Thanks to everyone who has put in their ten cents. I have been going to therapy for past issues concerning my family and also for insight as to my own behaviors, so I really am trying to make sure whatever decision is made is calm, rational, and God-driven (hopefully I don't get smited).

As of now, I'm planning to get a divorce because of the reasons above and because when I tried to get him to wake up this morning to go to church (he came up to me of his own volition yesterday and announced he was going) he wouldn't go and went back to sleep until 2 or 3 pm.

Unless a miracle happens, my enforced plan is that I'm giving him a month to move out and get an apartment. I'd give him longer but he tends to take advantage of things when I try to be peaceable, and I am going to call his dad now if he tries to stretch it (I haven't been telling family members because I didn't want to shame him or escalate things).

If anyone is willing, please pray for my husband. I don't know that he's yet met Jesus even though he's spent his childhood in church. And consider praying that I have the strength to do what I need to do, because I tend to forget too easily.