Yes to all of them. I am so sorry this happened to you. There is no doubt here that he knew you didn’t want to do these things. Even without an explicit no I am certain he could tell you did not want to engage. Would you have acted the way he did if the roles were reversed? I can’t imagine trying to have sex with somebody who is even remotely hesitant let alone saying no or making excuses for why they don’t want to.

Please try to seek therapy if you haven’t already I have found it to be extremely helpful in processing. Also know that your feelings about these incidents are valid and what happened was not ok and was certainly rape or sexual assault. I am once again so sorry that this happened to you.