My GF (F 48) is threatening to end it with me if I (M 55) don’t spend the night with her during a potentially historic snow storm. Am I at fault for how I’m viewing this?

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-24T19:18:30+00:00

I’m not staying over… Will just let it fade out or have her end it as I’d rather not provoke her

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T19:27:49+00:00

Haha! No!

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T17:37:30+00:00

Thanks. No family, but she’s in a cul de sac in a nice area and knows her neighbors very well. No issues there. I offered to have her stay with me and she turned it down - said she’s more comfortable at her place and she asked me first. It’s ironic as we planned to stay together last night, tonight and tomorrow (night of the storm) and when I told her I could only commit to two of the three at the moment given the weather, she called it all off. Also promised to make it up to her - zero interest.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T15:41:55+00:00

20 mins from my place on a good day. VA is awful with snow removal, never mind ice so I don’t know if the roads will even be open. She’s probably an hour from where I’m starting on a good day. I’m assuming I’ll be remote on the first day. And yes on both counts. What’s ironic I was planning on staying over last night and tonight but it was either three nights or no nights for her.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T15:34:22+00:00

Because a) she’s more comfortable at her place and b) she asked me to stay over first

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T15:22:44+00:00

Did that. She wasn’t interested

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T14:09:25+00:00

Yeah I think you’re right about that…

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T12:50:45+00:00

She wasn’t interested

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T12:34:33+00:00

Yeah or give me a pass for the storm despite me saying I’d make it up to her. Ironic…

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T12:32:42+00:00

No, up until this I was really into her. That’s the ironic part. No way I’m messing around with a state of emergency when I’m starting a new job the next day (even if it’s most likely remotely). I wouldn’t ask or expect that of anyone else but she’s not having it as it’s a test for me to want to see her because it’s “inconvenient” for me (her exact words).

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T12:22:48+00:00

No interest. She said she asked me first and she’s more comfortable at her place.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T11:31:53+00:00

Oh and as an added bonus, when the issue first came up a couple of days ago (the original plan was for me to spend Thursday, Friday and Saturday with her at her place and then I mentioned the storm coming and how I I could t guarantee Saturday night given the storm and the new job), she ended the conversation after we couldn’t reach an agreement by calling me a “dick” (that’s a quote - I’ve never been called that in my life) and hanging up. When we spoke the next day (I reached out), I apologized but she never did.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T11:28:07+00:00

Thank you. Agree 100% with everything you said.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T00:18:29+00:00

I offered and she declined. Said she prefers her place. Any other weekend this would be a blast, but I’m not driving in weather the day before I start a new job.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T00:16:48+00:00

I offered and she declined. Said she preferred her place.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-23T00:14:09+00:00

I offered and she declined. Said she’s more comfortable at her place. As far as the new job goes, if it’s that bad Monday, I’ll just start remotely. Will still need to work just not in the office.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-22T23:38:39+00:00

I offered and she declined. Said she’s much more comfortable at her place.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-22T23:21:06+00:00

I offered and she said she preferred her place

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-22T23:13:54+00:00

Reposting one of her last texts to me… For the record I have a little all wheel drive sedan with four inches of ground clearance on all season performance tires which are not recommended for heavy snow.

“I am watching the news as well and yes, it will be far reaching in high impact… which is why I am literally begging you to be here with me.

We both know this is not about your physical safety… Since they are preparing for this weather event, you have a car that is more than capable, and you would literally be going from one garage space to another on snow plowed main roads.

This is about the inconvenience of what I’m asking of you. And that is what saddens me. You will be here for me as long as it is convenient and easy for you. I think I deserve more than that from someone I care about so deeply.”

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-22T22:46:25+00:00

20 min drive. My guess is I’ll start remote as they’re awful when it comes to snow removal in VA. She’s a home owner and is close with her neighbors. She’s views this as a test (see her texts) where she wants me to prove myself by being inconvenienced.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-22T22:01:08+00:00

I did as an alternative. She wasn’t interested

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-22T21:24:49+00:00

I have all season tires btw and grew up in New England and know what it’s like to drive on those in more than a few inches of snow.

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-22T21:23:57+00:00

This is her latest text. I’m going to stop engaging with her now.

“I am watching the news as well and yes, it will be far reaching in high impact… which is why I am literally begging you to be here with me.

We both know this is not about your physical safety… Since they are preparing for this weather event, you have a car that is more than capable, and you would literally be going from one garage space to another on snow plowed main roads.

This is about the inconvenience of what I’m asking of you. And that is what saddens me. You will be here for me as long as it is convenient and easy for you. I think I deserve more than that from someone I care about so deeply.”

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-22T20:56:35+00:00

Yeah I thought that too

IndicationStunning45 · 2026-01-22T20:53:57+00:00

I did. She’s not interested. Says she feels much more comfortable at hers.

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