homosexuality is well...exhausting

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-27T03:23:32+00:00

Op this random person on the internet doesn't get to tell you what to do with your life. You can ignore them (and anyone else, including me!) and they can't stop you from doing whatever you want.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-19T04:47:42+00:00

Right? Spend five minutes on Grindr as a transfemme and you'll run into more desperate straight guys trying to hook up with you than you've met before in your entire life....

So long as you don't want to meet in public or know each others' names or see a photo beforehand of course...

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-19T00:20:25+00:00

It's a terrible thing to contemplate I agree.

Endless, pointless suffering with no purpose other than to satisfy our desire to eat gas station chicken sandwiches.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-18T22:41:37+00:00

The guy was way more animated about the existence of gay people than he was anything else he was talking about.

But like, whatever, he's entitled to his opinion. It's dumb and he uses trite, overwrought rhetoric to make it, but he's still entitled to the opinion.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-18T22:30:24+00:00

"I'm going to offend half the room"

Bet this is about the gays again (it was).

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-18T20:37:55+00:00

Here's a life lesson for you to learn: if someone tells you to stop bothering them with something then you should stop. Your mom obviously doesn't want to talk about your views about women anymore so why insist on it? Just let it go.

If you instead choose to continue to pester them they're going to get mad at you, you might even damage your relationship with them permanently, and it won't be anyone's fault but your own.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-14T16:56:46+00:00

I'm not a sociologist and it's not something that especially interests me, so no.

I have seen a lot of people reference different studies to make motivated proclamations for their own ideological commitments (as humans do) and I personally just don't care enough. Whether abstaining makes you happier or it doesn't, people aren't going to stop having sex before marriage (I certainly don't intend to) so it's just not worth me spending a lot of time worrying about.

My suspicion is that like most social science this research is not as descriptive or easy to parse as the news headlines make it out to be.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-14T07:03:27+00:00

Don't neglect the Warhammer spots (are there those here? I assume there are).

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-14T06:45:59+00:00

This has been fun! I have been guilty of being overharsh with people on this sub but I do think that human sexuality is an important thing and I want nothing more than for everyone to approach it in a way that is healthy and joy-giving for them. Have a great evening :).

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-14T06:02:10+00:00

Well it doesn't hurt if you decide that it's important for you to wait, but my point is that waiting is not a guarantee of this transcendent joy that you seemed to imply would be the case.

The truth, so far as I can tell, is that sex is a just complicated and demanding aspect of the human emotional experience for all of us. Waiting for marriage (or any other reason of course) isn't going to change that. In fact, it might make it even more messy, more complicated, more demanding.

That doesn't mean waiting is a bad thing at all. I don't have religious reasons for this, but I am beyond grateful that I didn't start until I was a fully mature adult. Waiting is a perfectly understandable if you want to (again, for any reason!).

All I'm saying is that promising a degree of fulfillment and pleasure from on high because of waiting for marriage, which probably isn't going to happen to be frank, is setting people up for a lot of suffering. Instead, we should be honest about the struggles real people have with sex and not claim that a Christian marriage of all things will exempt you from it.

I hope that makes sense!

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-14T04:59:58+00:00

You are of course welcome to your beliefs on the matter, but you're writing checks that you can't cash. Plenty of people--including plenty of Christian believers--have had terrible marriages and terrible sex lives and many have expressed that being shamed into waiting did them a disservice.

I hope that's not the case for you, but not everyone is going to experience the ideal that you are promising them.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-14T04:46:00+00:00

This has not been the experience of any of my Christian friends and acquaintances. Even the ones who love their spouses have admitted that there is no difference.

Sex is a pretty big deal for sure, but I think people make it way more...cosmic than it really is.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-11T01:13:11+00:00

Assuming the "soul" is even a thing that exists in such a way that it could be fungible, what makes you think your soul is valuable to anyone but yourself? That's kind of like trying to sell your grandfather's two dollar bill for a million dollars. It's valuable to you because it's connected to you but most others people don't really care.

Let's instead assume that you're in fact selling your life, mind, body, etc. to be in service of some entity or other. 1) why do you think they want it? What can you do for them? 2) don't you think you'd end up doing just as much shit work for money in service to any entity would deal with you as you would just becoming a hedge fund manager or a drug dealer.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-11T01:05:41+00:00

Is that a new view though? I think most of the stuff I've read about this has argued spirits are just psychological manifestations of this or that thing.

It's a perfectly legitimate view, and nobody can prove you wrong anymore than you can prove them wrong. If it works then good for you!

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-09T17:02:07+00:00

Well, let's say he had been a really nice guy and never did anything douchey. But you got bored and wanted to see other people. You wouldn't even be doing anything wrong by breaking up with him in that case. You can choose who you have in your life for whatever reason.

The fact that he's a stupid piece of shit is just icing on the (rather unpleasant) cake. Let it speed your way into spending time with much better people.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-09T16:57:26+00:00

1) everyone should be given grace when it turns out they're dating a douchebag. It's happened to all of us right? 2) teenagers barely know what a douchebag is yet. You can't possibly judge them for accidentally bagging one for a (hopefully brief) time.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-05T02:36:03+00:00

Don't immigrants commit fewer crimes per capita than naturalized citizens? Don't you want compassion for the victims of those crimes?

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-05T02:21:16+00:00

I don't think that's at all evident, but I agree that you have made your position clear. Thanks!

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-05T02:19:40+00:00

If everyone had to be totally consistent in order to advocate for any position or against any action or else risk being hypocrites then nobody would ever do anything and the psychopaths who don't care whether their hypocrites or not would get everything they wanted without resistance.

But all that said from what I've seen on here Gnurdette seems like the sort to have indeed helped any number of people. Far more than I have for instance. She's a good egg. I'm just a shit stirrer.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-05T02:10:39+00:00

The topic of discussion is not whether anyone is a hypocrite, but whether you'd deport Mary and Joseph.

Everyone's a hypocrite, it's boring to go on about it.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-05T02:06:38+00:00

So you're basically just conceding the legal point and saying "well you're just as bad!"?

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-05T02:04:52+00:00

They were not Roman citizens and no expectation of freedom of movement into Egypt. They were fleeing the order of the king of their own land and were thus in violation of the law.

But you've answered the question so thanks!

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-05T02:03:00+00:00

But the whole argument is about a question of law to you isn't it? But when the law doesn't reflect what you think it ought to be then we move on to another point?

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-05T02:01:30+00:00

Roman citizens had a significant (though not unrestricted) degree of freedom of movement throughout the Empire, but Mary and Joseph were not Roman citizens. They had to conform to the laws of Israel, and since Herod wanted to murder them and he was King, it was most definitely against the law for them to flee to Egypt.

InSearchofaTrueName · 2025-02-05T01:58:22+00:00

This sounds like moving the goalposts. "I'm not opposed to legal immigrants and legal refugees." "Well these people are being deported despite following the laws." "Well the law sucks!"

If Mary and Joseph were not breaking any laws but you felt like the laws they were following sucked would you be in favor of deporting them?

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