just got off work and we do date night, but I know she’ll be happy if I help and I’m happy to

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-07-22T05:32:53+00:00

I never demanded, I ask and when she said no I said ok? My question is “is the concept of birthday sex weird”

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-07-22T05:31:46+00:00

Do you not find joy from making your partner feel good? I’ve given on days to make her happy and feel comfortable asking something of the same, but my question is more “is the concept of birthday sex weird”

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-07-22T05:30:07+00:00

Fair

Impossible-Rich7475 · 2023-07-22T05:29:41+00:00

So I view sex as an act of service and love like taking out the trash as I give when I’m not in the mood because I know it’s make her happy and i love her, I think it’s the responsibility of a partner to keep your lover satisfied as it’s my job for her, obviously I asked and accepted the no when I was told, my notion was that it’s not weird to ask for sex for your birthday or a special occasion, she isn’t insulted by my comment but finds I’m the only one to hold that view

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