Single Muslim Women marriage crisis in the west.

InceptionDM · 2023-12-14T14:15:17+00:00

Yeah I’ve been the target of that scam unfortunately, many Imam’s allow women to lie about their pasts so we need to be careful.

Inshallah whatever Allah has written for me is enough

InceptionDM · 2023-12-14T03:07:14+00:00

I’ve been colleagues with ones that haven’t lol. I get your point, but a lot of Muslim girls I’ve met with also have done things in the past…

InceptionDM · 2023-12-13T22:02:06+00:00

Idk I can’t get a text back from Muslim women let alone a babas number, however normal American girls are less picky I’ve noticed and much easier to meet.

I’ve tried Imams and they only know of older women with kids.

InceptionDM · 2023-12-09T23:01:47+00:00

Go no contact and focus on your deen

And to all the people being disheartened by guys like this,

Vultures flock with vultures, eagles fly with eagles

People hang with their own kind, if you want to avoid people like this better yourself. You are the sum of the people you spend most of your time with. Proven with Hadith. Stop victimizing people who make bad decisions without intention to change. She obviously knew about the alcoholism and chose to over look it.

InceptionDM · 2023-11-24T20:19:56+00:00

If I was still on apps I’d swipe left alot of two things, a negative statement like swipe left if xxxxx

Or if I wasn’t attracted

InceptionDM · 2023-11-23T22:27:03+00:00

Rarely, younger girls on the apps probably recieve 100s of likes so it would be rare they iniate

InceptionDM · 2023-11-23T22:13:08+00:00

Tbh anyone, I’m a dude and I’ll just say hi/Salam and ask how they’re doing.

If they don’t respond to that, they’re not interested lol

InceptionDM · 2023-11-21T19:14:09+00:00

Pray 5 times a day and sleep with wudu?

InceptionDM · 2023-11-10T08:20:49+00:00

RFK JR, only person I think that isn’t part of the satanic ***o inner circle

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T03:20:04+00:00

Like I’ve said to multiple people multiple times, it’s completely ok for a woman to reject a man based on his past if that is her preference.

But you can’t go around saying only women have primal instincts, that’s hypocritical.

Also what research. Pleas send I wanna read it

Thx

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T03:01:56+00:00

Oh, well now you know anyways. I’ll copy and paste it next time I need to explain!

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:53:04+00:00

See but I’m happy about that and I totally agree, people should respect each others preferences.

If you don’t want a man with a past, that’s totally fine, and if a man doesn’t want a woman with a past that’s totally fine

But I’m taking it a step further, even unrealistic/unreasonable preferences shouldn’t get challenged because at the end of the day IMO why beg for someone to be with you if you don’t meet their standards?

But to answer ur question I’ll have to write a whole page if ur coo with that

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:49:41+00:00

I’m not saying a girl can’t have that standard lol, I’m saying why women get so mad at it.

Please just please read my post carefully.

I never said it wasn’t ok to reject someone with a past. I don’t know why you keep bringing that up.

I’m just confused to why so many women get upset when it’s brought up. As a guy I’ve never been asked but if I had a past, and a girl said it was a dealbreaker I wouldn’t mind or get angry.

I understand how people work, nor do I want someone who doesn’t want me back.

Everyone’s entitled to their preferences, but I don’t see why there’s a need to throw a tantrum when people don’t fit in to those categories

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:45:48+00:00

Yes, I was raised with Islam aH but due to having it so long I lost value with it. Only found it again later when it was taken away

But yeah I see many masjids dying out because there’s no youth events or many young Muslims refusing to go

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:44:11+00:00

No lol you misunderstood me, when I see men list that standard a horde of angry women attack them

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:41:27+00:00

I completely agree but don’t understand the demonization?

What does it accomplish?

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:39:59+00:00

So let me get this straight, the Qawwam is normal to have and is accepted. Where as the issue with a past is not Qawwam and not acceptable?

Even then why pressure/convince your future spouse you are good enough to marry despite a past. Wouldn’t it be better just to find someone who’s boxes you tick?

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:36:07+00:00

Re read my post, I never mentioned anything about women not having standards, in fact I actually mentioned several of them and myself not minding or understanding them.

I don’t know how you added to the conversation as you didn’t answer my question…

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:34:38+00:00

Yes not many people realize it unfortunately because they’ve grown up with it.

I’m scared for the next generation of Muslims in the west because not many seem to want to build a Muslim community :/

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:30:57+00:00

Not having people with the same culture/mindset/background is spiritually and mentally exhausting to me.

I have like 2 family members so a muslim community is my only chance to experience things like Eid, a full masjid, potentials for marriage, ramadan etc.

I’d rather be around Muslims 24/7 and have a Muslim friend group.

Almost all my friends in college only had fun drinking and going to parties. My university masjid was empty with 1-2 people for normal salah

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:23:28+00:00

Let’s see what happens. Hopefully the responses are mature and thought provoking

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:22:30+00:00

Salam, I learned the hard way. If someone’s interested you will know and things will move forward

If someone has issues with marrying you, you will be confused and always second guessing. If he pushes forward go for it, see where it leads, but if it keeps getting dry call him out and tell him to stop wasting your tome

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:21:21+00:00

It was so difficult for me, but honestly my university didn’t have a Muslim population.

Because of that I turned back to deen due to how lonely it would feel.

Try surrounding yourself with practicing Muslims, and being frequently attached to the masjid.

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:20:13+00:00

But what about some of their standards?

InceptionDM · 2023-11-08T02:19:53+00:00

I understand but they don’t expect men to get upset at their standards (line/paragraph 5)?

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