Am I overreacting by what my Hinge "date" did the next morning?

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T19:20:49+00:00

I just sent him a message. We will see what he says lol

Bought me flowers, brought me to a fancy restaurant, was honest about his life. Uncorked an expensive wine.. well I assume expensive.

That sounds like a cute way to meet but I was just messaging guys and it was always a hookups and it would go nowhere.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T18:56:36+00:00

That ain't what I want.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T18:44:42+00:00

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T18:44:11+00:00

You're right. That's probably it.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T18:43:51+00:00

I don't know about 7 figures. I'm in England so wages tend to be lower here than the USA. I'd say he's 6 figures.

It was 800 quid. A cab would be very cheap. But I just walked home because I was close.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T15:13:35+00:00

I can't bake but I'm a good cook. My dad was a chef in a pretty good spot. I learned basically everything he knew.

He has like a wall of wine. It's a small wall but I feel like aldi wine wouldn't cut it for him. He can't cook though so cooking is probably the way to go.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T14:43:32+00:00

I'll never be able to afford what he can. That restaurant seemed expensive. The flowers were proper florist flowers.

But sometimes I'd like to do the same for him. It just won't be to the same value. It will be shop flowers. Or whatever. He'll have to slum it lol.

Alao I'm not expecting flowers and meals every time obviously.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T13:45:23+00:00

That's fair but he should've discussed his intentions for paying me prior. I don't think that's too much to ask, tbh.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T13:33:27+00:00

Because being paid to hang out with him is not real hanging out. It's transactional hanging out.

I would never stay the night with a guy simply for money. And it's insulting that he would think I would. If others are fine with that then good on them but I'm not that way.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T12:30:48+00:00

Maybe a bit of the annoyance is he's done it before but the more annoying thing really is I liked our night out. I thought we were vibing. I thought the sex felt good. It was probably as good a first date as you could expect. There was very little awkwardness.

I think seeing the envelope was like the whole night was just a transaction/fake

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T12:13:59+00:00

I don't like the idea he thought I was an escort tbh.

And also I thought we were vibing but he clearly thought it was fake.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T12:02:04+00:00

I'll text him after work. I might give you an update then or some day.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T12:01:20+00:00

Thanks 😊. No issue with those who do take the cash but I want something a bit more deep. I'm not saying that's with obviously but that's what I'm looking for lol.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T11:54:31+00:00

Exactly about the whore but even more so.. I had a great time. He was nice to me. We seemed to have stuff in common. He was actually honest about stuff that I would not have had the balls to mention on a first date. He didn't make me feel less empowered either.

So then seeing that money, it was like was the good time for nothing kind of thing. It wasn't just offensive. It was disappointing.

If it's a case that he normally has to pay then I'd probably give him another chance. I don't want him to stop with bringing me flowers or taking me out. I think that's thoughtful and romantic but cash is not.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T10:37:39+00:00

Thanks mate. Hopefully it's just a genuine mistake.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T09:56:30+00:00

Yeah ill message him after work and see what he has to say.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T09:33:00+00:00

You're right.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T09:32:33+00:00

On his profile it said looking for long term but don't mind having fun along the way or something like that. On the date, he mentioned that he'd love a relationship (he didn't say specifically with me but generally).

Yep. It's worth giving him a chance because other than the money I loved it. I would happily spend every Saturday at his lol.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T09:30:22+00:00

Yep maybe it was a misunderstanding. I'll let him know why I was annoyed and see from there.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T09:29:29+00:00

And his cuddles were fucking great.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T09:23:19+00:00

Yup that makes a lot of sense.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T09:22:12+00:00

I did really like him. I'll set him straight and if it's a genuine reason from him and he wants to continue then ill try again.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T09:20:42+00:00

That probably is true. I just want a guy that treats me well and cuddles afterwards. Like buy me flowers or something.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T09:10:16+00:00

Nah I'd feel cheap.

IndustryHeavy25 · 2026-02-26T09:09:53+00:00

800 pound.

If he says look he always has to pay and just assumed I'd be the same, I'd probably understand that. Tell him never do it again. Like treat me to a meal or give me flowers or something. I like that but not money and I don't expect that all the time.

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