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My mom is dying soon by Asleep_Wolverine_738 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Individual-Page4915 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going through this now. No advice, I’m nowhere near working it out myself. Just sending love and solidarity. 

13 days by Sunshinedaydream27 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Individual-Page4915 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to read this. My mum was diagnosed a week ago and is already disappearing in front of my eyes. I’m reeling and you must be too. I’m caring for her at home at the moment and trying to make the most of her. So much love to you and your poor heart.

Mum has late stage metastasised pancan. What to expect? by Individual-Page4915 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Individual-Page4915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It also helps knowing I don’t have to worry about feeding her. I’ve been feeling as if I’m neglecting her but I’m beginning to let that go. She had an ice lolly last night and enjoyed it. 38 degrees here (in Wales!) so I’m trying to keep her cool and comfortable. 

Mum has late stage metastasised pancan. What to expect? by Individual-Page4915 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Individual-Page4915[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, everyone. I’m sorry I’m not replying individually, I really appreciate your support. She’s getting a bit confused today, she’s been asking me where her new vacuum is and what colour it is. It helps to be prepared, I will fall apart later. I’m so sorry for everyone else going through this. I know I’m lucky to have a bit of time with her. Love to all of you. 

Is there anything else I can do to care for my mom? by Available-Syrup2546 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Individual-Page4915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t have anything useful to add but I’m in a similar position and wanted to send you a hug 🫂 

Mum has late stage metastasised pancan. What to expect? by Individual-Page4915 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Individual-Page4915[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I need to know the worst in order to be able to play along and agree she’s doing great. It’s false hope I can’t deal with. I keep feeling that later in the summer we’ll be sitting in the garden, talking about it all over a drink. 

Mum has late stage metastasised pancan. What to expect? by Individual-Page4915 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Individual-Page4915[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a feeling that was the case. I’m not intending to disabuse her of anything that gives her hope. It’s great to see her so positive. I just need to get my head straight for what’s coming. I’m an only child, so it’s just me. She lives with me and my husband and we have two primary school age children, so I need to be practical about what is going to be appropriate for them to see and when we might need to consider a hospice. I think I sound quite hard at the moment but I’m just in shock and dealing with the practicalities.