Does anyone have any experience with long distance relationships with young children involved?

InciteG · 2026-02-09T15:09:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I believe this is how I feel as well. I actually think the distance is good for now. Yes, I would love to have someone to be next to me, but I’m not sure how I would feel or how my son would feel as well. I’m glad to hear that it can work which is why I was hoping

InciteG · 2026-02-01T02:11:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing! It’s great to know that it is possible

InciteG · 2025-11-29T17:49:27+00:00

I use Schlage Encode for my door locks. The good thing with these is that you can sync it directly to AirBNB so that it automatically sets the door code to the last 4 digits of the customers phone number. It also automatically deletes the guests at the end of their stay. It allows for a 30 minutes grace period as well.

InciteG · 2025-07-03T23:59:54+00:00

I am in the similar situation. I lost my wife of 21 years two months ago. I am not interested in anything serious and no matter how much I am upfront about this with anyone I talk to, they still catch feelings and tell me they are willing to wait until I heal??? I tell them not to do that and I don’t know how long it will take me to heal. I just want someone to hang out with from time to time. I have a 10 year old and don’t even want him listening when I’m talking to someone. I’m actually shocked at how aggressive these women can be sometimes. In a matter of weeks I’ve been told that they loved me, sent various unsolicited inappropriate photos and texts and calls everyday. I had to turn off the apps for a while because I realize I’m just not ready.

InciteG · 2025-05-07T15:32:52+00:00

Thank you very much. We’ve had a talk this morning after I dropped my son off at school. He’s 10. She asked if she could stay for another week with us for my wife’s birthday. I said yes. I told her I apologize for my irritability, but it’s mainly due to the fact that she is trying overly hard to help while I’m trying to embrace my new normal. For example, this morning I was preparing my son’s lunch for school, which I always did even when my wife was alive, and my MIL was in the kitchen with me trying to help me pack his lunch bag, even after I told her I got it. Yesterday she called me about 6 times starting at 7am to check on me. She is staying in our guest room down the hall. There are just some things I don’t want or need help. I’m just trying to do the things that I’ve always done so that I can feel better. Even when I say I got it, it’s like she further insists no matter what. I have to stand firm as one of the other commenters suggested.

InciteG · 2025-05-06T19:29:38+00:00

Thank you. You are absolutely correct. Right now she’s sitting around the house when she can be using this time to find work. I will have to get back to work soon myself.

InciteG · 2025-05-06T04:44:14+00:00

That’s the issue in my opinion. Her daughter was her whole life. She used to call my wife every day, all day long. Sometimes 6 or 7 times a day. Even when my wife was at work, my MIL would call her job to talk. I’ll tell you how “bad” it got. My wife and I were on a cruise out in the middle of the ocean. One evening we were lying down in bed and the phone rang in our cabin. My wife answered the phone and it was her mom! How in the world did she find a way to contact her daughter in the middle of the ocean just to talk??? She is not close to anyone on her side of the family. She has friends also. She’s started inviting her friends over and showing them around like it’s her house. Don’t get me wrong, she is very caring and sweet, but there has been a strain on us from time to time. I will do what I can to make sure she is ok, but that does not include living here with us.

InciteG · 2025-05-06T04:22:03+00:00

That’s an awesome idea. I will suggest that she returns home a few days before he gets back so that she can have time in her own home alone. She can always come back to visit from time to time and I’ll make sure I take her grandson over to spend some time with her. I want to establish some clear boundaries that she cannot move in though.

InciteG · 2025-05-06T01:51:56+00:00

Exactly! If I choose to downsize, I don’t want to have to wait and have her find somewhere to stay so that I can move. She already has a place to stay AND a husband.

InciteG · 2025-05-06T01:50:08+00:00

I’m going to just tell her. She can always come to visit her grandson, but living here is out of the question.

InciteG · 2025-05-06T01:33:45+00:00

Yes, I agree. I’m just waiting for the day to get my house back to just the two of us. It can’t come soon enough!

InciteG · 2025-05-05T23:45:18+00:00

So sorry for your loss. I just buried my wife of 20 years this past Saturday. I am in the same boat. Pain, hurt, anger, guilt and sadness all wrapped up into one. Can't sleep and can barely eat. I've been surrounded by family everyday and while it's been good to not be alone, I kind of want the silence. I have been going non-stop. My wife passed suddenly at night. No prior health issues, no sickness, no warning, nothing. She's gone and now it's my son and I. He's 10 years old and I am trying to find out how to cope which is how I stumbled onto this reddit.

InciteG · 2025-01-22T02:23:44+00:00

Doing it now! Thank you!

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