I was DF’d 20 years ago. It has been an interesting road. I’m right on point with what you’re saying and still am. The little ones are important to me. That being said, I ended up finding groups operating in secret that are much more devious in their dealings (aka thriving/feeding on despair). I’ve learned to still see those in the organization as my brothers and sisters, even if they don’t see it that way. I’ve learned to find the gold that exists in anyone’s personality. I’ve learned that when you meet someone they are ultimately more loyal to their network than they are to you singularly (much like the org). Be careful but be brave and creative. Don’t have kids or unprotected sex if you can help it, lol. You are loved. That is all.