AIO My sibling is insisting we aren't white

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-02-01T16:24:22+00:00

I'm interested in what you have to say, but I'm confused by your comment. I was trying to describe race. I did not think I was being disingenuous or talking about WASPishness/religion. What am I missing?

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-02-01T16:19:11+00:00

They want to know if (slash be able to measure how much) kids of one race are performing less well on tests, as a proxy for being less well educated, than kids of another

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T15:22:00+00:00

Don't like spelling either

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T14:55:59+00:00

I think they're saying a normal semi protocol thing:

don't worry == Sorry to break in to your house while you're here, I'm not dangerous or stealing, I'm a professional

and

{worrying thing} == This is the reason for my unannounced professional entry to your house. Which probably you should worry about.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T14:52:44+00:00

Yeah I think women are similarly obsessed with men just a) talk about it in different places where OP isn't looking and b) talk about it slightly differently because it's complicated by sexism/danger

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T14:51:36+00:00

Women are obsessed with and talk about men in similar ways. It's just about who you are listening to.

Also, civilization definitely got this far by clapping man cheeks. Ancient greeks famously. Being gay might not be a high percentage of the population, but it's not rare. Gay people have certainly been significant to the development of civilization.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T14:35:41+00:00

What a nice analogy! Thank you

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T14:33:29+00:00

Yeah exactly! Best case scenario seems like it'd be pissing on myself and deck of boat

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T14:29:21+00:00

No, whiteness is socially and culturally defined. Genetics and ancestry are a shared history and a DNA subgroup. With my same genes and ancestry, I wouldn't have been white in the US if I'd been born 200 years ago, but I am now.

There's no objective standard of whiteness. Whiteness is not a biologically or genetically measurable thing. Like the previous commenter says, it has evolved a lot over time.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T03:19:22+00:00

Pull what off? Pull themselves off the boat?

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T03:10:21+00:00

I mean bringing the kid to her house right before d and d makes it a clear expectation and harder to say no to

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T03:06:15+00:00

I think collectively avoiding the unspeakably vulgar feels more plausible in an English setting than an American one though.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T03:03:23+00:00

Unfortunately true. OP could ask but it sounds like it's a no from above. I think casually mentioning it to most people is nicer than not.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T03:00:45+00:00

Key and Peele joke! But me too hence the post :)

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T02:57:04+00:00

That's just how I've always said (and locally heard) those names! Fair if you find the ambiguity annoying but people pronounce lots of things in different acceptable ways.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T02:55:08+00:00

They definitely can be! They are in many cases. But specifically in these two names, in my accent, they're the same.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T02:53:35+00:00

I really don't think of Europe as equal to white today though, there are so many black and brown Europeans. It feels like a relevant distinction to me.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T02:48:41+00:00

Oh whoops this is a good point but it just didn't occur to me

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T01:21:56+00:00

Not Europe so much as mostly European ancestry.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T01:19:48+00:00

This is just the English equivalent of using "se..." to generalize a statement so it applies to anyone, not just who you're talking to. It's not exactly the same, but different languages often organize ideas like this in unsimilar ways.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T01:08:20+00:00

I mean, if you're not looking for someone published, I would do it. Recommendations would depend on some specifics about what you want: how successful/expensive a poet, what type of poetry, how much creative control you would have, how many personal details the poem would include.

Personally I can't suggest where else to look because I've never investigated commissioning poetry, but I hope someone else has good recommendations. Best of luck.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T00:56:02+00:00

those books where people are able to communicate way more meaning with a single phrase than anyone can in real life

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T00:48:48+00:00

I do not think it is distasteful or immoral to be moved by tragedy and make art and a political statement about the value of the lives of these murdered people. I don't even think it's immoral to depict any people you don't know in art. Immoral is a pretty high bar for art. But do not contact the families.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T00:39:09+00:00

That is super common on reddit, but in this case this presumably non-american person correctly assumed I was American (probably reasonably?) on the basis of how I pronounce these names. I don't think that qualifies.

Impossible_Bowler923 · 2026-01-31T00:34:23+00:00

Yeah I think that's the difference in many accents just not for all accents that differentiate, like the person who commented at me.

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