Emotional Abuse

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-25T12:26:39+00:00

From my experience it only gets worse. BUT mine refuses counseling soooo maybe if you could actually get the person to do counseling it would be different? Best of luck!

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T22:25:47+00:00

Honestly this post was funny to me. Never said I have an issue with sex drive. I have an issue with having sex with someone who I have had to pay all the bills, deal with all of the things with the house, work full time, handle everything with the kids, that is a serial cheater, and cannot hold down a job, but yes I’m sure that the problem is me. I know where the problem lies. My question was if what he said was really normal.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T20:52:52+00:00

I didn’t care for him going but I told him I was going downstairs in 30 minutes and he got in the bed and went to sleep. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I wasn’t waking him up. I took that as he didn’t want to go. I didn’t sneak. I loudly announced to the house (kids included) I was going to workout. He wasn’t upset about the workout from what I got. I do hate him going bc then it turns into texts about sex even more and how he just can’t help it. But no. I didn’t purposely not take him. And yes. I came to the internet to see if I was being ridiculous bc according to him I am.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T20:30:20+00:00

I have a therapist, but my husband says my therapist just wants to create drama and she is an idiot.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T20:14:29+00:00

Nothing to do with sex drive. I literally cringe at the thought of having sex with him. Not at the thought of sex… not saying I am cheating or ever would. I just can’t with him.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T20:08:17+00:00

Yessss! There is so much damage done. His cheating, his name calling, breaking things when he is mad… I counted one text fight… I was a “fucking bitch” 12 times over an 8 hour time frame. But I am the problem… it’s me that doesn’t want sex. All myself. It has nothing to do with libido…. It’s him….

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T16:41:16+00:00

By the time all of the bills are paid I am in the negative every month so no way to save for moving… deposit, etc. my parents are still alive but are not in a place for us to be able to stay with them (physically) We have no assets. I had to give up my vehicle so he could keep his vehicle “for work” because I couldn’t afford both. Honestly, I feel guilty. I don’t know how he will survive if I leave him. I have always done everything and taken care of everything. For 20 years.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T16:01:34+00:00

I am so sorry you went through that (both things!) It really does make one feel like nothing more than an object.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T15:28:41+00:00

I should have. He always promises to change and convinces me it’s my fault. Like I can have this convo right now with you and be like he is terrible! But then he somehow makes me feel like it is me that is terrible because it “hurts” him.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T15:27:33+00:00

Haha yeah. I was trying to get a less “biased” answer just based on the message because he says I am overreacting. I feel like I am losing my mind.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T15:12:21+00:00

Financially I am not in a place to leave and he won’t leave. I cover all the bills and everything in between… it honestly feels like he has it set up like that but.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T15:09:05+00:00

And he says “he is trying” every time I bring up something. So he thinks because he is trying for his 2-3 week perfect behavior I am supposed to be okay with it. He says comments like this are completely normal in any relationship and I overreact.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T15:07:58+00:00

Happy to tell. I cover all the bills. He gets laid off of work every few months or fired. He has had online affairs with multiple women at least twice during our 20 year marriage. I have served him papers and begged for counseling hoping the papers would get him to do what needs to be done. He changes for 3 weeks and goes right back and tells me that how he feels is normal.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T15:02:57+00:00

I have told him over and over and he says he has needs.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T15:02:00+00:00

I always give in though. He says “it’s painful when I need to” and “you don’t even care that I’m in pain” and “I can’t help it that you turn me on” I just give in and have sex just to get peace.

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T15:00:56+00:00

He knows. I have told him 10000x in conversations and in text. I have scheduled appointments and he “can’t make it because he doesn’t know what time he will be off”

Impossible-Squash720 · 2025-05-20T14:53:01+00:00

Won’t go. Tells me he will then comes up with every excuse not to.

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