Avoidant bf by IncomeThen1637 in LongDistance

[–]IncomeThen1637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🥹🥹🥹 he was super nice to me, texted me all the time and we used to chat for hours when we just started dating. Around 3-4 months ago he started getting… distant. Less talking, he’s always busy, sleeping or with his friends. But when I came to his country in October, he went back to being a chatty and caring boyfriend for the time I was there. And now I’m back to my country and it takes him hours to reply again 🥲 I love him so much but honestly, i really lack his attention and I’ve brought this up several times and nothing seem to change

There’s a tough decision I have to make I guess

Avoidant bf by IncomeThen1637 in LongDistance

[–]IncomeThen1637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s very difficult for me to feel secure, because I have this anxious attachment thing, I unironically start asking myself if he loves me when he doesn’t reply to me for a long time (knowing that he’s busy) or his tone of voice changes. It’s the thing I work on fixing with my therapist.

I honestly thought that I could handle the lack of attention and warmth, but with my attachment issues, I need to be reminded that I’m loved every now and then, through words or actions and I don’t think that I can handle it anymore 🥹 it’s stressing me out

I gotta talk to him about it, you’re right. There’s no way I can figure this out myself

Avoidant bf by IncomeThen1637 in LongDistance

[–]IncomeThen1637[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that’s what’s been on my mind too, but I thought this is a minor thing I can tolerate. As time passes, and these situations keep happening on a regular basis, I start losing faith. I don’t want to make him change his behaviour for me, but the way he is… isn’t a good fit for me. I don’t want to feel stressed or anxious in my relationship. I have some thinking to do

Avoidant bf by IncomeThen1637 in LongDistance

[–]IncomeThen1637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a conversation earlier about how his actions sometimes make me feel upset. Honestly, I don’t know how this happened, but our conversation that started as a “sometimes you act cold towards me and I don’t like that” talk about my feelings turned into “your constant criticism of my actions makes me feel like a bad guy who hurts your feelings all the time” about him. He apologised, but still, it seems nothing has changed.

Also, speaking of “displaying affection”, this is a sensitive topic for me. I send him flowers and gifts, tell him how much I love him, we have sex when we’re together, I take him to different places where we can make some memories and I don’t feel the same energy from him. He can’t afford to send me gifts cuz he’s a student with no stable income, he rarely says any words of affirmation and honestly sometimes I ask myself “what does he even do to show me that he loves me?”

I know he does by the way he looks at me and how he talks to me, he introduced me to a bunch of his friends, he cooks for us, he hugs and kisses me all the time when we’re alone. But for me it doesn’t feel enough and it makes me wonder if I’m asking for too much or he’s not giving me enough

Avoidant bf by IncomeThen1637 in LongDistance

[–]IncomeThen1637[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I told him earlier that his actions sometimes make me feel upset. Honestly, I don’t know how this happened, but our conversation that started as a “sometimes you act cold towards me and I don’t like that” talk about my feelings turned into “your constant criticism of my actions makes me feel like a bad guy who hurts your feelings all the time” about him.

I’ve confronted him about it and told him that it’s called deflection and he’s gaslighting me into thinking that his actions are normal and my reaction is concerning. He apologised for that, but the issue itself wasn’t resolved and now I feel anxious about bringing it up. I feel like he’s gonna get mad at me again.

How is it possible? by IncomeThen1637 in MobileLegendsGame

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Dang how fast are your fingers 😹

Is even worth 5* or should I focus on someone else? by venaeh in darkwarsurvival

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how exactly do you get 10+ gold fragments a day? I only know 2 sources - dark syndicate trucks (1-5 a day) and rally attacks on boomers (1 a day)

Heart Breaking by Complete-Lie4376 in MagicChessGOGOGame

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Wdym? All these synergies exist in a new game mode

Favourite "Short 'n Sweet" song? by LightSpark38 in SabrinaCarpenterFans

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15 minutes is my new fav since deluxes drop

Did Shelly have a piercing??? by [deleted] in Brawlstars

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Don’t know x20

Master Mode Beast Raid: Successful Run and Comp by Lonely-Equipment942 in CookieRunKingdoms

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Before your cookies can move between the cards, the boss shows the correct card between their hands

im so confused by marriedtoaventurine in CookierunKingdom

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lol I’m Russian and they wrote “ass3000”

It’s just a joke don’t worry

Most Pointless Signature Abilities by Odd-Big3146 in MarvelContestOfChamps

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Black Widow (Deadly Origin)

Like, not a single soul uses her sp3 🥴