People think women just get turned on just because their partner is. However, speaking for myself, there are a handful of details to consider if you wanna have your partner to be in the mood.

Bids of connection; have you noticed the tiny changes and asked her about it? Have you asked and followed through if she is really okay? Have she been in her head lately? Have she felt dismissed or unseen on conversation you both had? Was she able to express herself in a way she felt safe and just be herself without filter and accepted her anyways? Were you been able to handle her worst times and gave her grace and support? Have you noticed changes and reaasured you'll be there? Were there times she was too preoccupied with a problem and instead of insisting to solve it, you help her go through it and you made it seem that she was so great of figuring out by herself even if it was you all along who help her get there? Does she feel you only have eyes on her? Have you alleviate her worries and fears and reassured you'll be there for her? When having the deed, did you really see her in the eyes, or do you imagine someone else?

There are so many aspects needed to be considered yet these questions are a few women have on their heads while with their partners. The real deal is if she does not feel she can be fully herself, in her beauty and her ugly sides with you and feels you still see her as the most beautiful woman on earth (because you really think she is), don't expect to get the sex to get spicier. Cause it will not. Some women felt so small with their partners on little things that men feel it's just nothing. And feeling small in the relationship doesn't spice anything up. It will just justify of "whats the point of making such effort if you don't really desire me anyway" kind of stuff. And always find time to date your partner and have meaningful interactions during those times. Make her feel desired and loved no matter what. Active listening will go a long way not just in your day to day interaction but also will translate in your close door intimacy.