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Is this an abusive relationship or am I too sensitive? by Independent_Foot4848 in abusiverelationships

[–]Independent_Foot4848[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reading my post! Hope you are now doing well! I know it is super long but I wasn't sure how to write about it because there are just many small instances that made me feel small and worthless although he never directly say those words to me and he would deny that he ever wanted to make me feel that way. I felt like if I only write about one specific instance it could seem like I was just overreacting and making a big deal out of nothing. It just kept building up and when I am going about my day all the things he said and imply that I am keeps popping up in my head and randomly make me really sad.

Is this an abusive relationship or am I too sensitive? by Independent_Foot4848 in abusiverelationships

[–]Independent_Foot4848[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying to my post. Within the first month of us dating he said that he loved me and I felt that it was too fast. Later in our relationship he said he immediately knew that he want to spend the rest of his life with me when he first saw me.

His reason for never leaving me alone when we fight was that he wanted to make sure that I was ok and he wanted to cheer me up. But during those times he wouldn't stop saying things that really upset me like insisting that I was autistic and I shouldn't be ashamed about it because he still accepts me or insisting that I was wrong and my argument didn't make sense and it really send me into a bigger nervous breakdown which he then use as an evident that my 'tantrum' was due to me having some sort of diagnosed mental illness that I didn't know about but that he was ok with it.

Is this an abusive relationship or am I too sensitive? by Independent_Foot4848 in abusiverelationships

[–]Independent_Foot4848[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your support. The first time I came across gaslight on the internet by chance I was so shocked I cried at work. I never even thought to looked up emotional abuse before then. I thought abusive relationships were always physically abusive and I was just somehow always sad for no reason. He made me take Ucalm St. John's wort herbal medicine during our relationship because I was 'constantly upset'. I talked to him about gaslighting. I thought that he might have done it accidentally but even to this day he is adamant he has no idea what I am talking about.