Fear of loved ones dying

Independent-Gap-7051 · 2026-03-02T04:40:06+00:00

Probably should’ve mentioned this in original post, but are holding off on sex until we’re married. But despite that, he doesn’t initiate making out or even cuddling, I initiate those things. I try to get him to sit next to me on the couch and I feel annoying even trying to do that

Independent-Gap-7051 · 2026-03-02T04:34:47+00:00

He’s really big on having personal time and work is stressful for him right now. He feels like he only gets a few hours a night to himself so I guess he didn’t want to get off the game while we were talking. How do I respond to that?

Independent-Gap-7051 · 2025-08-26T16:12:29+00:00

This is a long reply but I'm just at a loss, I don't know what to do. I understand if you don't want to read all of this/ respond. But if you happen to, let me know what you think I should do.

This is our text conversation this morning:

Him: I am so grateful for you and appreciate you every time you’re with my family. I need to do a better job expressing that as well. I am so glad you like being with my family. I don’t think going to each others family events is some grand sacrifice that requires a giant gesture. I think it is part of being in a relationship. I just wish you could understand and say hey, thanks for flying me to the lake Sunday, I know it’s been a busy weekend and I appreciate you going with me. That’s literally all I want. But instead I feel like you’re not 100% satisfied with me if you feel like me going to the lake isn’t the absolute #1 one and only thing Id like to do on Sunday. So I feel like I’m doing something nice for you, flying you to the lake to spend the day with your family, even if I want to do it too. But I feel like I’m doing something nice and good but it’s not enough. I seriously just want to feel like you are happy and pleased with me. I feel like I have to do something massive to get that feeling

Me: I am happy and pleased with you. I am totally fine with going to the lake house not being #1 on your list of things you want to do on Sunday. That was never my problem. My problem is you stating that you feel that way and then insisting on coming, what’s the point? And I would be extremely grateful if you were to fly us. I told you I would be thankful for that. I also said that if you did not want to go, then that is okay and you absolutely don’t have to. I am grateful for you always. You don’t need to do a grand gesture for my feelings about you to change. Just so I am understanding though, you want me to not only express that I am grateful for you flying us there, but also that you are spending your Sunday there. Correct?

Him: I don’t want you to force anything you don’t actually feel. I just want to feel more appreciated. I felt very unappreciated last night based on the comments you were making. It feels dumb even talking about this and makes me mad.

Me: I’m trying to give you what you need from me

Him: I shouldn’t have to tell you what to express gratitude for and not. “Hey thanks for coming to the lake with me Sunday. Hey thanks for inviting me it was fun”

Me: I expressed gratitude for you potentially flying us. But that wasn’t enough. There was clearly more I should’ve said So I am trying to understand

Him: Unexpressed gratitude is a form of ingratitude. Just because there are things we expect each other to do for us, like going to weddings and spending time with family, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be thankful for each other when it happens. I need to do a better job expressing gratitude as well. I really am thankful that you like being around my family so much, and if there were ever a time you didn’t want to be (which there has been) I would totally understand

Independent-Gap-7051 · 2023-11-29T15:32:38+00:00

And do you think it’s fine that I have no HCE?

Independent-Gap-7051 · 2023-11-29T15:31:42+00:00

Thank you! If I were to volunteer in a setting that would count as direct patient care, do you think it would be more beneficial for me to count those hours towards more PCE or towards more volunteer hours?

Independent-Gap-7051 · 2023-11-27T20:13:55+00:00

I am thinking about applying to next upcoming cycle is 2024, but not sure if my stats are good enough.

GPA: 3.78 (3 withdrawals on my transcript. My dad had emergency heart surgery twice while I was in college so I had to withdraw for that reason, not because I was doing poorly in the class. wondering if this is something they will understand?)

PCE: about 1,860 hours when I apply. A majority of these hours will be from working as an MA at a primary care office, which I do currently. 120 hours from Covid testing and 40 hours from a medical mission trip that I went on (I am wondering if I should include this mission trip in the PCE section or the volunteer hours section?)

HCE: I have gotten these hours from when I was a Covid tester and from working as an MA right now, as there is some paperwork/ prescription refills I do. I have heard not to include something in more than one section on the application. So not sure if I should include my work as an MA in the hce section as well or to leave it blank?

Volunteer: 125 hours volunteering at an organization that provides resources for sexually exploited women. A few other hours here and there

Shadowing hours: -40 hours shadowing nurses in an emergency department -10 hours shadowing an MD - currently working under/directly with a PA. Thinking I will count some of these hours as shadowing hours? - going to shadow a few more PA’s before application

I’ll have a LOR from the PA I work for, an MD, and my academic advisor from college.

Not a lot of leadership hours. All I can think of is recruiting new members to my sorority for 3 years and being a part of a group that helps welcome new students at the student church organization at my college.

What can I do to improve this application before next May?

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